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Topic: How long do you wait?
singmesweet Joined Mon 07/28/08 Posts: 26661	Thu 04/25/13 10:34 AM
If you meet someone and they give you their number? How long do you wait until you call?

oldhippie1952 Joined Mon 03/14/11 Posts: 22693	Thu 04/25/13 10:42 AM
one day tops. The same night if possible.

Toodygirl5 Joined Fri 10/26/12 Posts: 14830	Thu 04/25/13 03:11 PM
Same day or night.

1Cynderella Joined Mon 02/18/13 Posts: 2398	Thu 04/25/13 03:34 PM
I usually just ask him to call me. BTW...what exactly are we supposed to be waiting for?

HeadnHeart Joined Wed 06/02/10 Posts: 1270	Thu 04/25/13 03:38 PM
I try to call within two days. depends what is up at that time, and how much interest i may have too. I don't think anyone should be sitting and waiting. So nothing Cyn.

1Cynderella Joined Mon 02/18/13 Posts: 2398	Thu 04/25/13 03:44 PM
I try to call within two days. depends what is up at that time, and how much interest i may have too. I don't think anyone should be sitting and waiting. So nothing Cyn. Oh, duh. You're supposed to call in good enough time that she doesn't think you don't want to call her...I get it.

HeadnHeart Joined Wed 06/02/10 Posts: 1270	Thu 04/25/13 03:51 PM
I try to call within two days. depends what is up at that time, and how much interest i may have too. I don't think anyone should be sitting and waiting. So nothing Cyn. Oh, duh. You're supposed to call in good enough time that she doesn't think you don't want to call her...I get it. no gaming on my part, I just create time and call her. Sometimes its sooner, a few times later, but so many other details missing here. So asap. that sound better...

1Cynderella Joined Mon 02/18/13 Posts: 2398	Thu 04/25/13 03:58 PM
I try to call within two days. depends what is up at that time, and how much interest i may have too. I don't think anyone should be sitting and waiting. So nothing Cyn. Oh, duh. You're supposed to call in good enough time that she doesn't think you don't want to call her...I get it. no gaming on my part, I just create time and call her. Sometimes its sooner, a few times later, but so many other details missing here. So asap. that sound better... I thought men sit by the phone trying to resist calling too quickly, cause it might look like they actually like the girl.

TBRich Joined Fri 11/07/08 Posts: 8232	Thu 04/25/13 03:59 PM
I have a coffee table littered with scraps of paper, etc. with phone numbers and no name, so if you gave it to me, you'll be waiting a long long time.

Winlei Joined Sat 01/26/13 Posts: 4048	Thu 04/25/13 04:05 PM
No more waiting because i'll trash the #. The bin will call him.

HeadnHeart Joined Wed 06/02/10 Posts: 1270	Thu 04/25/13 04:08 PM
I try to call within two days. depends what is up at that time, and how much interest i may have too. I don't think anyone should be sitting and waiting. So nothing Cyn. Oh, duh. You're supposed to call in good enough time that she doesn't think you don't want to call her...I get it. no gaming on my part, I just create time and call her. Sometimes its sooner, a few times later, but so many other details missing here. So asap. that sound better... I thought men sit by the phone trying to resist calling too quickly, cause it might look like they actually like the girl. Oh, well there is the problem. I am not much of a sitter or fit the stereotype in every way. I am always doing stuff, so if she wants to join me cool, if not, someone else will.

metalwing Joined Fri 11/14/08 Posts: 26218	Thu 04/25/13 04:27 PM
I was told by more than one that the best time to call is the middle of the week. So the time delay would depend upon when the number was given. Many are busy on weekends so the middle of the week makes some sense. In my history, it seems to work.

ridewytepony Joined Sun 04/14/13 Posts: 3697	Fri 04/26/13 12:00 AM
I was told by more than one that the best time to call is the middle of the week. So the time delay would depend upon when the number was given. Many are busy on weekends so the middle of the week makes some sense. In my history, it seems to work. Yes thats right as far as making a date for the weekend, its considered rude or a fopue' to call later than Wednesday for a date on a friday. I call or txt before they leave my side , because I would feel pretty stupid if I waited a day and She gave me a bogus number, so then I just look stupid insted, then I make her cry n go.! Can I change my answer to a day,

unsure Joined Wed 08/16/06 Posts: 4886	Fri 04/26/13 01:42 AM
My question is this...why is there a waiting period? Is it so you won't look desperate or something? My point is do you really think that person is going to sit around and wait for you to call? If they get a chance to go out with someone else, they won't be sitting home waiting for your call! I myself, would never call a man. IF they can not call me...then we would never talk again. I am really strange about giving out my phone number too. I had a stalker for over 2 years and it was terrifying so not to many people have my number. If a strange guy came up and asked me for number, I probably would not give it to them. If he wanted to give me his...I might call him and block my number BUT I don't even know if I would do that!! My point is....STOP PUTTING A TIME LIMIT ON WHEN YOU ARE SUPPOSE TO CALL SOMEONE, JUST CALL THEM AND LET THEM KNOW YOU ARE INTERESTED! STOP PLAYING GAMES!!!

