Why do people say looks should not be important? Human live by their six senses and our sight is our go to first. Looks are part of our subconscious mind that sees a healthy mate, where as our conscious mind sees it as beauty or sexy. The visual looks are not just to us humans. Many animals like peacocks display its feathers at times to attract a mate. Some birds use a dance to attract a mate to come over and check them and their nest out.

Looks are like a warm use to bring the fish in close, but your personality is what will hook the mate you desire. Simple put, looks attracts, personality keeps.

and if that fails, there are always shackles!

I do not think looks are the most important in a man, but they certainly do help if I am dating him. I have dated unattractive men in my Life, but they had good jobs and nice incomes to arrange a very nice date. I definately would not date an unattractive man, who is a poor man. If he don't have money he must have looks.

So is that why you don't have any pix on your profile?

It probably stems from our primitive desire to find a "healthy" mate for reproduction purposes.

I second that motion! In contrast I have found beauty in women who thought they were unattractive. Some aging, skin wrinkles, and other superficial items do not make a beautiful women ugly. In some cases they even make her look better.

I had a picture up. But I got too many views from men who were just looking and too young for me. I have always got a date off of date sites but not this site, so I don't really need a photo here.
I've already met a very nice gentleman matched up from another site.

Looks are important. We should Spend a little time 2 Make Ourselves Attractive

Pls put up Anotha, I Wanno Peep too

To some extent, beauty really IS in the eye of the beholder. A lot of the men I've dated (and even my ex) haven't been the kind of guys most people would consider 'hot' although none of them were ugly, either. But they were attractive to me primarily for their personality, their intelligence, and their sense of humor. In my eyes, that also gave them a level of physical beauty that maybe only I could see.

A strikingly handsome man with an ugly personality isn't going to trip my trigger. Unfortunately, I will admit that a strikingly ugly one with a wonderful personality probably won't either. Damned evolutionary programming!

But someone who's kind of middle-of-the-road in terms of looks but has a fantastic personality and intellect... oooh, baby. That'll do it (almost) every time.

Yup...I totally agree. I very rarely venture out of the house withough make-up and my 'outside clothes', as opposed to my 'indoor clothes'.
This is one lady who will never wear her pyjamas to the store!

Is that because I'm vain? No...I was raised that a lady looks like a lady and a gentleman looks like a gentleman.
Attractive looks are primarily based on good hygeine, a care for appearance, and most importantly a light that glows from within. An average fellow with a killer smile and a twinkle in his eye would have more success than an 'attractive' man with dirty fingernails and unkempt hair.

Exactly!!!

Wearing cute PJs at home can be sexy but I don’t care so much for people that wear them in public. Hygiene is important, and the very least to be clean. Now some people find that certain natural smells from their partner to be a turn on.

Does anyone remember the movie “The Breakfast Club”? Allison was the basket case that whoses habits wear unarractive and yet with a little work and help from Claire, became a beuatiful young lady. A person does not need to over do their looks but time needs to be put in.

I thought Claire looked better before the makeover. After the makeover she looked like every other "prom queen".

Wow, you just feel comfortable to admit being a gold-digger like that?

That comment was for MetalShadow

I didn't admit to that! And, I do not appreciate that comment.
Because I do not like dating a Poor man doesn't mean I am a gold digger. I like nice dates!

Sorry!!