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Topic: Shouting it from the rooftops
Leigh2154 Joined Sun 10/02/11 Posts: 16479	Mon 04/01/13 05:25 AM
Michael loves Pepper! Ok baby, need to go outside for a pee? Hi Pepper! ...Morning Michael! ...

mg1959 Joined Thu 04/05/07 Posts: 7872	Mon 04/01/13 05:52 AM
Michael loves Pepper! Ok baby, need to go outside for a pee? Hi Pepper! ...Morning Michael! ... Morning love! Actually Pepper has to stay in Ohio for the summer (rips my heart out), but I'll tell her you said hi. She wants to have a double with you and the manO. Daddy booked 5 months of travel so that means I'll only get to visit her.

Leigh2154 Joined Sun 10/02/11 Posts: 16479	Mon 04/01/13 06:07 AM
Michael loves Pepper! Ok baby, need to go outside for a pee? Hi Pepper! ...Morning Michael! ... Morning love! Actually Pepper has to stay in Ohio for the summer (rips my heart out), but I'll tell her you said hi. She wants to have a double with you and the manO. Daddy booked 5 months of travel so that means I'll only get to visit her. Don't know If I could leave my girl for five months!...Does that 5 month schedule include Nashville?...

GreenEyes48 Joined Thu 08/26/10 Posts: 1319	Mon 04/01/13 07:54 AM
Some people may wrap their image and identity around being "romantic." But I tend to wrap my identity around being "credible." And this involves doing a lot of "looking" before I "leap.".. And taking a "wait and see" approach before I make any final decisions or judgements...It's all a process to me. I don't want to base everything on initial "surface appearances." It takes time to get to know people...I want to do my "homework" first before I get out the megaphone and tell the whole world that I have fallen in love..I want to be "sure" in other words so I don't risk my "credibility." And people don't put me in the category of the little boy who keeps "crying wolf." (Or announcing that the "sky is falling" etc.)

GreenEyes48 Joined Thu 08/26/10 Posts: 1319	Mon 04/01/13 08:22 AM
Love is a very special thing that happens between two people but some people feel the need not just to share that with each other and live in their own little world together and they have to tell the whole world about it. Does making what was a very private and personal thing public devalue it and make it feel less intimate and romantic No, I do not think that making it public would devalue it at all. Why would it? Because you are talking about something special that you shared with someone special and I think that it being something that just the two of you share together is what makes it special. I agree with DaySinner that it can break the magic. What makes it romantic in the first place? I am interested in the psychology of romantic love and that is what I am trying to explore with this topic. There is a difference between just telling other people that you love somebody and telling them why you love them. The former is easy to understand but the latter is not and it is just not going to be as meaningful to other people as it is to you. In some cases people will be unable to understand it at all and the process of talking about it might make you realise that you don't really understand it either or that what made it meaningful to you is conversely something that other people can understand but it isn't really that special or unique. There is also the fact that when we do this we will try to put it into language that we think other people will understand. An example of this would be a guy boasting to his friends about how he had sex with someone. He is likely to talk about it in a way that isn't going to make it sound too soppy if he doesn't want his friends to think that he's soppy. Or if he is a soppy "romantic" he might talk about it in a soppy way because he is concerned about how he appears to others. We all wear masks in one way or another and have public personas. We are social beings and language always gets its meaning through the social context. I agree with you...There's "group think" and there's also "group speak" too. And someone from the "outside" may not know the "lingo" or customs of each particular group or sub-culture. (Or all the expectations etc.).. So I definitely agree with you when it comes to social-context.

mg1959 Joined Thu 04/05/07 Posts: 7872	Wed 04/03/13 06:24 AM
Michael loves Pepper! Ok baby, need to go outside for a pee? Hi Pepper! ...Morning Michael! ... Morning love! Actually Pepper has to stay in Ohio for the summer (rips my heart out), but I'll tell her you said hi. She wants to have a double with you and the manO. Daddy booked 5 months of travel so that means I'll only get to visit her. Don't know If I could leave my girl for five months!...Does that 5 month schedule include Nashville?... I wish! I was booked in Chicago.

