I think it depends on the woman as to whether or not she could deal with a man making less than her. But there are alot of women out there who don't mind taking care of a man. I don't get that but, he must be paying in other ways I guess.

just because he makes less doesn't mean that she should take care of him.

Oh no, I wasn't suggesting she takes care of him, I mean we are talking about a man who makes less, not a man who makes nothing.

On a separate note, I was saying there are women out there who will and do take care of men who don't work at all, and that, I don't get.

i think some men are. like me i have 4 kids, graduated from college twice, both good fields, own my own home and do not need to rely on a man for any of that. i believe some men are intimidated if the woman has more or makes more than he does as he maybe worried that he'd be unable to support his family and not feel like a man. but i also dont think its as big of a deal now a days then it was before.

i really don't get it either but what the hell. with some woman and men that stuff is a pattern.

financial, sexual, educational, spiritual and lifestyle differences always cause problems. some overcome them others cannot. but as far as intimidation is concerned, people intimidate not financial or other considerations. if the people involved do not seek to dominate or submit then it seems like almost anything can be worked out. even dominant/submissive relationships exist purposefully although i find this pathological (as a relationship type that is).

nevertheless, i have found that almost anything can be worked out if the couple can be flexible enough and there is a true caring love underlying the relationship.

i have always gone for extraordinarily passionate and ambitious women. we understand each other better! although at times there have been great financial and educational disparities they did not interfere. even some sexual disparities have been overcome - i am very demonstrative and she *was* a little shy/repressed...

but the closest and greatest have been when sexual, spiritual, educatonal and lifestyle were strongly correlated...financial was always a distant laggard in importance. but i am very flexible....

Hell know im not !!!
i love a woman whos got her sh!t straight!!
and ones that dont too!!
but intimadated?Hell no!

heck, im not intimidated by sucessful women i encourage it because im basically unsuccessful(but happy) so bring it on as long as those successful people treat me with respect as i do they!!!!!i think that the only women that a man would be intimidated by would be movie stars or super models if you like twigs!!!most put them on a pedestal and personal i think alot of them are not worth the headaches and they may make alot money but are they happy!!!im rambling now so ill stop!!! respect my authoriti!!!!!!!!!!

Baby...

Funny you should mention this. I made more than double $$$$ when I met my soon to be X-husband. That didn't bother me, until I began to feel like a paycheck instead of a wife!!!!!

>What about you ladies? Does it matter if a man earns less than you?

FlipFlops, I have been in that situation before where I earned more eventually, but did not start off that way mind you, but when it did you could feel the tension when money was discussed. It would not matter to me if a man earned less, but would want him to be okay with me earning more, so not an issue down the road....

I do agree to about the happiness vs successful....good point.

I can only speak from my own experience:

I do believe men are intimidated by me...not that i have everything going for me...and i have all this money...but i am very confidant...i go out...i dress very sophisticated and sexy....I guess i look very intimidating...but you know what i say to that.....if you are sooooo insecure within yourself..then you dont need to be checkin me out...i am confidant...and i want a man who is confidant...not one who is insecure...hells bells i think i have already been there...and done that song and dance....

GEEKY...YES.....let me tell you why...i have supported two different husabands....the first one was lazy...worked on again and off again....

MY second husband....he was an on again off again..plus i put him through two different schools...one computer tech...the other medical assistant....now with that said....i was the main bread winner out of my marriages..working two and three jobs....I wont and cant do that ever again....ever...well you get the point...

They have to make at least what i make or more....thats my rule....need i explain any more...LOL

Caveat: I might not agree with what I am saying, but I am just tossing ideas out there.

As a 28 yr old male, my sex drive is mellowing out, but still strong (At least I do not pop a bonner in between classes anymore and have to hide it with books ) But my fellow female sex drive is revving up.

Some studies have shown that we have much more in common than previously thought. Other studies have shown that males would rather prefer a beautiful lady working at minimum wage, while a female prefers a ”non-attractive" male making good money.

I am making a sweeping generalization, but males prefer looks while females prefer bread winners.

Would you “successful” females be happy with a “house husband?”


My guess, is that you would not be and it would create conflict.

Flipflop - "Would you “successful” females be happy with a “house husband?”

When I read that my first reaction was that both those terms have very negative connotations. Perhaps it shouldn't be so much about "labeling" or "defining" the role, but more about whatever works as a team. I know plenty of couples who "took turns" pursuing their careers or taking on non-traditional roles because that is what worked for them.

"successful" or not, "house husband" or not. The real question is whether or not we can be happy despite society's negative association with those two types of roles.

I kinda like the idea of my wife being the "bread-winner" and me managing the house while she is away, not to mention work on my book more...

...Then again, I've never been that "Macho" a guy, so I guess I never saw it as a "threat to my masculinity" or whatever. If she wants to be "my successful money-making Vixen", she'll get no arguments from me.

Somehow this got turned into 'women making more money' - that's not what I meant by success. Being successful is soooo much more than just a pay check....it's accomplishing what you want in life, it's raising children to become responsible adults, it's doing volunteer work at church or a homeless shelter or whatever. It's being a good parent, child, sibling, friend...


Definition: Success
Success
Noun
1. An event that accomplishes its intended purpose

Yes!
Most men don,t want to have a relationship with women that are more sucessful then them.
So be careful of the ones that do their intentions may be bad.

only intimidated by women that are pointing a gun at me . Success just means she has worked hard to accomplish where she has gotten .

Oh, well I can't see any man being intimidated by your intended definition of successful.

I say a huge resounding: "NO!!" what men do not like is to be bossed around by their wife in a show off humiliating manner; just like women do not like to be bossed around.
This is different to a woman even U wife being U boss on the job.
Men are proud to say: "My wife is a Doctor or engineer or school principal or rocket scientist etc
3 former common law wives I have had have worked for more than double my salary. One made me feel like I was living by her. I did not know that until we feel over her inviting man in the house whether I like it or not. Then when I erupted in speech, she put me out.