Topic: perfect lad getting messed about
finnigan417's photo
Mon 01/28/13 12:55 PM
Hi guys , why is it i constanly get cheated on or messed about .im generally the nicest lad .loyal and comitted and a laugh.id do anything for anyone and spend my last penny on a girl.i dont understand ??

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Mon 01/28/13 01:17 PM
Maybe if you spend a long time apart, they realize they might want someone who can be with them all the time. Your career isn't exactly an easy option when it comes to relationships. At least you are doing what you want career-wise. The least she could do is tell you if there's a problem. I don't understand why some (not you) just blindly go into relationships, knowing what they have to face if they hate it so much.

finnigan417's photo
Mon 01/28/13 02:30 PM
I understand what your saying . Suppose im too nice but then again the right girl obviously hasnt come along and wen they do they will be happy with me aslong as they know wot they want lol :-)

SimplicityAtItsBest's photo
Mon 01/28/13 02:34 PM
Dating world: Trial and error.
Bottom line: Be yourself.

Pointless trying to please others. :wink:

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Mon 01/28/13 02:41 PM

Dating world: Trial and error.
Bottom line: Be yourself.

Pointless trying to please others. :wink:


Her absence hasn't affected her wisdom.

SimplicityAtItsBest's photo
Mon 01/28/13 02:58 PM


Dating world: Trial and error.
Bottom line: Be yourself.

Pointless trying to please others. :wink:


Her absence hasn't affected her wisdom.


You know it!


JustANormalPerson's photo
Mon 01/28/13 03:04 PM

Dating world: Trial and error.
Bottom line: Be yourself.

Pointless trying to please others. :wink:


I agree.

Dodo_David's photo
Mon 01/28/13 03:35 PM
First, there is no such person as a perfect person. So, the title of this thread is misleading at best.

Second, how a woman defines "nice" may be different from the way that a man defines "nice".

motowndowntown's photo
Mon 01/28/13 04:16 PM
Being nice doesn't mean you have to turn yourself into a doormat.

Syncope's photo
Mon 01/28/13 04:37 PM

Being nice doesn't mean you have to turn yourself into a doormat.


This plus speaking as a guy whos been where you are, Its all about how you pick them, I had a terrible habbit of picking up easy girls and expecting them to change and be loyal to me.

finnigan417's photo
Mon 01/28/13 06:13 PM
Thanks for comments guys.oh and thanks for yours dodo but i disagree seen as if you where in love with sumone and where happy then they would be perfect. But in this post im referring to me being perfect in the sense im 100% commited,loyal,trust worthy . And just because i choose my words different to others means nothing i think .its about the person not the words .time will tell .:-)

Zimzane2's photo
Mon 01/28/13 06:58 PM

Hi guys , why is it i constanly get cheated on or messed about .im generally the nicest lad .loyal and comitted and a laugh.id do anything for anyone and spend my last penny on a girl.i dont understand ??



That question was asked before BC and it has been a mystery unveiled since the beginning of time.