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Edited by
AthenaRose2
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When you meet someone that catches your eye, captivates your mind,
and pulls on your heart until it’s almost impossible for you to think about anything, or anybody else, in other words, you’ve got it really bad for this unique someone, what will you do to convince him or her of your sincere fascination and desire to get to know them? And, if they rebuff your first advance, as strangers often do, but don’t actually tell you to drop dead, do you give up and move on, or hang around and try to make head way, slowly but steadily? |
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Edited by
esebulldog
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Sat 02/09/13 09:03 AM
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the direct approach is best. i guarantee i guarantee if you pull a "cathy bates in misery" the person you are interested in will take notice
(bulldog double guarantee - patent pending) 
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Hi ,
I think that completely depends on the situation , if you want something real bad , i doubt you will give up because of a little nudge!!! Also depends on one's purpose and conviction. |
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I'm quite a resilient person, so if a guy I was really into, turned me down, I would probably have a little cry about it, but wouldn't give up just yet.
 . Not in a stalkerish way. I mean I would just perhaps still wait in the wings for a more appropriate time to maybe ask him again. Though, I can move on, but not very easily at first.
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To be honest I usually just suffer in silence.
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the direct approach is best. i guarantee i guarantee if you pull a "cathy bates in misery" the person you are interested in will take notice (bulldog double guarantee - patent pending)
jeeezzzz, esebulldog... jeezzz... I'm speechless...  ouch... jeezz...
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Edited by
AthenaRose2
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Sat 02/09/13 09:31 AM
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Hi , I think that completely depends on the situation , if you want something real bad , i doubt you will give up because of a little nudge!!! Also depends on one's purpose and conviction. hi orko, nice to meet you... so you wouldn't give up after the first advance, right? Then what would you do... or would revealing your tactics be giving away too much information? I'm looking for pointers... I've never been an aggressive female and I want to learn how to approach a man... I thought my questions would provoke informative responses... maybe I should phrase it differently... |
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I'm quite a resilient person, so if a guy I was really into, turned me down, I would probably have a little cry about it, but wouldn't give up just yet. . Not in a stalkerish way. I mean I would just perhaps still wait in the wings for a more appropriate time to maybe ask him again. Though, I can move on, but not very easily at first.
Hi Sarah... my predicament is embarrassing... I've never approached a man in a serious way to reveal my feelings for him, and I was wondering if there are ways and means to go about it... and if one way didn't work, is there a plan B? |
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To be honest I usually just suffer in silence. hi jack, me too... and I was hoping we might be able to pick up pointers from each other about how to go about trying to make a connection... |
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Edited by
Toodygirl5
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Sat 02/09/13 09:53 AM
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When you meet someone that catches your eye, captivates your mind, and pulls on your heart until it’s almost impossible for you to think about anything, or anybody else, in other words, you’ve got it really bad for this unique someone, what will you do to convince him or her of your sincere fascination and desire to get to know them? And, if they rebuff your first advance, as strangers often do, but don’t actually tell you to drop dead, do you give up and move on, or hang around and try to make head way, slowly but steadily? I would just tell him upfront I am interested and really want to get to know him better, if he doesn't respond in a postive way, I would just move on. Most men if they liked you would respond nicely and take it from there to start up a friendship. |
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When you meet someone that catches your eye, captivates your mind, and pulls on your heart until it’s almost impossible for you to think about anything, or anybody else, in other words, you’ve got it really bad for this unique someone, what will you do to convince him or her of your sincere fascination and desire to get to know them? And, if they rebuff your first advance, as strangers often do, but don’t actually tell you to drop dead, do you give up and move on, or hang around and try to make head way, slowly but steadily? If you're talking about someone on a dating site, there is not one specific answer to this Athena because the best way to handle it would depend on the circumstances...I gather from the opening post that you mean someone you have either had conversations with through email, etc ...OR...someone you gained exposure to on the boards but have yet to contact...If it is the first, someone you are in contact with off the boards, you should tell them how you feel and ask for a meeting...In other words, put the ball in their court...If it is someone who caught your attention in forums, how to handle would depend totally on how quickly you became "captivated"...If it was instant, slow down, get a grip on actions and emotions, and let the process of getting to know each other through light banter and interaction on various threads pave the way to making "timely" personal contact ...If you move too fast or push too hard you could appear desperate or worse!...If rebuffed, you thank them for their honesty and move on...By bowing out gracefully, you are respecting their feelings and leaving the door open should they have a change of heart...That will be $150.00, cash only please!
