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Topic: How long before thinking about marriage?
TexasScoundrel Joined Wed 10/29/08 Posts: 3693	Sun 03/03/13 09:05 AM
I think marriage is an out dated social concept. What will you gain by getting married? Nothing. But, you stand to lose a lot. But, if you're going to insist, I'd suggest waiting at least five years. Then another five years before you start thinking about children. Make sure you already own the house you plan on living in for the rest of your life and have reached all your carrier goals, because relationships are a distraction.

minemine2013 Joined Mon 02/11/13 Posts: 85	Sun 03/03/13 10:16 AM
It is not a must you must move in together before getting married. Dating before marriage is very important because it gives you room to study each other but it is not too good to date for long before getting married.

mikaxel80 Joined Sat 10/06/12 Posts: 551	Sun 03/03/13 11:11 AM
Some couples live toether for many years before finally getting married. Others marry after just a few dates. How long do take to get to know someone before thinking about marriage? Is living together a must? Different for every couple. But if I am in that position I usually take my time to go into marriage. I also like for us to live a couple of months before getting married. But then again, it's as I said-different for everyone

manOfewwords Joined Wed 10/22/08 Posts: 29908	Sun 03/03/13 01:27 PM
why are you asking? are you planning on getting married?? the thought had crossed my mind in recent history. My immediate thoughts are to live together or date for at least a year before even considering marriage. Sometimes I wonder if there is something wrong with my attitude when I consider the number of women (in my area) with marriage as an imperative. This article that made me feel better... http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/the-joint-adventures-well-educated-couples/201206/key-factors-impact-your-odds-marital-success I was shocked to learn that maybe I'm not as careful as I should be! Although I do think that living together for some amount of time is important. It's the only way to really know what you are getting into. I welcome arguments supporting an opposite view to long term dating. so....have you known this woman very long??

Leigh2154 Joined Sun 10/02/11 Posts: 16479	Sun 03/03/13 02:24 PM
why are you asking? are you planning on getting married?? the thought had crossed my mind in recent history. My immediate thoughts are to live together or date for at least a year before even considering marriage. Sometimes I wonder if there is something wrong with my attitude when I consider the number of women (in my area) with marriage as an imperative. This article that made me feel better... http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/the-joint-adventures-well-educated-couples/201206/key-factors-impact-your-odds-marital-success I was shocked to learn that maybe I'm not as careful as I should be! Although I do think that living together for some amount of time is important. It's the only way to really know what you are getting into. I welcome arguments supporting an opposite view to long term dating. so....have you known this woman very long?? You sound like a marriage counselor...

Traumer Joined Sun 01/06/13 Posts: 723	Sun 03/03/13 02:47 PM
Some couples live toether for many years before finally getting married. Others marry after just a few dates. How long do take to get to know someone before thinking about marriage? Is living together a must? While some may within hours of meeting someone; others can take years, if ever. Living together is like marriage, neither are time limited and neither no longer matters it seems; after all, one enters a home and usually one sees diplomas, prizes etc. but no one ever frames and displays their Marriage certificates, because no one really cares if you are or not married to each other...ain't it great to be 'modern'...

manOfewwords Joined Wed 10/22/08 Posts: 29908	Sun 03/03/13 03:32 PM
why are you asking? are you planning on getting married?? the thought had crossed my mind in recent history. My immediate thoughts are to live together or date for at least a year before even considering marriage. Sometimes I wonder if there is something wrong with my attitude when I consider the number of women (in my area) with marriage as an imperative. This article that made me feel better... http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/the-joint-adventures-well-educated-couples/201206/key-factors-impact-your-odds-marital-success I was shocked to learn that maybe I'm not as careful as I should be! Although I do think that living together for some amount of time is important. It's the only way to really know what you are getting into. I welcome arguments supporting an opposite view to long term dating. so....have you known this woman very long?? You sound like a marriage counselor... well I've been married enough times to be one

Leigh2154 Joined Sun 10/02/11 Posts: 16479	Sun 03/03/13 03:35 PM
why are you asking? are you planning on getting married?? the thought had crossed my mind in recent history. My immediate thoughts are to live together or date for at least a year before even considering marriage. Sometimes I wonder if there is something wrong with my attitude when I consider the number of women (in my area) with marriage as an imperative. This article that made me feel better... http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/the-joint-adventures-well-educated-couples/201206/key-factors-impact-your-odds-marital-success I was shocked to learn that maybe I'm not as careful as I should be! Although I do think that living together for some amount of time is important. It's the only way to really know what you are getting into. I welcome arguments supporting an opposite view to long term dating. so....have you known this woman very long?? You sound like a marriage counselor... well I've been married enough times to be one Or need one

