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There is nothing wrong with you cheryline. He might have ptsd or something, you can never tell, I consider it his loss. Thankyou sir Maybe he found a new gal,American gals are sweeter after all Cheryline22, you are wrong. Girls in Malaysia are just as sweet. Like others here, I suspect that you have been dealing with a scam artist. I have already learned what it takes for someone in your part of the world to gain permission to enter the USA, and it isn't easy. Maybe at last he realised I was too innocent so decided not to scam my money or he found a 'bigger fish' for some real cash? Thanks anyway for ur input |
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You seem like a sincere person. If I could find someone like you id be over the moon. I'm a single parent and it's almost impossible to find someone right for me and my girls. You'll find someone soon. Good luck x
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I was getting close to a guy overseas once. One day he just disapeared but did show up a couple of weeks later,he was very hurt that I hadn't even sent one email to see how he is. Apparently he had gotten sick and ended up in the Hospital, same thing happened with another guy I was friends with overseas. You just never know whats going on.
I didn't email him because I thought he had found someone closer and didn't want to tell me. Things like that happen all the time. Its not always good to assume. |
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This had happened to me twice, meet a guy online, you hit it off, chat all the time and POOF! He disappears for a couple of weeks or a month or so.
Both times they came back with very valid reasons for why they just disappeared but the connection was just never there again. Anyhoo, so basically what I'm saying is that, something could have genuinely come up. Although I can't fathom why a person can't take two seconds to send you a message saying, "Sorry, I'm not going to be around for a while"; it could be a case of, like with one of my guys that he is seriously ill or something. The downside of internet dating is that you never know what's going on in that person's life outside of the net. Hope he comes back to you! If not, I hope cupid brings you someone who will stay :) |
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You should be cautious however if you both never exchanged info then maybe he thought he would travel there and not meet someone and be stuck. Give him a chance but if he won't give you all his info move on he's a player. Good luck young lady and by the way your wrong about american girls your just as sweet over there. God bless
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I was getting close to a guy overseas once. One day he just disapeared but did show up a couple of weeks later,he was very hurt that I hadn't even sent one email to see how he is. Apparently he had gotten sick and ended up in the Hospital, same thing happened with another guy I was friends with overseas. You just never know whats going on. I didn't email him because I thought he had found someone closer and didn't want to tell me. Things like that happen all the time. Its not always good to assume. Hmm, I did send him msg on the dating site we met but no response frm him [Shrug]I've deactivated the acc |
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I was getting close to a guy overseas once. One day he just disapeared but did show up a couple of weeks later,he was very hurt that I hadn't even sent one email to see how he is. Apparently he had gotten sick and ended up in the Hospital, same thing happened with another guy I was friends with overseas. You just never know whats going on. I didn't email him because I thought he had found someone closer and didn't want to tell me. Things like that happen all the time. Its not always good to assume. Hmm, I did send him msg on the dating site we met but no response frm him [Shrug]I've deactivated the acc |
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This had happened to me twice, meet a guy online, you hit it off, chat all the time and POOF! He disappears for a couple of weeks or a month or so. Both times they came back with very valid reasons for why they just disappeared but the connection was just never there again. Anyhoo, so basically what I'm saying is that, something could have genuinely come up. Although I can't fathom why a person can't take two seconds to send you a message saying, "Sorry, I'm not going to be around for a while"; it could be a case of, like with one of my guys that he is seriously ill or something. The downside of internet dating is that you never know what's going on in that person's life outside of the net. Hope he comes back to you! If not, I hope cupid brings you someone who will stay :) Totally agree with you,they should hv atleast informed us by all means Be4 he disappeared he would tell me in advance when he wouldnt be online for some reason,anyway am not hopin him to show up,and let's hope we both find the right one Thx sweetie |
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You should be cautious however if you both never exchanged info then maybe he thought he would travel there and not meet someone and be stuck. Give him a chance but if he won't give you all his info move on he's a player. Good luck young lady and by the way your wrong about american girls your just as sweet over there. God bless Not even sure if the info he gave was authentic one.. I've moved on,thx and God bless you too:) |
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I've been talkin to a guy from somewhere rather far from me for a month or so. We chatted every day and night(when I woke up and about to sleep)(my day is his nite,my nite is his day)..he planned to come to visit me right after we started talkin but I was busy with my test so I told him come after my test,he agreed and he's counting the day with me everytime we talkd,everythin seemed fine,he even told me tht he has booked the ticket in advance,he told me the date of his arrival and stuff but suddenly he just sort of disappeared the week before he supposed to come..the last conversation we had was he sent me a hello but I slept off and didn't reply then I never hear frm him again (We talked via msn)he gave his number to me on msn but I didn't save it Am really confused,and its been more than 2weeks,silence,no news..why guys change their mind like girls change the clothes??WHY? Why do girls change their clothes like guys change their mind? Give me a credible answer for that and i will answer ur question |
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moving on is probably best.
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Seems like u have made up ur mind when i read some of ur posts. So why post any advice?
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Well...I was seeing this guy for awhile almost 2 years ago when he had decided to head down to Mexico by car for a vacation. I hadnt heard a word from him in over a month. I had emailed him a few times to see if he was ok and not a word back. I tried his phone but I kept getting messages saying his phone was not in service. I got really worried.
