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Topic: why does men rarely cry?
yana_cieci2 Joined Mon 12/31/12 Posts: 50	Sat 02/16/13 02:17 AM
I never see a guy crying in front of me....but I hope I can find someone who can cry when he miss me.....

yana_cieci2 Joined Mon 12/31/12 Posts: 50	Sat 02/16/13 02:22 AM
I never see a guy crying in front of me....but I hope I can find someone who can cry when he miss me.....

MetalShadow6 Joined Thu 02/14/13 Posts: 924	Sat 02/16/13 10:25 AM
Historically men were taught not to show their feelings. However is that it was ok for them to so the emotion called anger. As for me, there are a few things that will get me teary eyed.

lexxielicks Joined Tue 06/12/12 Posts: 74	Sat 02/16/13 10:33 AM
Its not just men that don't cry some women don't either. I don't cry. Its not because I was raised not to. I just believe crying makes you weak and vunerable and I want to stay strong. Plus its just a waste of tears. Crying doesn't solve anything. It will only make you feel worse.

MetalShadow6 Joined Thu 02/14/13 Posts: 924	Sat 02/16/13 10:51 AM
Its not just men that don't cry some women don't either. I don't cry. Its not because I was raised not to. I just believe crying makes you weak and vunerable and I want to stay strong. Plus its just a waste of tears. Crying doesn't solve anything. It will only make you feel worse. I disagree. When you get hurt emotionally, it seems that a good cry can help.

MsSly Joined Sat 12/01/12 Posts: 51	Sat 02/16/13 03:27 PM Edited by MsSly on Sat 02/16/13 03:32 PM
Men cry, sometimes to much. And most all whine. Sometimes it's warranted sometimes it's not. Op, it might just be your age but even when I was your age I had seen many men cry. And imo they have the same right to cry as women. If you're hoping they cry because they miss you ect... maybe they just don't or wait until you're not around to see. I sure as heck have never enjoyed seeing someone crying because they were hurting... only happy tears. Sly

Eli13 Joined Fri 02/01/13 Posts: 10	Sat 02/16/13 03:43 PM
Lots of men cry, we just manage to hide it well and put on a brave face. I lost my Mum nearly 20 years ago now and at certain times of the year or events where other grandparents are beaming with pride, I shed a tear or two. It's nothing to be embarrassed about.

Winlei Joined Sat 01/26/13 Posts: 4048	Sat 02/16/13 08:05 PM
its just boz he dnt want others to come to knw that he is weak nd he has emotions thats not a way showing that you are strong either... I prefer men who cry than those who pretend that they're tough...man who shows emotion are passionate because they became sensitive of the things around them....sometimes we have to accept defeat.i didn't say that everytime your hurt you cry.. To answer the topic, maybe because they're raised to be the strong one but it doesn't mean that they do not cry.

Winlei Joined Sat 01/26/13 Posts: 4048	Sat 02/16/13 08:05 PM
its just boz he dnt want others to come to knw that he is weak nd he has emotions thats not a way showing that you are strong either... I prefer men who cry than those who pretend that they're tough...man who shows emotion are passionate because they became sensitive of the things around them....sometimes we have to accept defeat.i didn't say that everytime your hurt you cry.. To answer the topic, maybe because they're raised to be the strong one but it doesn't mean that they do not cry.

Dodo_David Joined Fri 08/13/10 Posts: 48926	Sat 02/16/13 09:06 PM
its just boz he dnt want others to come to knw that he is weak nd he has emotions thats not a way showing that you are strong either... I prefer men who cry than those who pretend that they're tough...man who shows emotion are passionate because they became sensitive of the things around them....sometimes we have to accept defeat.i didn't say that everytime your hurt you cry.. To answer the topic, maybe because they're raised to be the strong one but it doesn't mean that they do not cry. In my case, I choose when and where to cry. Being that my times of grief are very personal, I reserve my crying for times when I am alone or with a close family member. When my late wife was alive, I cried in her presence when another family member perished. During the last year, I have cried on my daughter's shoulder when sharing with her my sorrow about something very personal, something that she needed to know about.

Cheryline22 Joined Tue 12/04/12 Posts: 98	Sun 02/17/13 12:00 AM
Give me one good reason why a man should cry in public. she didn't say in public but rather why not cry in front of your loved ones or friends and family if youve been hurt?

Cheryline22 Joined Tue 12/04/12 Posts: 98	Sun 02/17/13 12:02 AM
Its not just men that don't cry some women don't either. I don't cry. Its not because I was raised not to. I just believe crying makes you weak and vunerable and I want to stay strong. Plus its just a waste of tears. Crying doesn't solve anything. It will only make you feel worse. wow,good for you i cry easily,too emotional its not tht i love to cry, i just cant help it i cry when watching sad movies,hearing tragedy(even if its none of my business),when someone sing beautifully etc...

Cheryline22 Joined Tue 12/04/12 Posts: 98	Sun 02/17/13 12:04 AM
... I'm not a man. Thank God! Hmmm...Do aliens believe in God? lol

Cheryline22 Joined Tue 12/04/12 Posts: 98	Sun 02/17/13 12:10 AM
I do not think it has much or anything to do with ego or anything like that..the various circumstances,ordeals men go through putting two and two,to keep family together,having to face and overcome terrible obstacles,etc....are some reasons men seem to be kind of immune to crying! But that does,nt mean men at times don't shed tears...personally,i have been through real painful periods that hurt way deep down,that took me days to get by,that made me kinda wailed somehow, but i did'nt cry, not because i did'nt want to,the tears did'nt just flow...all the same we all have tears moving emotions. wow,youre a strong man hmm,same here,ive been through a lot of pains too,even now,the hurt never stop,but am kindda immuned to it,there was times i cried every night before sleep and i didnt talk to anyone,i locked myself in the room,but year after year,i stopped crying for the same issue rather i chose to fight to get over it,so wish me luck,am stil in the progress