We enjoy healthy sexual appetites when in mixed company, and/or, alone. Being familiar with one’s body and the various ways and means by which we can bring it and others pleasure is a skill learned by experience, and we all have different levels of knowledge and know how. If, in our relationships, we place a slightly higher level of importance on our ability to please and be pleased sexually, than on other aspects of our togetherness, should we look only for those who share the same or similar tastes in quantity, quality, as well as endurance factors? And what do we do if we meet someone we are really attracted too, but they confess little experience in these matters? Do we find out if they are amenable to learning new things, experimenting, and if not, we move on from them, because ultimately, we don’t want our own sexual proclivities to be denied or deprived, but nourished within the confines of our relationships that we establish?

There was a time I tried to teach a new lover how to please me. But, it's just too much work. These days I take my pleasure from pleasuring her. Once she's lying there, moist with her own sweat and her breasts heaving, I'll take my pleasure.

once again you impress with very wise answers...

Concerning this issue,men do endure most of the times,but ladies rarely do cos ladies re hardly satisfied sextually than men..most ladies re ignorant of some of these skills..discovered that most ladies lied motionless like logs during love making,even to extent of waking them up after the very act..well, Can't move away from her cos of this,cos she can improve with time...

LOL

dam athena wanna go somewere & get a drink ?? lol

if ladies have to be woken up after the act, then I dare say... no... I'll hold my tongue this time...

believe it or not, I asked these questions in all seriousness... because there are some people I know who place more importance on how well they get along sexually then socially... and I'd like to know if sex is a major factor for couples when deciding to start a new relationship... I don't drink, but thank you for the invite...

I think this can be a problem in a relationship. For example, I don't like S&M. If my lady craves it, I would hesitate going further with her. Oh sure, I could learn about S&M and give it a shot. But if S&M is what she craves, then wouldn't be better for her to move on and find someone that can put some enthusiasm into it! It goes both ways, if my focus is on better, longer orgasms, and she's only interested in fantasy, then I'm going to feel frustrated too.

I can see it becoming a serious problem. Knowing that I am satisfying my partner is important. After all, if I can't satisfy her, then someone else probably will someday!

I am not willing to compromise in that area! I will talk to Him covering everything from A-Z sexually. If he has a problem and not willing to medically correct it, if possible, then He is not for me. Many Older men and few younger have problems, I read up on it.

I was with the same woman for 15 years (six dating and 9 of marriage). She and I had a healthy sex life and we always looked to spice it up. However, once we divorced and I went out and dated, I found myself experiencing all different forms of sex. I know that one relationship I had was based on how sexually connected she and I were. We could argue and then we would have sex like crazy. It was fun because she had never had a man who put her pleasure first. Of course, she more than returned the favor. Lol. But to me, that is what sex is all about. When you put her needs above yours. Satisfy her sexual desires and she will damn well make sure she more than satisfies yours.

I like the way you think, Sinner... taking your time to arouse the senses, tantalizing, provoking, teasing, getting right to the edge and pulling back... your lady is very lucky to have a man that craves his own need to satisfy hers too...

And I quite agree with you about S&M... I bought and read 50 Shades of Grey thinking I would learn something new at my age, only to be disappointed when the book didn't reveal much about the lifestyle other than what's expected from a submissive, if the dominant wants to push it...

I can relate...

Op you answered your own question. If you hold sex dear and a potential partner holds it with disdain, that relationship is doomed. No matter how many other factors are lined up, have a major one displaced and disaster will follow. If one is a clean freak and the other a plop 'n' drop slob that too will doom the relationship.

Important factor = important factor = success.
Important factor = unimportant factor = distress

Quite simple if you can make the determination.

I understand...

so my dearest friend, Ted.. you are just going to buy a ticket to the show, I take it... BTW, I love popcorn...

Ha! life is a show.
That I like to sit and watch shouldn't (I'd hope) imply apathy, empathy, ridicule or judgement.
Merely that I'm intrigued and plan to watch a lil more.

I hog the popcorn btw... get yer own bowl.