I am a fairly new member.. and have never really done much with online dating.. I cant help but notice that so far no one has even viewed my profile.. I have been using the "Match" system with no luck, and even sending some nudges out here and there with almost no response... I dont think that I am a bad looking person.. I might not be prince charming but I had hoped to at least have SOME interactions.... please take a look at my profile and mail me some suggestions to help improve my experience here.. dont be shy and dont hold back.. critics welcome.

Time my good man! it takes time. I have been on here almost three years now and had two absolute failure dates so far in all that time. I have met people though through this site so really, you just got to put yourself "out there."

BTW, if she lives in Africa, and you will get this a lot, profile says Los Angeles or whatever but suddenly she is a student in Africa...

My money is that is not a woman!

Give us more of your likes and what you are hoping to find on this site.
also..what makes you stand out opposed to the other guys from Dallas, PA.

Finally, make the last photo of you in the car...your profile pic.

You look cuter.

Welcome and good luck!

The matching thing is useless unless the person you matched has a premium membership and who pays to go on a free dating site?

You are unlikely to get any response at all from nudges. A lot of women filter them out on these sites. You have to actually talk to them. Yeah, I know it's weird but women are like that.

I think your photos have a lost puppy quality to them. I think you'd do better if they gave a "I'm a man in charge of his own destiny" vibe.

Your profile is thin. It's almost not even there. Talk about your plans and goals for the future. Don't have nay? Make some! Talk about what fulfills you. Don't worry if it turns some women off. Not everyone is going to like you. Really put yourself into your profile. Give readers a feeling for who you are. It's also a good idea to through in some of your sense of humor. The ladies love a man that can make them smile.

Then talk about the kind of woman you'd like to meet. Be as specific as you can. Do you want a woman that stays home and does the cooking and cleaning or a full time carrier woman?

Don't worry about it getting too long. It'll only drive away the ones that wouldn't like you anyway. To the ones that likely will like you it won't seem long at all. It's like a good movie vs. a bad one.

Lastly, be unashamedly yourself. Anything you think is a flaw in yourself, present it as an asset. Highlight it! It's out flaws that make us unique.

Ok great, thank you all for your advice. I will definitly put some more work into the profile, and see what I can do about the pics.

Yea right, you thought you were gonna get laid the first night?
Ha! ha!
dream on bubba!

Hmmmm I read this and your profile and try to put myself in the age frame of the women who would consider responding to you; 20 something;probably with a kid of her own, some kind of job, and if she is looking on line too lots of options.

My guess is that you get overlooked the majority of the time before you ever get past the photo. Your not a bad looking guy but come on you break all the rules to get picked. No smile, goofy hat, facial hair, frumpy clothes, depressing submissive tone. You look like you maybe are 16 years old in the photo in the first photo and the rest are no more flattering. This is a visual medium.

This post is the typical whiney stuff that just gets delete clicked.

And your profile is this big block of text that most will not even bother to wade through. They are going to look where it says height,that might get them to scroll up and they see landscaper and you are dead in the water.

The whole firefighter rap just doesn't wash at true without any supporting photos so basiclly you are an seasonal worker who has a kid that will be first in time first in line and to your credit you say that but it doesn't seem clear that you are a real responsible dad when you are talking about helping others but can't grasp even the number of kids you are willing to bring into someone's life and how you are going to support them when you are only thinking about being an EMT. Now you show a pic of you with the books on a campus the plan might attract someone who is actually pulling themself forward too.

Nudges? A lot of that is which one you use and when. If you have a great profile and send it out in the morning on your way to work or actually catch someone on line yea maybe it generates a response but it is more like that obnoxious kid that won't be ignored or lazy guy who just goes through pictures as they rotate up clicking without reading profiles or taking the five minutes it would take to write a brief message to a specific lady.

I could go on about your profile but generally it is all over the place with out landing on a lot. If anyone was trying to connect it doesn't give much but sand to stand on as an impression.



The text of the profile

um.. wow .. ok I will consider some of your suggestions.. And thank you for your honesty it is refreshing. As far as the goofy hat faicial hair and clothes go, that is just me.. I know it may not be the most presentable look but it is my look.. I do not think it would be more productive to produce a false image of myself when I will really never look that way in person.. I do agree though about the smile.. I guess that would not hurt.. As for my daughter, I choose not to include much information about her or my activites with her on a public profile as I have no clue who is reading or viewing it. This is my first time really trying an online dating site so I am still open to suggestions. I will also see about getting a few pictures of myself in my turnout gear or maybe in one of the trucks... I guess a person could easily say they are something that they in fact are not. Thanks again for your honesty and please feel free to address any other issues you may notice.

Well I think you can reference if you are a custodial dad or not but I agree erring on the side of caution as a parent is smart.

So your look is to always wear a hat? Sorry I don't buy that. Surely you have the good manners to remove your hat when you are inside on a date which is what your intro picture is suppose to get accross. Snap shots lower down in your profile hey that is cool.

Owning a "Look" that clearly makes you unemployable, undateable, or untrustworthy is kind of a form of portable social suicide device. It kind of says I hate myself so much I am going to make you write me off before you even get a chance to like me. Then you also don't have to own the fact that maybe you are not prepared to date. That is ok when you are a kid but at twenty something you might want to think how important it is to you have a partner in life. Is that little scruff on your chin more important than getting into some scruff somewhere else? All things have realative value. You think women like some of the sacrifices they make for "Appeal"? I guarantee you they don't.