What do you people think of it as im a lesbian but a single mammy?wats yr tauts?

my daughter had 3 kids and was in a lesiben relationship
she had left the kids father way before she decided to get into a lesben relationship

she was with her partner for 2yrs
and they moved to tinan where her partner was from
for her dad was dying

my daughter and grandkids
gave up everything and moved there with the partner ( now ex)

they got into a big fight
and her ex partner told her i could kill you
and no one would ever find your body

she called the police
and they help my daughter and grandkids

and they had to wait for a few more months
to get back to the state

my daughter met a guy that
she fell in love with and they had a baby together
my daughter wanted to marry him
but he stated his culture they were not allowed
to marry someone that who had been married before
so my daughter left him

so she raising her kids pretty much alone
she still talks to the baby father but thats about it

she has no communication with the older kids father
for he has been in jail for 6yrs
my youngest granddaughter is 7yrs old
and she doesnt know him.
she has seen pics and thats about it

there grandmother(kids dads mom) tried several times over the yrs to take the kids to see him
we all said no way..

I don't honestly think "Sexual preference" has much to do with good parenting
And all too often "Mom" is the one to hold her children through crisis like bad break ups
A Mom's love is unparalleled !

Dats amazing de way yours girls are gettin on wit der lives its al love an happiness etc..some story tanx for de reply:-)

I have two kids was with there father for 10 years. I fell in love with a women 7 years ago and being in a same sex relationship made things hard for me cause my kids father put a lot of ugly in there heads. It took a lot of work to work with my kids and now I am a single mommy for 2 months now. I am still very much into women. Can't see myself with another man again. I have talked to my kids about being gay/lesbian and my son thinks it gross for the same sex to kiss and stuff, but then again he is only 9. My daughter is all for what ever makes me happy. So I am all for being a Lesbian with kids. I like to teach my kids you should never judge a person no matter what they decide in life,and love is love.

having children is a tremendous responsibility that many people take on way too soon. if you can keep your needs on the back burner until your kids are at least in high school, i guarantee i guarantee you will spare them a lot of heartache. it takes a village to raise a child, and if you are in an area that is not sympathetic to your sexual preference, your child will be the one to suffer more than you

as parents we often place a bias on our children unknowingly. what we like is what the children see, not a balance of what is out there. so many children grow up with prejudice ingrained in their hearts

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I dont understand how one can be only attracted to the same sex and still reproduce, to be honest


unless they are a victim of rape,,,,which is sad, but also noble and loving to keep and raise the child

You know there are other methods to have a child right? It's not THAT uncommon.

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its uncommon enough to seem like an anomoly to me,, those methods are generally expensive and painful for someone,, and then, if its done for money (surrogates) thats kind of a sad circumstance to come into this world under too,,,,

but thats just my opinion

im the daughter of a lesbian couple and am happier than most kids from a normal family because my parents went to a sperm bank i was planed i wasn't an accident.
i know some people my age that were told by there parents that they were the accident that ruined their lives.

im the daughter of a lesbian couple and am happier than most kids from a normal family because my parents went to a sperm bank i was planed i wasn't an accident.
i know some people my age that were told by there parents that they were the accident that ruined their lives.

Haveing spent 16 years in Atlanta and another decade plus in California both communities haveing large gay populations often intermingled in various neighborhoods I have seen gay parents and their kids have both good and bad experiences. While violent offenses are rare to think that people are not trying to push their own agenda through your kids is foolish. So paying attention when your kids have new people in their lives or their behavior changes may mean making opportunities to communicate with your kids. Making opportunities to hang out with key people in their lives like sitters, teachers, group leaders will give you a good idea how they feel about you. I would be more concerned as children get older tweens and teens having the most difficulty being different in any way.

Not a bad idea about a lot of issues in parenting.

If a parent is aware that predjudice exists and trys to be positive and proactive about building bridges in social relationships the kids usually do pretty well from what I saw.

The parents that make their sexual preference their main identity rather than other things like their career, religious identity, hobbies, sports affiliations, heritage, or even the fact that they have kids tend to have more stress but pretending the people around you have not figured it out in this day an age where others often more about you than you do yourself is kind of spitting in the wind ande ignoreing the elephant in the room and leaving your kids to hold the bag for you.

If you live in a small community where your lifestyle is the exception rather than the rule being more vigiliant and having back up from other sources can help you and your child feel less estranged. But if it constantly puts you on the fireing line you may want to rethink where you live. Kids need a community they belong in in not enternally exiled in.

If I learned nothing from all my moving around is you can not be part of a community if you only visit so being active in groups may take more effort but is worth it.

What I have seen intergenerationally is that kids who have gay parents that are fairly maintream in other areas do as well or sometimes better their peers with hetero parents. They are more aware of social pressures and have a wider social view with an eye for long term goals. Many are raised to be college bound and have long term friendships.

the only time i ever had trouble as a kid was when i made a friend who had a mom and a dad and i was confused as to why she didnt have 2 moms or 2 dads i thought she was weird cause she had a mom and a dad. thats when my parents had to explain how they were different from typical families

I have a many friends who are same sex couples raising children and here's the kicker...these children did not come from them. they decided to become parents to children who were in foster care and adopt them. One friend and her partner adopted a whole family of children, there are seven of them, because they could not bare to see them separated from each other...their ages range from 4 to 13. The children all know that they have two moms and their circumstances as how they ended up with two moms and i have to say i feel lucky to be their adopted aunt. I have never seen a happier group of children. My kids play with their kids, we have sleep overs, and family dinners together. They are like any other family. I always loved the phrase "it takes a village to raise a child". It doesn't say if the people in the village are male or female or married. The point being love is the only important factor. Children just want someone to love them and tell them they are safe. We live in a different world unlike when most of us were younger...we don't need to worry about being able to go out and mulitple when there are so many children in the world who have no one at all.

Love this.....I told my aunt this just 2 weekends ago on Easter when she was complaining that gay people shouldn't be allowed to adopt and push their gayness basically onto the kids. Kids don't care about gender like others do, they just want love and a place to belong, that's all they want. Whether it be from a single mom, single dad, two moms, two dads, a mom and a dad, or even more then 2 parents....it doesn't matter to them as long as they're loved. Any prejudice they get towards any "unnatural" relationship is taught to them it's not innately in them.

Adults are the ones that make this an issue, it's not the kids.

I completely agree...adults could learn a lot if they would take the time and look thru a child's eyes...see what they see...it can be a real eye opener for some. i work in child care so I learn just as much from them as they learn from me.

Definitely, far too often adults as they get older think they know more than the child simply because they are older, but older and wiser don't always go together. A child can know as much as someone fully grown, and someone fully grown can know as little as some kids do in the same way. It's not an absolute thing.

Sometimes even as adults you still have things to learn, you may have been raised one way strictly, but doesn't mean it was right or that your kids are wrong for questioning it.

I truly believe if parents tried to understand their kids more than tried to place themselves above them simply because they are older, they'd have better relationships to the kids, the kids would be safer and have less of a reason to sneak around since they'd have an open dialogue with the parents, and both would be much happier.

Parents I think try too hard at times to control their kids to make them what they want them to be, rather than trying to understand what they actually need. They both suffer for that IMO. I think we make things so much more complex than they really should be, life isn't that complicated as much as we make it that way.

cheers to that