If you've never met the person, you're not in love with them. You're in love with an idea of who you want them to be. The person is a made up fantasy because you've filled in the empty spaces. No one will ever be as perfect as your imagination. So, you're destined for disappointment.

I used to believe this and to a certain extent it is true. Nevertheless, you can't speak to someone on the internet for months without getting a reasonable idea of what they are like and whether or not there could potentially be something between you, assuming that they aren't just a total liar.

I met someone on here. We had stuff in common and a friendship developed. I told her that I had a good feeling about her and that I thought that she was my kind of girl. I looked forward to getting her messages every day and I was extremely honest and open about myself and my feelings. It is true that I kept telling her that what I want is a proper girlfriend and without an actual meeting none of it was real. We connected at some level though and when we did meet and I asked her why shhhhe had made that decision she said that there had been something about what I had said in my emails that made her feel that it was right. Neither of us was sure how it was going to work out but who can ever really be sure about that even with someone that they've known for years?

By all means be careful when you do this and don't go about telling people that you only know from the internet and perhaps a couple of phone calls that you are in love with them. You can develop genuine feelings for them nevertheless and it can be romantic. If it isn't romantic it isn't going anywhere anyway and it's only romantic if you think that it might be going somewhere.

Yes, you are probably in love with what you want them to be but what you want them to be may just be your girlfriend and you may be prepared to just accept everything else about them if they are prepared to accept you for who you are as well.