Are your personal preferences or barriers too high? I am talking unrealistically high, unattainable unless you're a movie star.

Dang, just got interrupted in my thought by a phone call. Forgot what I was going to say....

I'm talking mostly about us older people. At our age, we have infirmaries. Can you overlook a possible matches infirmaries, knowing you're not in good shape yourself?

Hey, it's a part of getting older you know.

Well, when I became involved with my ex she told me one day that she was going to the hospital but seemed reluctant to say what for, so I just waited for her to tell me about it. I suspected that she was a manic depressive but it turned out to be arthritis. I was prepared to accept her (even though when she was in pain she could be really moody) but she wasn't really prepared to accept me because of the condition that I have in the end.

I dated a woman in her early thirties recently that had some sort of muscle condition and I didn't let that put me off. I dated another woman that had mental health problems and missing teeth. She even wore glasses.

So no, I'm prepared to accept women for who and what they are if I like them.

There a some older people that are in good shape. Some younger people are in bad shape. I have met men inperson that need to loose some weight but that is not a bad thing. I think any man that is willing to meet me on my terms here. I will give him a chance to know me. I usually communicate a long time before I meet ANY man in person. I am not into game playing daters.

I don't know many people over 50 who have worked all their lives and don't have some kind of health issues, even if it's just high blood pressure that requires medication to keep it under control. After all, we did enjoy and survive the 60's, 70's and 80's, and those were some pretty radical decades where the youth were living large and hard, and now their/our bodies are reminding them/us of how much fun they/we had living life during those years. And I would hope that also at our age, having lived most of our lives already that we also learned valuable character lessons about how to treat others. Health issues, even those that are worse for some then for others, requires a well of compassion that we all possess, and must dip into as frequently as needed to keep our bodies, minds, and emotions working smoothly together, and when we already know this need in ourselves, then it should be natural for us to know this need in others. When we love, we love "as is" and work together from there. IMHO...

Hummm I don't feel mine are too high and it all depends on what the situation is. As I get older sure I have more aches and pains and can't do some of the things the way I use too.

But I do expect the other person to be able to take care of themselves and be able to get around on their own... I myself if I see that someone states they are very active in working out ect... I pass them up for I would not expect them to be with someone that did not work out, ride bikes, mountain climbing ect... if that is what their passion was....

I think others should be honest what their health is like in order for the other to decide if they were willing to deal with health issues...

It is a totally different situation if you are with that person prior to the health issues.. For you would have had the time to create a bond..

Not saying that those with health issues should not look just saying that it is not something one should surprise the other with after feelings are involved..

I wouldn't think that laughing at my jokes would be that hard...

You could try applying the Drake Equation to dating. For those that may not know, the Drake equation is a way to estimate the number of planets in the Milky Way that have intelligent life. Here's how it works;

First how many people are within the area you're willing to travel to for a date? Let's assume a large city like Boston. That's about 600,000.

Of those we'll subtract half based on gender, leaving 300,000.

Next we'll remove all the ones outside the age range you're looking for. That's roughly 70% that are too old or too young. So, that gives us about 90,000.

Now, let's assume a fairly large number of these will be attractive looking to you. About 1 in 5 or 20%. Giving us around 18000.

How many of these are single? Assuming half we're left with 9000.

Do you want someone with a collage degree? That cuts out another 70% bringing the total down to 2700.

Do you want someone that makes at least $100,000.00 a year? Guess what? 95% just fell off the train and there are 135 still along for the ride.

135 out of 600,000 or 1 in 4445 and we haven't even touched on things like hair and eye color.

I think most of us should probably widen our standards.

I guess it would depend on other things - as I have also met much younger men who I am in better health than...I think as long as someone is able to share interests, a healthy intimate life and reasonable exercise and activity...and is caring for their health with proper diet and medication, if needed. There are a number of compaability factors - probably that their proactive attitude would reflect mine - so the personality and the attitude are the most important

I have dated several men with disabitivies and health issues. Its the type of person they are that im attracted to not what they can or cant do. I am always upfront and open about my disabilities and mobility issues because its only fair to allow the person to decide if it is something they are willing to deal with.