singmesweet Joined Mon 07/28/08 Posts: 26661	Wed 04/03/13 06:37 AM Edited by singmesweet on Wed 04/03/13 06:38 AM
Love is a very special thing that happens between two people but some people feel the need not just to share that with each other and live in their own little world together and they have to tell the whole world about it. Does making what was a very private and personal thing public devalue it and make it feel less intimate and romantic No, I do not think that making it public would devalue it at all. Why would it? Because you are talking about something special that you shared with someone special and I think that it being something that just the two of you share together is what makes it special. I agree with DaySinner that it can break the magic. What makes it romantic in the first place? I am interested in the psychology of romantic love and that is what I am trying to explore with this topic. There is a difference between just telling other people that you love somebody and telling them why you love them. The former is easy to understand but the latter is not and it is just not going to be as meaningful to other people as it is to you. In some cases people will be unable to understand it at all and the process of talking about it might make you realise that you don't really understand it either or that what made it meaningful to you is conversely something that other people can understand but it isn't really that special or unique. There is also the fact that when we do this we will try to put it into language that we think other people will understand. An example of this would be a guy boasting to his friends about how he had sex with someone. He is likely to talk about it in a way that isn't going to make it sound too soppy if he doesn't want his friends to think that he's soppy. Or if he is a soppy "romantic" he might talk about it in a soppy way because he is concerned about how he appears to others. We all wear masks in one way or another and have public personas. We are social beings and language always gets its meaning through the social context. I completely disagree. We live in a world with other people and share things that are important to us. Just because we share about what's going on does not mean it will devalue it, lose it's magic or anything silly like that. Hiding away from the world isn't necessarily going to keep things more important.

TawtStrat Joined Fri 11/16/12 Posts: 3581	Wed 04/03/13 07:45 AM
Love is a very special thing that happens between two people but some people feel the need not just to share that with each other and live in their own little world together and they have to tell the whole world about it. Does making what was a very private and personal thing public devalue it and make it feel less intimate and romantic No, I do not think that making it public would devalue it at all. Why would it? Because you are talking about something special that you shared with someone special and I think that it being something that just the two of you share together is what makes it special. I agree with DaySinner that it can break the magic. What makes it romantic in the first place? I am interested in the psychology of romantic love and that is what I am trying to explore with this topic. There is a difference between just telling other people that you love somebody and telling them why you love them. The former is easy to understand but the latter is not and it is just not going to be as meaningful to other people as it is to you. In some cases people will be unable to understand it at all and the process of talking about it might make you realise that you don't really understand it either or that what made it meaningful to you is conversely something that other people can understand but it isn't really that special or unique. There is also the fact that when we do this we will try to put it into language that we think other people will understand. An example of this would be a guy boasting to his friends about how he had sex with someone. He is likely to talk about it in a way that isn't going to make it sound too soppy if he doesn't want his friends to think that he's soppy. Or if he is a soppy "romantic" he might talk about it in a soppy way because he is concerned about how he appears to others. We all wear masks in one way or another and have public personas. We are social beings and language always gets its meaning through the social context. I completely disagree. We live in a world with other people and share things that are important to us. Just because we share about what's going on does not mean it will devalue it, lose it's magic or anything silly like that. Hiding away from the world isn't necessarily going to keep things more important. I wanted an argument but this is just contradiction.

singmesweet Joined Mon 07/28/08 Posts: 26661	Wed 04/03/13 07:49 AM
I wanted an argument but this is just contradiction.

Leigh2154 Joined Sun 10/02/11 Posts: 16479	Wed 04/03/13 07:57 AM
I wanted an argument but this is just contradiction. Sorry Sing, but it was funny!!

Torgo70 Joined Fri 06/27/08 Posts: 27387	Wed 04/03/13 08:04 AM
People should show love any way they want, whether it be shouting it from a rooftop, or tattooing the one they love's name on their [Censored By Mingle].

