So to make a long story short I was with my ex girlfriend for two years and I broke up with her because I couldnt trust her...I had my reasons. So a few weeks after we broke up she instantly got a new bf...wow can you say rebound? She just recently moved with her mom to NY and she use to live in RI near me. Well shes called me 4 times just today and a few the past few days. Everytime we hang up she says she loves me. She also said she didnt want what happened to us to happen. I didnt want to break up but I just had to so I wouldnt get hurt again. But she keeps telling me she misses me and just wanted to hear my voice. Clearly she still has feelings for me. When we were together I felt like part of her family and I think she misses that. I dont know what to do...we have been through so much together and I would be lying if i said i didnt love her.

girls=confusing

hmmmm


well, if you still have feelings

weigh it out and decide whether she can earn your trust back or not...

and there is no reason to totally cut your ties with the family if you decide not to be with her again

"if at first you don't succeed,
try, try, again...
then quit, - no use making a damn fool out of yourself!"



by W. C. Fields

Well her family now hates me...They never knew anything that went on so it always made me look like the bad guy when I got mad at her. But she still is more then welcome in my family...My mom wanted to talk to her tonight so when she called me i gave the phone to my mom and they chatted for a bit. But she supposedly is happy with this new rebound...But now they are 9 hours apart. I really think time apart is good now but who knows what will happen in the future

your problem
she loves you
you love her
can you trust her thats what you have to figure out

Feelings can be misleading. Trust your gut about it, regardless of how torn you feel and what she is saying.

I'm pretty sure you know whether to continue to relationship or not. Honor that inner voice.

Good luck!

well im going through that same thing.. i had one of of mine that i have known for 18yrs as where we were together for a yr a yr to long as i put up with his drinking, hes a alcoholic and he called tonight and wanted to get back together he has stated this before and i wont... and then i have another ex, that has been calling me but not lately which i think is good.... your going forward in your life and you shouldnt let her interfer or cause any problems.. im letting my ex hurt my emotions again im puting a block against it...... stand firm and do what you feel is right. you were right in the trusting part, and dont think she going to change for shot going to

I think time apart for a while then I could trust her...I couldnt trust her because we went on a break (one time within the first year) and she got with one of my so called friends.

I suggest that you both use each other for sex for a couple of weeks and just fake the romance. It might be the best 2 weeks of your life. I mean, it's like she is forcing your hand on that. I don't think she really LOVES you. You were probably a great lover, and that new guy proved to be a dissapointment pretty soon.

Ha! She got what she deserved!! She left her 'Good Man' to play the field and now she wants you to take her back again!

I've got some experience in this area. I, like you, am a NICE GUY who is tired of being cheated on and double timed, just because NICE GUYS are easy to do that to. I've been used for good sex too much in my life, and aint got nuthin but a broke heart at this moment to show for it. Really.

....but if you really love her, and can HONESTLY forgive her, and she promises that she knows she was wrong and will try her very best to do it again...take her back with a sincere heart!

Once trust is gone you can never get it back. It's lost forever.


It's sad but it's true.


You don't have to be with her to be there for her, though.


Me and my ex husband are still very close and I am very close with his family, still. All of his neices and nephews still call me "Aunt Carrie". We all still love each other. But I couldn't let him hurt me anymore.

leave her alone......let her get over it

if you don't trust her now you won't trust her later..

indeed it's your problem not hers.

i hope she is smart enough not to take you back.

good luck to you both

Do you TRUST her now? If not, let it go......Insanity = doing the same thing over and over and hoping for a different end result

I know I'm gonna take a lot of heat for this, but I've never ran from controversy before. Anyone who's read my posts in Current Events knows that.

Exes are exes for a reason. People don't sit around one day and say, Yy'know, things're going good. Let's get a divorce." There's ALWAYS a reason for a split. It's always said that the first time to do ANYTHING is the hardest. That applies to cheating, also. Every time gets just a bit easier. To me, cheating is the unforgivable sin. There can't be(and shouldn't be) ANY forgiveness for that. If someone cheats once, it's easier to do it again. No matter what anyone says, the trust that has been broken can NEVER be fully repaired. An ex gf who cheated on me(ironically with her ex husband)called recently wanting to "get together for some fun". I never returned the message. Once it's over, it's over. It's hard, but moving on is the ONLY wise thing you can do.

I await the hate mail.

knoxman

dial tone bro!!!!

If you want to be friends, BE FRIENDS
If a relationship is what you want.
HAVE to be friends frst.
Anything else needs to be earned.
If it friends with benefits, realize THAT IS ALL IT IS.
Your old enough, think with the BIG HEAD.

There was a reason why you broke up with her in the first place. I'm sure that was not an easy decision for you to make, but you did it for a reason. If you lost trust in her, that is a big thing. Do you think you could ever trust her again fully. I think that's the question you have to answer. To me...if I can't trust you, there is no relationship.

No hate mail from me Knox. Gotta agree with you on that. Trust is a precious commodity to me. You waste mine I have no more time for you.

eeeesh i do not have any good advice for you but just wanted to say take your time and think long before getting back into it full swing. I went through this type of thing back in college and it is so emotionally hard. (((hugs)))

Okay this is what your wrote

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she supposedly is happy with this new rebound...But now they are 9 hours apart

HA hummmmmmm huhhhh he is not around and so she is gonna toy with you if she is happy with the rebound and still seeing him and wants to see you at the same time. Would that not raise the question was she seeing him while with you I mean she did find him aweful fast.??????


MY self it is up to you to find out if that love is still there or not so you need to figure out either try again or walk away forever.