Jtevans Joined Fri 08/10/07 Posts: 30654	Mon 03/04/13 04:15 AM
Some couples live toether for many years before finally getting married. Others marry after just a few dates. How long do take to get to know someone before thinking about marriage? Is living together a must? i'll consider it when i'm in my death bed darn I thought we were getting married when i'm on my death bed,i'll contact you

manOfewwords Joined Wed 10/22/08 Posts: 29908	Mon 03/04/13 05:47 AM
why are you asking? are you planning on getting married?? the thought had crossed my mind in recent history. My immediate thoughts are to live together or date for at least a year before even considering marriage. Sometimes I wonder if there is something wrong with my attitude when I consider the number of women (in my area) with marriage as an imperative. This article that made me feel better... http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/the-joint-adventures-well-educated-couples/201206/key-factors-impact-your-odds-marital-success I was shocked to learn that maybe I'm not as careful as I should be! Although I do think that living together for some amount of time is important. It's the only way to really know what you are getting into. I welcome arguments supporting an opposite view to long term dating. so....have you known this woman very long?? You sound like a marriage counselor... well I've been married enough times to be one Or need one probably sO

Leigh2154 Joined Sun 10/02/11 Posts: 16479	Mon 03/04/13 06:15 AM
why are you asking? are you planning on getting married?? the thought had crossed my mind in recent history. My immediate thoughts are to live together or date for at least a year before even considering marriage. Sometimes I wonder if there is something wrong with my attitude when I consider the number of women (in my area) with marriage as an imperative. This article that made me feel better... http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/the-joint-adventures-well-educated-couples/201206/key-factors-impact-your-odds-marital-success I was shocked to learn that maybe I'm not as careful as I should be! Although I do think that living together for some amount of time is important. It's the only way to really know what you are getting into. I welcome arguments supporting an opposite view to long term dating. so....have you known this woman very long?? You sound like a marriage counselor... well I've been married enough times to be one Or need one probably sO Good morning lover! ...Sinner says we make him laugh! I told him we like him toO...

manOfewwords Joined Wed 10/22/08 Posts: 29908	Mon 03/04/13 08:27 AM
Good morning lover! ...Sinner says we make him laugh! I told him we like him toO... morning sweet thang I made the call this morning, we can forget that one

oldhippie1952 Joined Mon 03/14/11 Posts: 22693	Mon 03/04/13 08:33 AM
Dang it....realized I was past the thinking stage...

manOfewwords Joined Wed 10/22/08 Posts: 29908	Mon 03/04/13 08:41 AM
Dang it....realized I was past the thinking stage... beating your head on that wall won't help much either

oldhippie1952 Joined Mon 03/14/11 Posts: 22693	Mon 03/04/13 08:43 AM
Dang it....realized I was past the thinking stage... beating your head on that wall won't help much either I'm trying to knock myself unconscious so I don't think.

Rawrr_Girl Joined Sun 10/04/09 Posts: 4431	Mon 03/04/13 09:53 AM
It would be interesting to interview a few couples, who got married after only a few dates. How does that work?

oldhippie1952 Joined Mon 03/14/11 Posts: 22693	Mon 03/04/13 09:56 AM
It would be interesting to interview a few couples, who got married after only a few dates. How does that work? I married my second wife after one date, maybe two. It lasted 14 years, 13 years longer than my first marriage to a girl I dated for 7 months prior to marrying.

MetalShadow6 Joined Thu 02/14/13 Posts: 924	Mon 03/04/13 11:57 AM
As for the title, I am always thinking about marriage. Just finding the girl to spend my life with is a little bit of a problem. As for when after we meet, that I could not say. It is different for some people.

DaySinner Joined Sat 11/17/12 Posts: 558	Mon 03/04/13 09:14 PM Edited by DaySinner on Mon 03/04/13 09:21 PM
It would be interesting to interview a few couples, who got married after only a few dates. How does that work? I married my second wife after one date, maybe two. It lasted 14 years, 13 years longer than my first marriage to a girl I dated for 7 months prior to marrying. Wow that's cool. Still, it seems extraordinary. But I do enjoy hearing things like that. If I may be so bold to ask, which divorce was easier?