the direct approach is best. i guarantee i guarantee if you pull a "cathy bates in misery" the person you are interested in will take notice

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Hi ,

I think that completely depends on the situation , if you want something real bad , i doubt you will give up because of a little nudge!!!

Also depends on one's purpose and conviction.

I'm quite a resilient person, so if a guy I was really into, turned me down, I would probably have a little cry about it, but wouldn't give up just yet. . Not in a stalkerish way. I mean I would just perhaps still wait in the wings for a more appropriate time to maybe ask him again. Though, I can move on, but not very easily at first.

To be honest I usually just suffer in silence.

When you meet someone that catches your eye, captivates your mind,
and pulls on your heart until it’s almost impossible for you to think about anything, or anybody else,

in other words, you’ve got it really bad for this unique someone,
what will you do to convince him or her of your sincere fascination
and desire to get to know them?

And, if they rebuff your first advance, as strangers often do, but
don’t actually tell you to drop dead, do you give up and move on,
or hang around and try to make head way, slowly but steadily?

When you meet someone that catches your eye, captivates your mind,
and pulls on your heart until it’s almost impossible for you to think about anything, or anybody else,

in other words, you’ve got it really bad for this unique someone,
what will you do to convince him or her of your sincere fascination
and desire to get to know them?

And, if they rebuff your first advance, as strangers often do, but
don’t actually tell you to drop dead, do you give up and move on,
or hang around and try to make head way, slowly but steadily?

I would just tell him upfront I am interested and really want to get to know him better, if he doesn't respond in a postive way, I would just move on. Most men if they liked you would respond nicely and take it from there to start up a friendship.

If you're talking about someone on a dating site, there is not one specific answer to this Athena because the best way to handle it would depend on the circumstances...I gather from the opening post that you mean someone you have either had conversations with through email, etc ...OR...someone you gained exposure to on the boards but have yet to contact...If it is the first, someone you are in contact with off the boards, you should tell them how you feel and ask for a meeting...In other words, put the ball in their court...If it is someone who caught your attention in forums, how to handle would depend totally on how quickly you became "captivated"...If it was instant, slow down, get a grip on actions and emotions, and let the process of getting to know each other through light banter and interaction on various threads pave the way to making "timely" personal contact ...If you move too fast or push too hard you could appear desperate or worse!...If rebuffed, you thank them for their honesty and move on...By bowing out gracefully, you are respecting their feelings and leaving the door open should they have a change of heart...That will be $150.00, cash only please!

Hi Sarah... my predicament is embarrassing... I've never approached a
man in a serious way to reveal my feelings for him, and I was wondering
if there are ways and means to go about it... and if one way didn't
work, is there a plan B?

Not sure a Plan B would work. I just try to move on and forget about it. If he's interested, he will do something to make it happen, even if he can't communicate very well.

thanks toody... do we women get a bad reputation among the men for being a flirt, or man chaser, if we are aggressive in speaking first?

When you meet someone that catches your eye, captivates your mind,
and pulls on your heart until it’s almost impossible for you to think about anything, or anybody else,

in other words, you’ve got it really bad for this unique someone,
what will you do to convince him or her of your sincere fascination
and desire to get to know them?

And, if they rebuff your first advance, as strangers often do, but
don’t actually tell you to drop dead, do you give up and move on,
or hang around and try to make head way, slowly but steadily?

Yes, sometimes we do. But I don't care what others think about the way I do things. There are Men, who like aggressive women, and it saves time, waiting to see, if a guy is interesed or not. Most guys I know like "flirts". Sometimes men are dating a woman, and they still like "flirts" from other women.
If a man is not Married, he is not taken. Dating is not a real committment, he just usually getting milk free. I am not over aggressive or Pushy if he is not interested in me, I move on.

I make one pass and that's it.