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Topic: A woman's obsession to look slim
sweetestgirl11 Joined Fri 09/12/08 Posts: 30087	Fri 04/26/13 07:08 PM
no weight is related to health especially as one ages, so my efforts to control my weight are health related. I don't really see any change in male attention since I've lost weight so I don't think it's a primary factor in their choices even tho many state it is I'm glad you are. I support anyone who would want to shed a few pounds, for a smattering of reasons too numerious to mention. It was just a thought, provoked by the fashion statement, "wearing black makes a woman look slimmer." it does have a slimming effect but the line and cut of the cloth are also important - for example- horizontal seams and striping, or horizontal trims can have the effect of adding pounds visually even if the cloth is mostly a darker color like black or navy

Jeanniebean Joined Wed 01/30/08 Posts: 40028	Fri 04/26/13 07:19 PM
I know most women want to look slim. Do you pick men that are clearly heavier than you, so that you look thinner, together? No, but I have met men who are sloppy and over weight who make cracks at women who are overweight, and only want to date thinner women. Which I think is odd.

Dodo_David Joined Fri 08/13/10 Posts: 48947	Fri 04/26/13 07:39 PM
The OP contains an ethnocentric statement. Most women want to look slim? In which nations? There are places in Africa where a slim woman is considered to be unhealthy. Last time I checked, I thought I was in North America. The last time that I checked, Mingle2 is an international website, with members on every continent except Antarctica. A female Mingle2 member in Africa alerted me to the fact that a woman in Africa is considered to be unhealthy if she isn't curvy.

afriQueen22 Joined Tue 10/25/11 Posts: 527	Fri 04/26/13 08:44 PM
I know a lot of thin girls who prefer to date bulkier guys, not because they look better but because of the sense of protection and the fact that they say it just looks better for some reason. Oh and they say, fat guys try harder to please them. Weight as well as age, have never really affected my decision to date a guy. It's more to do with whether u interest me or not. To me, I don't think dating a big guy would make me look skinnier, infact I think the general idea would be, "oh, look at this unhealthy couple". And the part of me that is weight concious and cares what other people think is also saying, I couldn't date a guy skinnier than me because it would look like a toothpick and a potato standing side by side. Thank gosh, that part of me is in a very deep, dark corner of my brain, only to be brought out hissing and spitting when answering such threads.

Dodo_David Joined Fri 08/13/10 Posts: 48947	Fri 04/26/13 08:47 PM
I couldn't date a guy skinnier than me because it would look like a toothpick and a potato standing side by side. afriQueen22, if you are a potato, then you are a sweet potato.

afriQueen22 Joined Tue 10/25/11 Posts: 527	Fri 04/26/13 08:59 PM
I couldn't date a guy skinnier than me because it would look like a toothpick and a potato standing side by side. afriQueen22, if you are a potato, then you are a sweet potato. Aren't you a regular cup of sugar???! Thank you for making me smile :)

jacktrades Joined Tue 09/11/12 Posts: 4395	Fri 04/26/13 09:06 PM
I couldn't date a guy skinnier than me because it would look like a toothpick and a potato standing side by side. afriQueen22, if you are a potato, then you are a sweet potato. I agree she is a sweet potato for sure!

dmckinnon Joined Tue 03/19/13 Posts: 323	Sat 04/27/13 02:10 AM
I feel for people who are overweight, because I know what a struggle that can be. It isn't always women who struggle with the weight thing. I used to be heavier than I am now. I lost about eighty pounds, because I finally got tired of it and started exercising regularly. You have to keep at it. It's all about willpower.

afriQueen22 Joined Tue 10/25/11 Posts: 527	Sat 04/27/13 02:15 AM
I couldn't date a guy skinnier than me because it would look like a toothpick and a potato standing side by side. afriQueen22, if you are a potato, then you are a sweet potato. I agree she is a sweet potato for sure! Aaaw! Thank you!!!! You're quite fine fellas yourselves! Great people!

krupa Joined Thu 07/03/08 Posts: 18651	Sat 04/27/13 06:03 AM
Yep....that is what Mingle is about.....good people. There are a few dousches....but...there are more good people who are friends.