Leigh2154 Joined Sun 10/02/11 Posts: 16479	Wed 04/03/13 08:10 AM
People should show love any way they want, whether it be shouting it from a rooftop, or tattooing the one they love's name on their [Censored By Mingle]. azz?...

singmesweet Joined Mon 07/28/08 Posts: 26661	Wed 04/03/13 08:11 AM
I wanted an argument but this is just contradiction. Sorry Sing, but it was funny!! I know he likes to argue, but I was just looking to give my opinion.

Leigh2154 Joined Sun 10/02/11 Posts: 16479	Wed 04/03/13 08:14 AM
I wanted an argument but this is just contradiction. Sorry Sing, but it was funny!! I know he likes to argue, but I was just looking to give my opinion. I know that and you know that and in due time Tawt will know that! ...

Goofball73 Joined Mon 11/05/07 Posts: 33913	Wed 04/03/13 08:31 AM
You see people professing their love, especially if it is a new relationship, on Facebook. I see it all the time. Hell, I have a cousin who falls in love with a new boyfriend about once every three weeks.

krupa Joined Thu 07/03/08 Posts: 18651	Wed 04/03/13 09:08 AM
Love is a very special thing that happens between two people but some people feel the need not just to share that with each other and live in their own little world together and they have to tell the whole world about it. Does making what was a very private and personal thing public devalue it and make it feel less intimate and romantic Not unless you are an amature with no idea what the hell you are doing. Professing the love I got for my wench is strictly to give you guys hope. I know damned well it can be done....but...some cro mags require reassurance to know if it is alright to say you love someone in public. They are doomed. Those of us with the nuts to just flop our hearts out there...win... Everytime.

msharmony Joined Mon 08/31/09 Posts: 61041	Wed 04/03/13 09:42 AM
Love is a very special thing that happens between two people but some people feel the need not just to share that with each other and live in their own little world together and they have to tell the whole world about it. Does making what was a very private and personal thing public devalue it and make it feel less intimate and romantic I dont consider love to necessarily be private. I think its natural to want to share our joy with others, and if that source is another person, a relationship, a new job, a new home, a promotion we want to share the 'good news' I think it only devalues it if it is INTENDED to validate the news or force approval of the news from others

KiK2me Joined Sun 01/06/13 Posts: 8732	Wed 04/03/13 09:58 AM
With my luck if i went to shout it from the rooftops I would fall off and break my arm.....

Leigh2154 Joined Sun 10/02/11 Posts: 16479	Wed 04/03/13 10:17 AM
Love is a very special thing that happens between two people but some people feel the need not just to share that with each other and live in their own little world together and they have to tell the whole world about it. Does making what was a very private and personal thing public devalue it and make it feel less intimate and romantic I dont consider love to necessarily be private. I think its natural to want to share our joy with others, and if that source is another person, a relationship, a new job, a new home, a promotion we want to share the 'good news' I think it only devalues it if it is INTENDED to validate the news or force approval of the news from others Good point Harmony!

Goofball73 Joined Mon 11/05/07 Posts: 33913	Wed 04/03/13 11:26 AM
Love is a very special thing that happens between two people but some people feel the need not just to share that with each other and live in their own little world together and they have to tell the whole world about it. Does making what was a very private and personal thing public devalue it and make it feel less intimate and romantic I dont consider love to necessarily be private. I think its natural to want to share our joy with others, and if that source is another person, a relationship, a new job, a new home, a promotion we want to share the 'good news' I think it only devalues it if it is INTENDED to validate the news or force approval of the news from others I get the feeling that most people want the good news to validate their own life. For example. A person posts on Facebook about how they love their spouse, how the world revolves around him/her and all that other mushy stuff. That's nice and very sweet and if it is true then it's great that that couple has a relationship like that. However, I have found that most people who post comments like that have a relationship or marriage that is unhappy and yet they will try to save face in the public eye. Why do that? What's the point? I think it is awesome to see a happy couple holding hands in public. Hell, if they act silly in public then you know they are happy together. Using social media to express your bliss is great too. But don't go overboard with it.