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When you meet someone that catches your eye, captivates your mind, and pulls on your heart until it’s almost impossible for you to think about anything, or anybody else, in other words, you’ve got it really bad for this unique someone, what will you do to convince him or her of your sincere fascination and desire to get to know them? And, if they rebuff your first advance, as strangers often do, but don’t actually tell you to drop dead, do you give up and move on, or hang around and try to make head way, slowly but steadily? I would just tell him upfront I am interested and really want to get to know him better, if he doesn't respond in a postive way, I would just move on. Most men if they liked you would respond nicely and take it from there to start up a friendship. thanks toody... do we women get a bad reputation among the men for being a flirt, or man chaser, if we are aggressive in speaking first? |
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Edited by
AthenaRose2
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Sat 02/09/13 10:22 AM
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When you meet someone that catches your eye, captivates your mind, and pulls on your heart until it’s almost impossible for you to think about anything, or anybody else, in other words, you’ve got it really bad for this unique someone, what will you do to convince him or her of your sincere fascination and desire to get to know them? And, if they rebuff your first advance, as strangers often do, but don’t actually tell you to drop dead, do you give up and move on, or hang around and try to make head way, slowly but steadily? If you're talking about someone on a dating site, there is not one specific answer to this Athena because the best way to handle it would depend on the circumstances...I gather from the opening post that you mean someone you have either had conversations with through email, etc ...OR...someone you gained exposure to on the boards but have yet to contact...If it is the first, someone you are in contact with off the boards, you should tell them how you feel and ask for a meeting...In other words, put the ball in their court...If it is someone who caught your attention in forums, how to handle would depend totally on how quickly you became "captivated"...If it was instant, slow down, get a grip on actions and emotions, and let the process of getting to know each other through light banter and interaction on various threads pave the way to making "timely" personal contact ...If you move too fast or push too hard you could appear desperate or worse!...If rebuffed, you thank them for their honesty and move on...By bowing out gracefully, you are respecting their feelings and leaving the door open should they have a change of heart...That will be $150.00, cash only please!
I know this sounds ridiculous Leigh, but I find myself timid even when it comes to looking at peoples profiles because it somehow feels like I'm snooping... I have looked at some here at Mingle, but mostly after they'v looked at mine first... and I've never made first contact with a man concerning my personal feelings because I think I would be too forward... although I don't have a problem contacting them if we're already friends... I know these are old fashioned standards and I want to try and upgrade myself into 2013... but not going from one extreme to the other... once rebuffed though, we women don't try a second time, right? We wait to see if they contact us after they've had time to digest our interest? I really do appreciate your advice... I can write you a check and make it out to cash, but I'll have to post date...
