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Traditional the man pays. Least that's old school. What is the source of that tradition? Why should the tradition be kept? David with the keen follow-up! I would be led to believe the source of tradition was in the "courting rules" from back in the day. Besides impressing/lavishing your would-be beau, showing that you aren't a tight-wad, and that you would provide for her, she didn't have any loot because she didn't work. The tradition has been negated in many regards (movement!) by the latter but should be retained for the former. |
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chivalry is dead, it seems. 
i don't think i've ever been on a first date where the guy didn't insist on paying. i must be old school. ;) In this one late - sorry! CHIVALRY!? 
I, for one, have ALWAYS had issues with this phrase & concept. I thought we were equals? Yeah, I know statistically men make more loot than women, but this mentality could be taken as an affront to the always-present women's equality movement... For me, I'm paying because: 1. I got it like that 2. I want to show how I don't obsess about money and to illustrate that I am willing to share with those in my life 3. I just so happen to have a stack in my wallet. If I don't, I will say so, and ask her to pay - because we're equal. Note: the above post contains ~6% sarcasm, 93% just me. Good post; it segways into a topic that is near-n-dear to my heart = relationship equality. I grew up riding horseback. In doing so, I noticed that the horse done had a mind of its own. In order to test this new-found observation, I kicked it good and it took right off. Long story short, I like to see if they will pay and see what she does. Dating is an experiment. |
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Been out with enough cheapskates to know to cover myself.
If the guy is too cheap to cover his own @zz, oh well.
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So easy, right? The One who Makes the Lunch Proposal.
In My Country tho, the Man seems 2 Pay for Everything |
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Edited by
pennyg281
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Thu 02/07/13 12:56 AM
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If im the one who invites him out, I have no problem paying or going dutch if he suggests it. If he pays for the first date and things go well I usually offer to pay the next time or invite him over for a good home cooked meal . . and maybe dessert
 
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OK, you met someone online. They seem nice on the phone and in email. You decide to meet for lunch. How do you bring up who is going to pay or if you are going to go dutch. What do you think? I don't see a problem with each person paying for their own. |
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Edited by
kissablekiss
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Thu 02/07/13 03:11 AM
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If he asked me out of course he should pay ..
Can't be asking women out and can't pay #cheap Lol If I asked him out I would difinately pay he better not order the lobster jk 
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If I'm inviting her,I pay. If she invites me, I'd assume she's paying.
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Been out with enough cheapskates to know to cover myself. If the guy is too cheap to cover his own @zz, oh well.
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OK, you met someone online. They seem nice on the phone and in email. You decide to meet for lunch. How do you bring up who is going to pay or if you are going to go dutch. What do you think? I always insist on going dutch. |
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OK, you met someone online. They seem nice on the phone and in email. You decide to meet for lunch. How do you bring up who is going to pay or if you are going to go dutch. What do you think? If he grabs the check when it's set down, I always ask how much my half is and offer to pay my share. Or, if it's not a first date, and he's paid previously, I'll offer to pay the whole thing. |
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I always pay on a first date.
I take her to the grocery store and let her eat all the free samples she wants. 
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I always pay on a first date. I take her to the grocery store and let her eat all the free samples she wants.
Nice. I hear Costco has a nice selection of freebies.
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I always pay on a first date. I take her to the grocery store and let her eat all the free samples she wants.
Nice. I hear Costco has a nice selection of freebies.
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If he asked me out of course he should pay .. Can't be asking women out and can't pay #cheap Lol If I asked him out I would difinately pay he better not order the lobster jk
Kiss, I would buy you Lobster. 
This summer there was so much the prices were unbelievably low! I ate quite a few lobster in 2012. They were excellent. 
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chivalry is dead, it seems.
i don't think i've ever been on a first date where the guy didn't insist on paying. i must be old school. ;) I am old school, I always pay for the pleasure of her company. |
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OK, you met someone online. They seem nice on the phone and in email. You decide to meet for lunch. How do you bring up who is going to pay or if you are going to go dutch. What do you think? I don't see a problem with each person paying for their own. I usually meet for coffee or something small for any intial meeting. I always offer to buy. If she insists she wants to pay her own way I wonder if it is because "she just isn't that into me".
If she is really strapped for cash and she wants to pay her own way, then she probably really is not that into me. That is pretty lame. If she insists on paying for her own way and she is actually well-off then she may or may not be into me...so that doesn't help much.
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OK, you met someone online. They seem nice on the phone and in email. You decide to meet for lunch. How do you bring up who is going to pay or if you are going to go dutch. What do you think? I don't see a problem with each person paying for their own. I usually meet for coffee or something small for any intial meeting. I always offer to buy. If she insists she wants to pay her own way I wonder if it is because "she just isn't that into me".
If she is really strapped for cash and she wants to pay her own way, then she probably really is not that into me. That is pretty lame. If she insists on paying for her own way and she is actually well-off then she may or may not be into me...so that doesn't help much.
If a woman fusses with her hair, etc while being with you it is a sign she wants to look good for you, I've been told. |
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Edited by
oldsage
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Fri 02/08/13 12:22 PM
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If the "GENTLEMAN" has a romantic interest in the LADY & has any "MANNERS/INTEGRITY; he will pay the bill with NO SECOND thoughts.
If it is 2 friends getting together for lunch; they should discuss the topic & agree on what will be done. Bottom line is the matter should be settled in private by the people involved. MANNERS & PERSONAL INTEGRITY are how I base ALL MY DECISIONS; wish others still did the same. |
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OK, you met someone online. They seem nice on the phone and in email. You decide to meet for lunch. How do you bring up who is going to pay or if you are going to go dutch. What do you think? I don't see a problem with each person paying for their own. I usually meet for coffee or something small for any intial meeting. I always offer to buy. If she insists she wants to pay her own way I wonder if it is because "she just isn't that into me".
If she is really strapped for cash and she wants to pay her own way, then she probably really is not that into me. That is pretty lame. If she insists on paying for her own way and she is actually well-off then she may or may not be into me...so that doesn't help much.
Guys actually believe a woman isn't into them simply because they've offered to pay their half of the bill? |
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