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Topic: Missed Anniversaries
1Cynderella Joined Mon 02/18/13 Posts: 2398	Thu 02/21/13 03:53 PM
A friend of mine is upset that her husband missed their wedding anniversary last week. I don’t think it’s that big of a deal, but have never been married...so thought I'd put it to you guys. Has your significant other, or spouse ever forgotten your anniversary. Was it a big deal to you or not and why?

mani76 Joined Tue 11/27/12 Posts: 20	Thu 02/21/13 04:19 PM
complicated.

soufiehere Joined Sat 10/24/09 Posts: 45334	Thu 02/21/13 04:19 PM
One thing I have learned about men, is their natural instinct to not remember important dates. So, what I do, in every instance, is I tell them right off the bat, "If you remember, fine, if you don't, you won't hear about it from me..consider this a special, lifetime gift" ;-) Saves a lot of stress. Turns out, they often remember better than me :-) And when that happens, it is very special.

1Cynderella Joined Mon 02/18/13 Posts: 2398	Thu 02/21/13 05:32 PM
One thing I have learned about men, is their natural instinct to not remember important dates. So, what I do, in every instance, is I tell them right off the bat, "If you remember, fine, if you don't, you won't hear about it from me..consider this a special, lifetime gift" ;-) Saves a lot of stress. Turns out, they often remember better than me :-) And when that happens, it is very special. I don't really understand the need for anniversaries. If I find myself in a relationship again, I think I'll start a new trend. I want to celebrate every day and take our anniversary off.

burgundybry Joined Mon 03/05/07 Posts: 8084	Thu 02/21/13 05:36 PM
One thing I have learned about men, is their natural instinct to not remember important dates. So, what I do, in every instance, is I tell them right off the bat, "If you remember, fine, if you don't, you won't hear about it from me..consider this a special, lifetime gift" ;-) Saves a lot of stress. Turns out, they often remember better than me :-) And when that happens, it is very special. I don't really understand the need for anniversaries. If I find myself in a relationship again, I think I'll start a new trend. I want to celebrate every day and take our anniversary off. Great thought! When your with the one you love, why can't everyday be a celebration?

GreenEyes48 Joined Thu 08/26/10 Posts: 1319	Thu 02/21/13 05:38 PM
We're all human...Once in awhile we're going to forget something...It helps when everyone has a sense of humor.. I'm good at poking fun at myself when I'm absent-minded or spacey or flakey. And I'm good at apologizing...Some things just aren't life or death or the absolute end of the world. Or they don't have to be anyway!

SimplicityAtItsBest Joined Mon 09/10/12 Posts: 960	Thu 02/21/13 06:30 PM Edited by SimplicityAtItsBest on Thu 02/21/13 06:31 PM
Sorry - that's grounds for...Divorce !!!!!

Torgo70 Joined Fri 06/27/08 Posts: 27387	Thu 02/21/13 07:08 PM
All that matters is remembering the Star Wars anniversary.

navygirl Joined Sat 06/02/07 Posts: 8118	Thu 02/21/13 11:08 PM
Never been married myself but I wouldn't get upset about an anniversary being missed. I understand how hectic and stressful life can get; so yes we forget things. I remember getting a call from my brother early one morning and he was wishing me a happy birthday. I completely forgot it was my birthday so missing an anniversary would be very possible for me.

mikaxel80 Joined Sat 10/06/12 Posts: 531	Fri 02/22/13 12:14 AM
A friend of mine is upset that her husband missed their wedding anniversary last week. I don’t think it’s that big of a deal, but have never been married...so thought I'd put it to you guys. Has your significant other, or spouse ever forgotten your anniversary. Was it a big deal to you or not and why? Well, to answer your question directly I think it not to be neither a big deal nor a small deal. It is a deal. I havent been married but let me share you my insights on this. According to me I fell in love with a woman and I must accept what is important to her is important to me and vice versa. So the day we fell in love or married should be important to both of us and should be celebrated, although our everyday is a celebration

Rawrr_Girl Joined Sun 10/04/09 Posts: 4431	Fri 02/22/13 01:02 AM
My grandad always forgets (apparently) to celebrate them with my gran insert horribly insulted gran face here!. He remembers Christmas and Birthday of course, but some men just don't seem to appear bothered by it. . I think if it were to happen to me, I'd be my usual jokey self about the whole thing, and say to him something like "I'm sure I had a reason why today is an important day, but I can't think why. Can you? Ah well. It probably doesn't matter than", and shrug my shoulders.

josie68 Joined Mon 11/22/10 Posts: 6270	Fri 02/22/13 01:18 AM
I am hopeless at remembering, if my hubby and children didnt remind me of the date, I would definately forget it. So nope I wouldnt get upset, really anniversary's and valentines are just another day.

1Cynderella Joined Mon 02/18/13 Posts: 2398	Fri 02/22/13 08:46 AM
A friend of mine is upset that her husband missed their wedding anniversary last week. I don’t think it’s that big of a deal, but have never been married...so thought I'd put it to you guys. Has your significant other, or spouse ever forgotten your anniversary. Was it a big deal to you or not and why? Well, to answer your question directly I think it not to be neither a big deal nor a small deal. It is a deal. I havent been married but let me share you my insights on this. According to me I fell in love with a woman and I must accept what is important to her is important to me and vice versa. So the day we fell in love or married should be important to both of us and should be celebrated, although our everyday is a celebration Good point! Even thought I doubt an anniversary would be important to me, while my friend wa groaning about it to me, I found myslef thinking that it would have been nice for her if he'd made an effort just becaue it would have made her feel so good.

2Keith Joined Thu 04/14/11 Posts: 155	Fri 02/22/13 09:27 AM
Of course I gave up celebrating birthdays a long time ago. I like the children's expectations and pleasure at Christmas. As far as all the other "Hallmark" holidays, I'd just as soon not. If she doesn't feel loved the other 364 days a year, remembering the anniversary ain't going to cut it.

1Cynderella Joined Mon 02/18/13 Posts: 2398	Fri 02/22/13 09:30 AM
Of course I gave up celebrating birthdays a long time ago. I like the children's expectations and pleasure at Christmas. As far as all the other "Hallmark" holidays, I'd just as soon not. If she doesn't feel loved the other 364 days a year, remembering the anniversary ain't going to cut it. Exactly!

pyxxie13 Joined Wed 09/28/11 Posts: 3835	Sat 02/23/13 04:41 PM
I am not the kind of person to remember junk like that. I am happy to remember birthdays like family. I was with someone at one point who remembered everything and ...oh boy...was I in the dog house all the time. It seems most people find it important to remember these things. Maybe they take it as a statement that they are not important if forgotten.

Toodygirl5 Joined Fri 10/26/12 Posts: 14505	Sat 02/23/13 04:54 PM Edited by Toodygirl5 on Sat 02/23/13 04:55 PM
My exhusband never forgot a anniversary or a birthday or any special holiday like Valentines Day. I was "spoiled". Yes it was important to me, because when we dated he was very nice in taking me out and spending money all the time, so why should that quit when you get married? I do not want any stingy man. He has been married 2X after me, so I guess the other women liked him too at least the spending part.