What happened was, he had decided to travel further and into South America and his cell had no service, he told me that he just wanted to relax and have some peace so he never bothered about his phone until he got back. The next time he did this, a few months later, and didn't hear a word from him, he got upset that I hadn't emailed or tried to get ahold of him. Why bother lol What he may have actually been doing down there is anyones guess. He told me he once worked as a body guard for a high Government official somewhere in south america. |
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What you describe sounds like the typical scammer/player routine that men practice on unsuspecting women online. When I first joined a dating site 6 months ago, a scammer befriended me too, and we talked for over 2 months while he kept asking me to loan him money, find out travel data for him, etc... I sensed that he was a scammer and never gave him anything he asked for, but because I was writing a story about my new experiences online, I let the connection run its natural course... Then, a couple months later I happened to be on another dating site checking my messages, and that site actually matched me with him, but, he wasn't the same man now, his profile picture was the same, but he was using a different name and residential location, so just by luck I was able to finish my story on him with the actual proof I needed to make it factual. Moral of this short story.. Now that you've had this one experience, the next time a man online starts running this same scenario with you, your red flags should tell you to be very careful, even steer clear... and be thankful the first guy didn't rip you off for anything but your time... P.S. if your friend turns out to be a sincere individual that is merely offended because you didn't chase after him, and he does contact you again, it would be so cool if you could give us an update, so we can see if he's for real and just self centered, or if he's a scammer/player... He could be scammer I dnt knw but he never asked me for loan or anythin He offered me to come to Colorado(where he stays),but I said its too risky better you come to me if you want to. Then he said its fine and he always asked if he could come earlier,but I said my exams meant a lot and I wouldn't hv time for him,so he said fine..then he started doin research about hotel near my area,basically I just told him some spot he might like then he did the research then we both agreed which hotel he shld be stayin..when we talked we talked about his family,my family,his daily routine,shared abt thing he learnt in meditation class etc,sometimes when I didn't come online he will email me.. We met on another dating site..jst weird tht he didn't say anythin and decided to stay silent on me What you are describing is exactly how the scammer operated with me... he even gave me his cell phone number so we could talk offline... and he didn't start asking me for anything until 5 weeks into our communication... he was very smooth, and convincing... I had just divorced my husband of 18 yrs and was emotionally distraught, so this very kind stranger knew how to say all the right things to bring a smile back to my heart. He told me all about his life and his tragedies so that I would feel pity for him too. After he felt comfortable, or thought I was comfortable with him, he began whining about having financial difficulties, and suddenly, one day he calls me and tells me he needs money quickly to get out of a jam... well, my ex was late on his alimony payments, and I was upset about that... so there was no way I was going to help some strange man out, especially when it's normally the women asking men for help, not the other way around... When it comes to your guy, if he's not a true scammer, maybe he found another woman to talk too, and just didn't know how to tell you he was moving on... no matter what his ultimate story is, if he doesn't contact you again you won't get closure unless you just put him out of your mind, and learn from the experience.. Personally, I think you are very wise not to have went to him when he first asked you too, because now you can see how he really is... and who knows if he would have left you stranded in Colorado if things didn't work out between you two... You're a very pretty lady, and any man would be crazy not to want you interested in him, after the two of you have gotten as close as you have... unless he's got something else going on... so, out of sight, out of mind is the best scenario now... We always chatted online,the only time he gave me his number was when I told him I was feeling bad so he said he could call me if I want I said its ok so he gave me his number sayin whenever I wanna talk I can always phone him, Most time he just sent me pic of wat he is doin,(when he got a new table,baked some bread,the place he went biking etc)he said he just out of military so he wanna take a break be4 findin a new job,and he never like talkin about his family esp his mother but I liked to ask questions.. We never been together,just dnt get it why suddenly just lost contact without a word Thx sweety for ur comfort:) You are actually better off that he ended contact abruptly... and the level of disrespect he has shown you by the way he has conducted himself, should allow you the umbrage to remove him from all your memory banks... and if he contacts you again, you can honestly say that you don't remember him, and that you won't talk to him further, because he is a stranger... 
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I've been talkin to a guy from somewhere rather far from me for a month or so. We chatted every day and night(when I woke up and about to sleep)(my day is his nite,my nite is his day)..he planned to come to visit me right after we started talkin but I was busy with my test so I told him come after my test,he agreed and he's counting the day with me everytime we talkd,everythin seemed fine,he even told me tht he has booked the ticket in advance,he told me the date of his arrival and stuff but suddenly he just sort of disappeared the week before he supposed to come..the last conversation we had was he sent me a hello but I slept off and didn't reply then I never hear frm him again (We talked via msn)he gave his number to me on msn but I didn't save it Am really confused,and its been more than 2weeks,silence,no news..why guys change their mind like girls change the clothes??WHY? Whatever this guys intentions were towards you, better to find out sooner rather than later that he is going to disappear, he has certainly shown his true colours. You were very wise in not wanting to travel to another country to meet him. I think the way he has recently treated you says it all, and I would waste no further time on him. |
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perhaps he is feeling the same way too,, never know if you lost his number, you clearly havent contacted him either,, even after he had booked tickets to see you,,, just never know, could be a scam, could be something happened to him, or he could just be sensitive to not having been contacted by you Agree Harmony...There could be lots of reasons, even fear or a case of nerves  I would think a "scammer" would have hit her up for a dime toward travel arrangements too...Every lost connection should not be blamed on scamming or players...Too negative.... Most likely reason from what I heard is the failed attempt to meet kind of set things back... on something that was not hugely likely to gel to begin with in his opinion. You prolly want to firm up meeting if you wanted to keep it together |
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