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The problem lies in that, politeness has become so rare many mistake it for flattery.... I also think you make a good point Kitty....But I do think it's easy to discern the difference between good manners and good BS!! 
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I like to compliment people here on the forums but I'm being genuine. I like to touch base sometimes with people who I'm reading their thoughts on different topic's everyday.I agree with laying it on thick being phoney, however this is a dating site and sometimes you feel a sense of desire or admiration on how some people handle themselves.For myself I'm just here to give my thoughts and read what others say not to vent or argue my points.Not being corny but I enjoy my fellow minglers.
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Nothing worse than fake flattery, or obvious buttering up, see it all the time in the Mingle forums. Of course some on the receiving end lap it up so you can't really blame the ones handing them out.  Exactly Torgo except I do blame the ones handing it out because they are manipulators who are willing to use others to fulfill their needs, whatever those needs might be...I read the OP as a point Greeneyes is making about relationships "in general", not just romantic relationships, all types of relationships....AND Claire, I totally agree with you...I am suspicious of people who lay it on thick, lay it on constantly, and agree with everything that is said by everyone who says it even when it is a direct contradiction to what they stated in prior conversations... These types seem blinded by an excessive need for attention that could stem from any number of personal problems...If they don't realize how transparent their BS is to the majority, they are certainly not going to be conscious of the damage they can and do inflict on people who, for what ever reason(s), lap up this fake flattery....I avoid them like the plague they are...
You ask what happens after they get their "sale".....The product they are selling is usually returned due to false advertising.... I think some of it is about "mastering the art", playing games, killing boredom...Those people are not a big deal because their transparency and egocentricity make them pretty easy to spot and even easier to write off if you so choose (though you would never convince them of that ) ...It's the peeps who use other peeps through deceptions like fake flattery or azz kissing to get what they want rather than hard work or honesty just because they can, just because they see an opportunity and take it....Those are the peeps that turn my stomach...
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I see krupa got things stirred up again....
How do you know? 
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I like to compliment people here on the forums but I'm being genuine. I like to touch base sometimes with people who I'm reading their thoughts on different topic's everyday.I agree with laying it on thick being phoney, however this is a dating site and sometimes you feel a sense of desire or admiration on how some people handle themselves.For myself I'm just here to give my thoughts and read what others say not to vent or argue my points.Not being corny but I enjoy my fellow minglers.
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Title should be something about SMOKE getting Blown up your azz.
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Title should be something about SMOKE getting Blown up your azz. BS enema?
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Edited by
GreenEyes48
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Sat 02/23/13 01:47 PM
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The problem lies in that, politeness has become so rare many mistake it for flattery.... |
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Ha! You are all amatures.... You don't give excessive flattery .... Or you don't accept excessive flattery.... Obviously the problem is you..... If the problem is you won't accept some good brown nosing...you are stuck up...flirt with your self...see how far it gets you. You refuse to flirt excessively? Great!...I will flirt like a mad man.....and I will score that tail. So....you kids go on with being shy and repressed I will make those chicks feel sexy. tails and chicks ?? sorry im not intoo farm animals here ..sheesh |
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Edited by
GreenEyes48
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Sat 02/23/13 02:32 PM
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I like to compliment people here on the forums but I'm being genuine. I like to touch base sometimes with people who I'm reading their thoughts on different topic's everyday.I agree with laying it on thick being phoney, however this is a dating site and sometimes you feel a sense of desire or admiration on how some people handle themselves.For myself I'm just here to give my thoughts and read what others say not to vent or argue my points.Not being corny but I enjoy my fellow minglers. |
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I see krupa got things stirred up again....
How do you know?
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I see krupa got things stirred up again....
How do you know?
 Did you take pictures? *hoping*
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I see krupa got things stirred up again....
How do you know?
Did you take pictures? *hoping*
This is my spoon there are many spoons just like it but this one is mine
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I see krupa got things stirred up again....
How do you know?
Did you take pictures? *hoping*
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I tend to be suspicious of men or women who "lay it on thick" and shower me with compliments right off the bat..Or people who express a great deal of interest in me (and what I say) when it just doesn't seem totally "real" or sincere...I don't want to be an "easy mark!".. Some people are "brown-nosers" and they rely on manipulation tactics to "get ahead" or "gain favors." (Or get attention etc.)...Have you noticed this?...They are "salespeople" in disguise! But what happens after they get their "sale?" Will they still act the same way? Or will they grow bored and look for someone new to "butter-up" and impress? I guess you wouldn't know, would you? I personally compliment women quite often if I find something attractive about them, nice to know that most of them are looking at me as a "Suspect" right off the bat...Don't know, seems kind of narrow to me. |
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I tend to be suspicious of men or women who "lay it on thick" and shower me with compliments right off the bat..Or people who express a great deal of interest in me (and what I say) when it just doesn't seem totally "real" or sincere...I don't want to be an "easy mark!".. Some people are "brown-nosers" and they rely on manipulation tactics to "get ahead" or "gain favors." (Or get attention etc.)...Have you noticed this?...They are "salespeople" in disguise! But what happens after they get their "sale?" Will they still act the same way? Or will they grow bored and look for someone new to "butter-up" and impress? I guess you wouldn't know, would you? I personally compliment women quite often if I find something attractive about them, nice to know that most of them are looking at me as a "Suspect" right off the bat...Don't know, seems kind of narrow to me. |
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I'm going to the strip club later
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I think we can "program" and "condition" the people in our lives by our comments and compliments. (Or by not saying anything.)...I was definitely aware of this when I was raising my sons...I didn't want to make them fit into my "mold" by only noticing certain things they did and ignoring everything else...If a man only compliments me about my "looks" or my cooking or my so-called "feminine traits" I feel like I'm being pushed into a "mold" and told who I'm expected to "be."...And it won't work-out because I don't want to limit myself to "kitchen tools" or pots and pans...My husband didn't want to be stuck or confined to a "man cave." He wanted to feel free to "spread his wings" and venture into many different areas...I'll never be some man's doll or "pretty little thing." But I make a good "partner" to have around when any kind of work needs to be done.. And when problems need to be solved.
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Edited by
Winlei
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Sun 02/24/13 05:52 AM
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People sometimes craved for the appreciation and praises of others because they lack that attention. I cannot blame them though. Those manipulator is taking advantage of the weakness of others. Wearing make up is not just for catching attention unless its too thick. I wear makeup whenever i felt like im not confident to face others. Whenever someone is flirting with me i returned the gesture. If they email me and they showed their interest i'd clearly tell them that i can only offer friendship. Better start getting to know each other. I also complement others. I dont want to stick on what ive seen physically but to what s/he is inside.
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I wouldn't want a man that didn't know how to "flirt". Some men know how and some don't. I do not mean excessive flirting just know how too.
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