Is jealousy ever a form of love and attention?
Or is it always considered a turn off?

it's a relationship killer....jmhO

Jealousy is a direct byproduct of love and possession. You can’t have one without the other. It’s human nature to instinctively protect one’s turf, for lack of a better word. It can begin from being hurt, such as ones pride from being disrespected, then can escalate into anger, rage. Why would jealousy be considered a turn off, when it is a natural reaction, an emotion elicited from an external stimuli? The intensity of the reaction can be controlled, or allowed to run rampant, so perhaps uncontrolled jealousy would be considered a turn off because it can be dangerous, even life threatening. JMHO…

well, a little bit doesn't hurt

Very well said, i totally agree with you. You talk like a psychologist.

You know, that is exactly what I was going to say, only more wordy of course ...Key being "a little bit" combined with how it is delivered ...BUT, I tend to agree with your first response and with this...


Understanding Jealousy:

As emotions go, jealousy is neither subtle nor kind. But it is definitely complex, encompassing feelings that range from fear of abandonment to rage to humiliation. Jealousy strikes both men and women when they perceive a third-party threat to a valued relationship, distinguishes it from envy, which involves a desire something someone else has. Conventional wisdom holds that jealousy is a necessary emotion because it preserves social bonds—but it more often destroys them, and can give rise to relationship violence.

http://www.psychologytoday.com/basics/jealousy

Yeah; I think jealousy is childish. If you are jealous; then that is a clear signal that you don't trust me and personally I can't be bothered with someone acting like a child. Yep; its a complete turn off. People really need to get a hold of themselves.

Agree Navy ...Who the hell wants to walk around on a short leash ....If you can't trust your man or woman, throw them back and keep on fishing!!

It's natural.....and he/she that's not jealous is not in love.

Exactly. When I date; I want to date an adult not babysit a child.

Amen sister! ....My babies are raised, it's my turn now!!

in other words jealousy is condiment for love?
i'll take mine without the ketchup please...

Hold the mayo!

and BINGO was his namo

I can catch them, but hate to clean em.

I'm not sure.

You would have to ask the people who are jealous of me because I'm a Melmacian.

I agree with jealosy being a bad thing but what about that one situation when your partner notices a person that keeps coming around? Keeps threatening your position with the one you love? Do you lay back and let it work itself out? What if you take that same senerio and lets say your partner doesnt even show they care that there is someone trying to wedge between you? Is protecting what's yours different than jealousy?

I don't think I've ever been troubled with jealously. I don't own anyone. I've also always seen all relationships as temporary (even if the best thing happens, one of you will die). I enjoy a woman's company while it lasts and remember her fondly after she's gone. If she wants to leave me, I cannot stop her. If she'd prefer the company of someone else to me, please, go, be happy. We have only one life.

If someone is is hanging around your partner enough to make you feel insecure about the relationship, you communicate that clearly and concisely to them...If the relationship is solid your partner will take care of the problem....If your partner doesn't care that there is someone trying to come between you, he is not going to care (or stick around) if you turn in to a raging control freak...Why would you even consider a partner yours as in "protecting what's yours"....Being in a relationship (no matter the context) is not ownership...If you want to own something, buy a car or a piece of furniture....