it TOTALLY depends upon the individual and what triggers have been conditioned in them regarding how love of bonding are linked to sex

some dont have that psyhcological trigger that requires sex for bonding or for love, and probably wouldnt REQUIRE sex to be fulfilled in a relationship (not to be confused with not requiring physical intimacy)

most probably do have that trigger though,,,

again, think about it for a few minutes... just like anything else, it's a yes or no question... when i see a pretty lady, the first thing i think of is sex, but my self control will keep me in check...

Love is the most important thing in a relationship to make it work, that´s the main ingredient, but sex is part of the package too, if not I agree that it would be just a friendship.

Now, till when it´s going to happen (having sex), that´s a different thing. That will depend on the couple ideology, believes and likes. It´s ok to wait, it´s ok to jump in the sack right away. Sex is not only penetration, it covers many different things to do with your partner to give both pleasure one way or another, starting by kissing, foreplay or other methods to physically satisfy your partner and yourself.

If I´m with someone I expect to feel satisfied in every aspect of the relationship. Being emotionally, mentally and physically connected with him. If some aspect of those three doesn´t work then I wouldn´t be there, but that´s just me.

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If both people are capable of intercourse then yes, I think it's pretty important in the long run. If there's a physical limitation, then other forms of physically intimacy still take center stage in the "sex" department. (There are many ways to share pleasure, after all.) If two people who are capable of some type of physical intimacyaren't engaging in it, then to me that just seems like friendship more than anything. Once desire goes out the window, IMO it's a sign that something's wrong. (The exception might be a physical or mental ailment that impedes desire and is difficult or impossible to treat... and then there's a need to work together to make sure no one feels either dissatisfied or pressured.)

Wow, that sure isn't how sex works in my world. Nothing about dominance or possession about it for me.

It depends on your mate. If they are not on board then its a deal breaker.

Wat sud i say

As said before, it all depends on the people. For me, sex is essential in a relationship. It is directly proportional to the intensity of my feelings.

However, if I'm in a relationship and my partner doesn't want to have sex, I don't look down on them for it, there's nothing wrong with that, I just wouldn't be able to be in a relationship with that person.

Relationship without sex is like a mango without seed or a dry sugarcane after abstracting the juices. Ha ha

You seeing some random lady you find attractive is different than you being in a relationship.

It appears to be important to every woman I have dated. And I have noticed a difference as I have aged- I work a lot and have a tendency to fall asleep at the drop of a hat; years ago, most women would just roll over, climb on top and easey peasey for me, in fact I usually woke up to participate Nowadays, I get shaken awake and verbal demands for sex. One woman woke me up at 3am, demanding sex, well why didn't you say something seven hours ago? I tried to get up, roll over and promptly fell on the floor and couldn't get up- I told her apparently I was too tired and slept on the floor. Then I get labeled with "you just don't like sex" and I can't be in a relationship without it.

i guess, but the thought process is the same for me... the thought of sex will never control my actions, relationship or not... but i guess i should say that i don't really like sex unless the woman wants me, not just sex...in that case, she can find someone else..

of course it's neccesary.you wouldn't eat french fries without ketchup would you?why have a relationship without sex in it?

LOL... I'll take my fries without ketchup. But I'm not eating them in bed. I want to do more interesting things there.

fries without ketchup is like tea without sugar.both are un-american

There is a difference between what a person desires in a relationship and what a person needs in a relationship.

When my late wife and I were dating, she and I desired to "go all the way", but she and I didn't need to do so. The two of us had a great romance that did not involve sexual intercourse. We were able to refrain from sexual intercourse until we were married.

I know plenty of happily-married couples who did as my late wife and I did during the dating stage of their relationships.

I realize that plenty of people here desire to have sexual intercourse without getting married first. I am not saying that they should wait until marriage. I don't hold anyone else accountable to the standards that I personally follow.

However, I object if someone tells single people that they must have sexual intercourse in order to have a romantic relationship, because I know that such a claim is false.

Hai cute gurl

This thread was about the importance of sex in relationships. So, I would think that if a woman was in a relationship with you, she'd want you.

But either way, wanting sex does not mean sex controls you. It can simply mean you want and enjoy sex.

I don't eat ketchup with fries and I don't drink tea. But I do like sex.