Research by licensed psychotherapist and New York Times bestselling author M. Gary Neuman, suggests that men and women cheat for different reasons: men step out on their spouses because they want approval, and women stray because they want attention.

What's more, both men and women are likely to cheat with someone they already know, but men are more likely than women to have a sexual affair with a stranger.

Given the information above, is it possible to affair-proof your marriage or relationship? Not entirely, says relationship expert Andrea Syrtash.

"The bottom line is that there may be no way to cheat-proof your relationship, though communicating, acknowledging and appreciating each other, and giving physical and emotional attention on a regular basis is a step in the right direction," she says.


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I've seen couples more worried over the possibilities of cheating than the possibilities of their relationship. They are usually clueless as to why the relationship failed in the end.

I suppose an isolated life can 'affair proof' a relationship,, however, I think its more feasible to be honest with our self about who we are with and what their values are,,if they have values,,,

my answer to why people cheat ,,,because they can

because they cross paths with others who dont take commitment as seriously as they do attraction and sex,,,

I never have but I thought about it like your post said it would of been for lack of attention. Fourteen years of marriage never a card anything thought sex was his way

you made me think,,'why' cheat/affair,,at first i thought selfishness, wanting more n more gratification,,then,,a deep desire, need to feel wanted n desired. gracious, there's a whole myriad of thoughts as to why we do what we do,,or want to anyway,,too deep when i just awoke in the middle of the night REALLY just want to go back to sleep n cant!! wink

not sure why people cheat. and honestly as i was once cheated, it stops me from getting into any relationship. now i feel i should only get into relationship when i can become "hurt-proof?!" and when i m ready such that i can move on just the next moment if and when i find that i am being cheated..

I Agree!

That is sad, my ex gave me all kinds of gifts on every occasion. However, he loved to do that for the women in his life. His problem was infidelity which lead to our divorce.

Yeah....cause when I meet that special someone one day, I will want to know the likelihood of her being a cheating biatch. The world has come to such a weird state of affairs these days. Lol.