Who decides what immoral is for everyone?

The Immoral Police.

Seriously...each individual has their own set of morals. Whether or not anybody else agrees or disagrees with those morals shouldn't matter to anybody else but the individual.

Still, if a person chooses to commit adultery, then that person needs to have skin thick enough to withstand negative reactions that others have toward the adultery.

So Very True!

Sorry, b, sounds like you're going straight to h-e-double hockey sticks.

Why? She isn't any worse a sinner than anyone else.

hooray!
we'll be togetha forevaaa.

Woohoo!

Ha!...make sure you go down in style then ;-)

Ok, but I don't think b likes me in red.

Well you never know, til you give it a go.

Red is all the rage down there doncha know...has been for eons.

I don't know about you, but I'd rather be hanging out with angels.

I would not call you names, but I would think you were wrong and equally so to the man you slept with. I would dissasociate myself for the time being because even though your actions are none of my business, I would be uncomfortable continuing a friendship with some one who would make that choice. (based on what I have actually done in the past when my friends have knowingly created this type of drama) I would not lecture or call names tho - nor would I be a "sounding board" or involved in any other way because I am totally allergic to drama..........until u came to ur senses, then I would be there....somewhere

Nope. I would call HIM names but not you.

The onus is totally on HIM to stick to the vows he committed himself to and if he wasn’t cheating with her with you he’d be cheating on her with someone else.

immoral doesnt change , although individuals idea of 'what' is immoral does

if its immoral for one,, its immoral for EVERYONE, morality isnt based upon the person committing the act, but the act itself

immoral doesnt change , although individuals idea of 'what' is immoral does

if its immoral for one,, its immoral for EVERYONE, morality isnt based upon the person committing the act, but the act itself

IM curious though, because I logically understand this pov

that it is only ONE persons obligation to be honest in their commitment


if you had a business partner, who came in and robbed the business one day with an accomplice

would the same values still hold,,? That only the actual PARTNER had any obligation to you and the business? or wouldnt the other robber be equally 'guilty' of wrong doing,,,, even though they had no agreement with you?

not a judgment, just a thought

when you KNOWINGLY assist someone in cheating,,,you hold equal responsibility in my eyes,,,

I concur

Well Said!

I understand the point you’re making but in my mind, it’s not the same thing. Theft is against the law in most countries, adultery isn’t (in some countries) although I do agree that both parties are/would be equally responsible.

I’m not accepting of nor do I condone adultery but if a married man chooses to pursue a single woman, in my mind he is ultimately in the wrong. It’s not up to the single woman to remind him of his marital status. She hasn’t made a commitment to his wife, he has and it’s up to him to honour it. However, if a single woman chooses to pursue a married man, then she is in the wrong. It’s about who makes the approach.

IMO, you can’t force someone to uphold what is essentially a moral obligation. If two people share the same moral compass, then all well and good but if they don’t then....

The only people that I can legitimately impose my moral beliefs on are my children and only up until they reach certain age.