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I'm quite a resilient person, so if a guy I was really into, turned me down, I would probably have a little cry about it, but wouldn't give up just yet. . Not in a stalkerish way. I mean I would just perhaps
still wait in the wings for a more appropriate time to maybe ask him again. Though, I can move on, but not very easily at first. Hi Sarah... my predicament is embarrassing... I've never approached a man in a serious way to reveal my feelings for him, and I was wondering if there are ways and means to go about it... and if one way didn't work, is there a plan B? Not sure a Plan B would work. I just try to move on and forget about it. If he's interested, he will do something to make it happen, even if he can't communicate very well. |
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I'm quite a resilient person, so if a guy I was really into, turned me down, I would probably have a little cry about it, but wouldn't give up just yet. . Not in a stalkerish way. I mean I would just perhaps
still wait in the wings for a more appropriate time to maybe ask him again. Though, I can move on, but not very easily at first. Hi Sarah... my predicament is embarrassing... I've never approached a man in a serious way to reveal my feelings for him, and I was wondering if there are ways and means to go about it... and if one way didn't work, is there a plan B? Not sure a Plan B would work. I just try to move on and forget about it. If he's interested, he will do something to make it happen, even if he can't communicate very well. ok... I know some of the guys who have contacted me and disclosed their interest don't give up after I've turned them down, they keep coming back asking for my attention. So, I didn't know if we women do that too, or if because we are women the dating rules are different for us? |
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Edited by
Toodygirl5
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Sat 02/09/13 01:09 PM
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When you meet someone that catches your eye, captivates your mind, and pulls on your heart until it’s almost impossible for you to think about anything, or anybody else, in other words, you’ve got it really bad for this unique someone, what will you do to convince him or her of your sincere fascination and desire to get to know them? And, if they rebuff your first advance, as strangers often do, but don’t actually tell you to drop dead, do you give up and move on, or hang around and try to make head way, slowly but steadily? I would just tell him upfront I am interested and really want to get to know him better, if he doesn't respond in a postive way, I would just move on. Most men if they liked you would respond nicely and take it from there to start up a friendship. thanks toody... do we women get a bad reputation among the men for being a flirt, or man chaser, if we are aggressive in speaking first? Yes, sometimes we do. But I don't care what others think about the way I do things. There are Men, who like aggressive women, and it saves time, waiting to see, if a guy is interesed or not. Most guys I know like "flirts". Sometimes men are dating a woman, and they still like "flirts" from other women. If a man is not Married, he is not taken. Dating is not a real committment, he just usually getting milk free. I am not over aggressive or Pushy if he is not interested in me, I move on.
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When you meet someone that catches your eye, captivates your mind, and pulls on your heart until it’s almost impossible for you to think about anything, or anybody else, in other words, you’ve got it really bad for this unique someone, what will you do to convince him or her of your sincere fascination and desire to get to know them? And, if they rebuff your first advance, as strangers often do, but don’t actually tell you to drop dead, do you give up and move on, or hang around and try to make head way, slowly but steadily? I make one pass and that's it. |
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I Can't take Being Rebuffed, so I always Prefer not 2 Spell it Out in Plain Words. I tease her when I Can and hope She Likes it and Me. Dat way We Both Slowly find Out we Like each other and...
On the Other Hand, I'd Like 2 be told if Someone Feels dat way 4 Me, cos I Know I won't Make dem Feel Bad for Telling Me |
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When you meet someone that catches your eye, captivates your mind, and pulls on your heart until it’s almost impossible for you to think about anything, or anybody else, in other words, you’ve got it really bad for this unique someone, what will you do to convince him or her of your sincere fascination and desire to get to know them? And, if they rebuff your first advance, as strangers often do, but don’t actually tell you to drop dead, do you give up and move on, or hang around and try to make head way, slowly but steadily? I would just tell him upfront I am interested and really want to get to know him better, if he doesn't respond in a postive way, I would just move on. Most men if they liked you would respond nicely and take it from there to start up a friendship. thanks toody... do we women get a bad reputation among the men for being a flirt, or man chaser, if we are aggressive in speaking first? Yes, sometimes we do. But I don't care what others think about the way I do things. There are Men, who like aggressive women, and it saves time, waiting to see, if a guy is interesed or not. Most guys I know like "flirts". Sometimes men are dating a woman, and they still like "flirts" from other women. If a man is not Married, he is not taken. Dating is not a real committment, he just usually getting milk free. I am not over aggressive or Pushy if he is not interested in me, I move on.
Okay, cool… I get the picture… thanks for the information… 
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When you meet someone that catches your eye, captivates your mind, and pulls on your heart until it’s almost impossible for you to think about anything, or anybody else, in other words, you’ve got it really bad for this unique someone, what will you do to convince him or her of your sincere fascination and desire to get to know them? And, if they rebuff your first advance, as strangers often do, but don’t actually tell you to drop dead, do you give up and move on, or hang around and try to make head way, slowly but steadily? I make one pass and that's it. Okay, hippie... to get a man's opinion on this please... let's say you told a woman you're interested and she turns you down for legit reasons, will you give her a rain check for her to come to you later because she is interested and is now available, if you're not taken by then of course. |
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