mg1959 Joined Thu 04/05/07 Posts: 7872	Fri 04/26/13 04:48 AM
My question is this...why is there a waiting period? Is it so you won't look desperate or something? My point is do you really think that person is going to sit around and wait for you to call? If they get a chance to go out with someone else, they won't be sitting home waiting for your call! I myself, would never call a man. IF they can not call me...then we would never talk again. I am really strange about giving out my phone number too. I had a stalker for over 2 years and it was terrifying so not to many people have my number. If a strange guy came up and asked me for number, I probably would not give it to them. If he wanted to give me his...I might call him and block my number BUT I don't even know if I would do that!! My point is....STOP PUTTING A TIME LIMIT ON WHEN YOU ARE SUPPOSE TO CALL SOMEONE, JUST CALL THEM AND LET THEM KNOW YOU ARE INTERESTED! STOP PLAYING GAMES!!! Good answer! What's up with the games folks? I believe (could be wrong) that this type of thing was something for high school. OP, you mean adults play this stuff too? See this goes back (for me) to a lot of these threads about dating games that I see as a little on the imature side of things. I read this stuff and have to check my date of birth again to see if I have missed something by 30 years or so. If someone is 20ish I can see why these types of things are still on their minds but do people over their teens really operate this way?

sweetestgirl11 Joined Fri 09/12/08 Posts: 30087	Fri 04/26/13 06:20 AM
usually I don't unless I am interested. Generally I prefer he call but I don't give him my number unless I am interested, and my phone is almost always on silent now so I have to adjust to keep from appearing rude. but if it's just some random guy who hands me his # I usually do not call

1Cynderella Joined Mon 02/18/13 Posts: 2398	Fri 04/26/13 06:51 AM Edited by 1Cynderella on Fri 04/26/13 06:55 AM
My question is this...why is there a waiting period? Is it so you won't look desperate or something? My point is do you really think that person is going to sit around and wait for you to call? If they get a chance to go out with someone else, they won't be sitting home waiting for your call! I myself, would never call a man. IF they can not call me...then we would never talk again. I am really strange about giving out my phone number too. I had a stalker for over 2 years and it was terrifying so not to many people have my number. If a strange guy came up and asked me for number, I probably would not give it to them. If he wanted to give me his...I might call him and block my number BUT I don't even know if I would do that!! My point is....STOP PUTTING A TIME LIMIT ON WHEN YOU ARE SUPPOSE TO CALL SOMEONE, JUST CALL THEM AND LET THEM KNOW YOU ARE INTERESTED! STOP PLAYING GAMES!!! Stalkers are worse than outright assaults. I don't give my number easily, but by the time I do, I end up making them hate me for never being available to talk or text with them because I'm on my phone on business most the day...and night.

singmesweet Joined Mon 07/28/08 Posts: 26661	Fri 04/26/13 06:56 AM
I try to call within two days. depends what is up at that time, and how much interest i may have too. I don't think anyone should be sitting and waiting. So nothing Cyn. Ah, ok. If you're more interested, it will be in the beginning of those two days and less interested, it will be toward the end?

sweetestgirl11 Joined Fri 09/12/08 Posts: 30087	Fri 04/26/13 07:01 AM
My question is this...why is there a waiting period? Is it so you won't look desperate or something? My point is do you really think that person is going to sit around and wait for you to call? If they get a chance to go out with someone else, they won't be sitting home waiting for your call! I myself, would never call a man. IF they can not call me...then we would never talk again. I am really strange about giving out my phone number too. I had a stalker for over 2 years and it was terrifying so not to many people have my number. If a strange guy came up and asked me for number, I probably would not give it to them. If he wanted to give me his...I might call him and block my number BUT I don't even know if I would do that!! My point is....STOP PUTTING A TIME LIMIT ON WHEN YOU ARE SUPPOSE TO CALL SOMEONE, JUST CALL THEM AND LET THEM KNOW YOU ARE INTERESTED! STOP PLAYING GAMES!!! Stalkers are worse than outright assaults. I don't give my number easily, but by the time I do, I end up making them hate me for never being available to talk or text with them because I'm on my phone on business most the day...and night. right I am also on the phone all day so I really prefer other means of communication outside of work and make most calls (personal calls) pretty short

krupa Joined Thu 07/03/08 Posts: 18651	Fri 04/26/13 07:21 AM
Why would you wait? Just call. If ya get shot down.....you are no more alone than before the call. Or... Ya got someone to talk to. I don't see the point of hesitating to reach out for what you want.