It's my opinion that a large number of women prefer that a man take the lead in most areas. That doesn't mean she wants him to dominate her all the time, but simply for him to be a man worthy of her respect. A man that she can look up to and sit at the head of the table. A man she cannot easily manipulate.

Also, I do not agree with the 50/50 school of thought because if both partners are truly equal, when they disagree nothing gets done. So, one partner must have the final word.

I want to be clear that I do not think women are inferior to men in any way. I do believe that we think differently and that is often an advantage when couples are able to truly work together for common goals.

This post from you is much better Texy...kudos to your doc for the meds he's prescribed you.

Although i would edit the 'most areas' in favour of 'certain areas'...and that part about a man she cannot easily manipulate has got to go.

I did try very hard to give my thoughts in a political correct way. Thanks for noticing.

My Mom and Dad would have scoffed at terms like submissive and dominance. (Even way back in the 50's.)...It seems weird to hear these terms being used in 2013 and taken so seriously....My parents had an equal marriage way back in the early days. And their friends had marriages like this too...Couples like my parents got married during or right after World War II.. Women worked in factories while the men were off fighting the war...Everyone had just come out of the Depression. My Mom dropped out of school and went to work to support her entire family during the Depression...Men and women struggled to find any kind of work in order to survive and stay afloat.. Even kids tried to earn extra money during the tough times...I never heard talk about women submitting to men when I was growing up. We were all suppose to pitch-in and pull our own weight and work together as a family and team...My Dad played an active role in shopping and cooking and "house stuff." And my Mom helped Dad repair the family car or do plumbing work or whatever needed to be done. And I was expected to help both of them with everything.

Why does anyone (male or female) resort to manipulation tactics?...When there is an imbalance of power in a relationship the person who feels lacking in power (or full autonomy) may resort to "tricks" to have a hand in the decision-making process...Basically this is the hallmark of parent/child relationships...Small children know they don't have much power or authority compared to their parents...So kids might resort to manipulation tactics to try to gain what they want...In healthy and equal relationships both partners are viewed as full-grown adults. Nobody is asked to "play kid" or "parent."

I like my man to be incharged in most things,I think it has to do with personality, am very indecisive so I always seek opinions and advices,tht doesn't make me submissive, he can never ask me to do something against my will
Moreover,am stubborn and will argue until he put up white flag if I think am right in tht case..
Thts why I always 'fight' and 'argue' with him..Sigh