Do you guys ever feel the need to fill the loneliness around times where your friends, relatives and co-workers are all in relationships? Does anyone here feel better when they are completely alone or are you the type who prefers being around someone to kill the solitude?

well sad to say but i feel best alone since its all i know.. like my life growing up i taught and did all myself and things ive ever loved has left me in different ways all my life so i dont expect thing to stick with me lol... ya know?

I think everyone is alone, but not necessarily lonely. I enjoy solitude because it doesn't really have a negative connotation, as long as it's not excessive. Since I write I actually need solitude to focus, but only as much as I need life to inspire me.

My validation isn't primarily based around the lives of those around me though, but rather my own motivations. More than anything seeing the endless strings of failed relationships that my friends go through reinforces my belief that creating an actual connection is significantly more difficult than just finding someone temporarily sexually/intellectually stimulating.

So basically... when I'm lonely, I try to find solitude, because usually when I'm lonely that's the time when I most need to reflect on my longing for someone else and my inability to fulfill my own joys.

Eh, I just talk to the dog...

WHY IS EVERYONE YELLING AT ME?!?

Honestly; I keep so darn busy that I don't dwell on being alone and honestly with all the stuff I do; there are times I dream of being alone.

Where ever you go you take yourself with you.

So you might as well get used to being with yourself.

My friends, relatives are Not in relationships. Most people I go around are Single. I know a co-workers who is in a Bad marriage for 17 yrs. and calls me and emails me all the time. I would not want to be in a bad relationship, rather be single.

Do you guys ever feel the need to fill the loneliness around times where your friends, relatives and co-workers are all in relationships? Does anyone here feel better when they are completely alone or are you the type who prefers being around someone to kill the solitude?


yes often even when around family as far as being alone ive done that for many years an yes i get lonely as well usually try to find something to occupy my mind like puzzles or games online .never could fit in with the so called normal of the new age where its ok to screw people over or lie about my feelings an when alot of people ask they dont really want to know finding someone who is not so tight in life is hard either they tell you there god fearing right off the bat or they tell you there from another country the third conversation in an ask for money.i find it hard to meet one i like or feel comfortable talking with as i dont really want to start with someone elses kids an raise them.people are very different today morals drifted off along time ago an alot of people take pill that are said to help them with attitude or mental stability which only 2 out of 10 actually need so they act wierd an unnormal. true people are hard to find an when you do there often cussed an cursed by the ones who dont want others to find out the truth.as for me i am who i am ask an il tell ya what i do or dont .good luck on your search.:-)

Avid reader here so getting into my books works best alone. However...I never shy away from a party!

Being that I am a widower with children of my own, I think of myself as having been successful at love. Thus, I can be alone without feeling lonely.

I spend the vast majority of my time completely alone. I'm a truck driver and spend 4 to 6 weeks out on the road and get home for just 3 or 4 days. It is a choice I made, but it's hard. My first week out after home time I get very lonely and miss talking to people. After that I get used to it and don't even think about home. Then I get close to home time again (like now) and start looking forward to it see everyone.

Having access to the web is helpful. It feels like I have a social life even though I really don't.

It's also given me lots of time to think about what's really important to me. What I need to be happy and what doesn't matter. I own almost nothing anymore because I gave it all away rather than spend money on storing it.

This is the best way I have of reaching the goals I've set for myself in the shortest amount of time. Make as much money as I can while spending as little as I can. I pay no rent or utilities and that alone saves me a bundle each month.

Hey we are real people, so yes, you have a social life.

If not, then I have no social life either.