Christinacospgs Joined Sun 04/27/08 Posts: 6376	Sat 04/27/13 08:45 AM
Yep....that is what Mingle is about.....good people. There are a few dousches....but...there are more good people who are friends.

1Cynderella Joined Mon 02/18/13 Posts: 2398	Sat 04/27/13 11:37 AM
no weight is related to health especially as one ages, so my efforts to control my weight are health related. I don't really see any change in male attention since I've lost weight so I don't think it's a primary factor in their choices even tho many state it is Exactly! We don't get to live forever, so might as well stay healthy enough to enjoy it while we're here! I don't see a relation either. I have much heavier friends who are approached more than our thinner friends..so...don't think so.

msharmony Joined Mon 08/31/09 Posts: 61041	Sat 04/27/13 12:20 PM
I know most women want to look slim. Do you pick men that are clearly heavier than you, so that you look thinner, together? No, but I have met men who are sloppy and over weight who make cracks at women who are overweight, and only want to date thinner women. Which I think is odd. u get a high five on that one,,, I always wondered the same thing although I mostly see that scenario on daytime talk shows,,,,,these imperfect people expecting perfect partners,,,

msharmony Joined Mon 08/31/09 Posts: 61041	Sat 04/27/13 04:46 PM
I know most women want to look slim. Do you pick men that are clearly heavier than you, so that you look thinner, together? No, but I have met men who are sloppy and over weight who make cracks at women who are overweight, and only want to date thinner women. Which I think is odd. u get a high five on that one,,, I always wondered the same thing although I mostly see that scenario on daytime talk shows,,,,,these imperfect people expecting perfect partners,,, btw do you think women avoid slimmer men any more often than men avoid women born in the same decade as they were...lol... just pondering,,,,,

Toodygirl5 Joined Fri 10/26/12 Posts: 14956	Sat 04/27/13 05:08 PM
I know most women want to look slim. Do you pick men that are clearly heavier than you, so that you look thinner, together? I do not pick men by how heavy they are. I am not heavy but I am not thin either. Most Men pick women by their figure.

Jennerling Joined Wed 10/14/09 Posts: 5492	Sat 04/27/13 05:14 PM Edited by Jennerling on Sat 04/27/13 05:15 PM
Sexy???

Jennerling Joined Wed 10/14/09 Posts: 5492	Sat 04/27/13 05:15 PM Edited by Jennerling on Sat 04/27/13 05:16 PM
I'd tap that

Dodo_David Joined Fri 08/13/10 Posts: 48947	Sat 04/27/13 05:24 PM
I know most women want to look slim. Do you pick men that are clearly heavier than you, so that you look thinner, together? I do not pick men by how heavy they are. I am not heavy but I am not thin either. Most Men pick women by their figure. Do you have evidence that most men pick women by their figure?

Toodygirl5 Joined Fri 10/26/12 Posts: 14956	Sat 04/27/13 05:29 PM
I know most women want to look slim. Do you pick men that are clearly heavier than you, so that you look thinner, together? No, but I have met men who are sloppy and over weight who make cracks at women who are overweight, and only want to date thinner women. Which I think is odd. I have seen this too. Matter of fact online men usually ask for more photos of me and also full lenghth. I am talking to a gentleman now and he is not thin, but he wants an attrative not heavy woman. So, I had to send him one PM, He said WOW..you look nice. LOL

Toodygirl5 Joined Fri 10/26/12 Posts: 14956	Sat 04/27/13 05:37 PM
I know most women want to look slim. Do you pick men that are clearly heavier than you, so that you look thinner, together? I do not pick men by how heavy they are. I am not heavy but I am not thin either. Most Men pick women by their figure. Do you have evidence that most men pick women by their figure? Yes, I would say so. But I never had a problem because I always had a great figure til a few years ago.