Jealousy is a huge turn-off.

Just for the record...this is not personal to my circumstances.
This topic is about a friend and is just for my curiosity.

I do however, feel pretty good when my man steps up and runs off a guy that is only hanging around trying to get to me. It shows me he is willing to protect what he has and he loves me enough to care. If people are free to come and go in your life, then the possibility of losing that person to someone else is very real. Sometimes people are easily influenced when there are troubles in a relationship, and having someone threatening around during that time can cause a permanent mistake in weak moments to make your relationship even worse, or end it all together.
If my man saw another man hanging around and trying to take me away, but my man didn't care?? I'd worry that he really doesn't care whether I stick around or not. So I posted this to see what others would say.

I guess I'm not talking about immature jealousy about everything someone does. Or keeping someone on a short leash. Just a general display that someone cares whether you are with them or not. I personally cannot keep throwing back someone over everything, that will ensure staying single forever.

I think not feeling/showing it even a little bit would mean that to me too.

Someone can show they care about you without showing jealousy.

AH! So! you said:
"If someone is is hanging around your partner enough to make you feel insecure about the relationship, you communicate that clearly and concisely to them.."
You skipped something here I think....
In order for you to even type that sentence...You felt jealousy to have the conversation with your partner. That's what I was talking about. Imagine being with someone that didn't even CARE to have that conversation with you. This is the essence of my post I think you and Navy misunderstood.

One step further....Jealousy should not be mistaken for love, an expression of love...It is more often than not a sign of low self esteem, insecurity, control issues, or worse!...

I think its natural to feel jealous but its how you deal with it that counts.

I think its natural to feel jealous but its how you deal with it that counts.

True... and of course ....but you'd never feel even the slightest bit insecure about your relationship's future if your man never cared there were other men trying to get to you?

Insecurity and jealousy are not the same....I said "if your are feeling insecure, not jealous....Insecurity can cause jealously if you do not deal with it...By talking to your partner, you are dealing with feelings of insecurity in order to prevent jealousy from taking over and jeopardizing the relationship....

Not at all. It would show me he respected me and more importantly trusted for being able to deal with other men hitting on me. It would make me feel more secure knowing that he trusted me to say "I am not interested." He can't be with me 24/7 as there are times I have to go away for training. If there is jealousy; there is no trust; therefore no relationship. I understand jealousy is a big thing when you are younger but as we age; we should be more reasonable and not let our emotions control us. JMO

Here is the proper definition of jealousy:

"mental uneasiness from suspicion or fear of rivalry, or unfaithfulness.
vigilance in maintaining or guarding something."
Second sentence is what I was referring to.

Insecurity:

lack of confidence or assurance; self-doubt:

I would never feel a lack of confidence about myself, but I am not in control of my partner, so maybe I have lack of confidence about my relationship or my partner's intentions for it. I think insecurity does lead to jealousy, but is not what I am asking about.
*Hypothetically speaking*

Hmmm... Ok, thank you for giving me this to think about. Once again I have proved that there are a lot of differences in people. Thank you Navy.

Jealousy is an emotion of possession. IMO.

You are welcome. I just finished saying in another post; we all have different opinions on these subjects and though we may not agree with them; I do respect them.

It maybe a form of attention never love. Love is not jealous.
Jeolousy is the "green eyed" monster.

It is a turn off for me! My ex was jeolous but it is a form of abuse in many cases.

All I know is that it is an emotion that the majority of us have. However, the degree to which you have it varies from person to person. Some people are just extremely jealous, and I have dated a few of those. Also dated a few who claimed they did not get jealous, and yet, when they would see me conversing with a female from work, or perhaps just chatting with a girl while at a game, oh boy would you see the jealousy. Lol. I won't lie. I can have those moments too. You know your lady is with you, and she is committed to you, so you really shouldn't have any jealousy. And yet, perhaps a guy approaches her and then all of a sudden it makes you protective. Lol. Hey! It happens. But to be a person who is so extremely jealous that it is borderline psychotic? Yeah....I tend to make my way past those types.