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Shiashu Joined Tue 10/02/12 Posts: 100	Tue 11/27/12 09:39 AM
Well once I took a long time to get to know someone over the internet and phone before, but then when we finally were together in person they ended up being physically and emotionally abusive. No, I don't mean a long time over the Internet. I mean in person. Well the people I've tried to get to know in person never give me the chance, they seem to expect an instant connection right off and if it isn't there they ignore me.

Zero_Effected Joined Sat 12/02/06 Posts: 18395	Tue 11/27/12 09:42 AM
No, I don't mean a long time over the Internet. I mean in person. absolutely agree here.. the internet is NOT the place to get to know someone.. it only gives a few indications of WHO they are.. providing they're speaking honest.. it's only face to face that allows us to REALLY know the other person.. ultimately the REAL truth lays with the old saying... "you don't really KNOW a person.... till you've LIVED with them!"

Ruth34611 Joined Sat 08/02/08 Posts: 32402	Tue 11/27/12 09:43 AM
Well once I took a long time to get to know someone over the internet and phone before, but then when we finally were together in person they ended up being physically and emotionally abusive. No, I don't mean a long time over the Internet. I mean in person. Well the people I've tried to get to know in person never give me the chance, they seem to expect an instant connection right off and if it isn't there they ignore me. Then give up and stop dating. Or pick yourself up, quit over analyzing everything and move on. Those are your choices.

Zero_Effected Joined Sat 12/02/06 Posts: 18395	Tue 11/27/12 09:45 AM
Well the people I've tried to get to know in person never give me the chance, they seem to expect an instant connection right off and if it isn't there they ignore me. then they're hiding their true identity and only trying to get a quick-fix.. they're not looking for something real.. you're better off NOT getting closer, so it all works out in the end.. frustrating? yes.. a sign of the times? seems to be.. but that doesn't mean you should sell yourself short.. chock it up to THEIR LOSS!

Shiashu Joined Tue 10/02/12 Posts: 100	Tue 11/27/12 09:45 AM
No, I don't mean a long time over the Internet. I mean in person. absolutely agree here.. the internet is NOT the place to get to know someone.. it only gives a few indications of WHO they are.. providing they're speaking honest.. it's only face to face that allows us to REALLY know the other person.. ultimately the REAL truth lays with the old saying... "you don't really KNOW a person.... till you've LIVED with them!" It's sort of hard, at least in my area to meet someone not through the internet.

Shiashu Joined Tue 10/02/12 Posts: 100	Tue 11/27/12 09:46 AM
Then give up and stop dating. Or pick yourself up, quit over analyzing everything and move on. Those are your choices. I'm attempting to move on, I'm just not very good at meeting people sometimes I think.

Ruth34611 Joined Sat 08/02/08 Posts: 32402	Tue 11/27/12 09:47 AM
No, I don't mean a long time over the Internet. I mean in person. absolutely agree here.. the internet is NOT the place to get to know someone.. it only gives a few indications of WHO they are.. providing they're speaking honest.. it's only face to face that allows us to REALLY know the other person.. ultimately the REAL truth lays with the old saying... "you don't really KNOW a person.... till you've LIVED with them!" Exactly! The Internet is a great place to be exposed to more people. Some of whom you may be interested in dating. But until you meet as friends you can't know if they are really someone you want to start a relationship with.

Ruth34611 Joined Sat 08/02/08 Posts: 32402	Tue 11/27/12 09:49 AM
No, I don't mean a long time over the Internet. I mean in person. absolutely agree here.. the internet is NOT the place to get to know someone.. it only gives a few indications of WHO they are.. providing they're speaking honest.. it's only face to face that allows us to REALLY know the other person.. ultimately the REAL truth lays with the old saying... "you don't really KNOW a person.... till you've LIVED with them!" It's sort of hard, at least in my area to meet someone not through the internet. You're a "yes, but" person. Good luck with that.

Zero_Effected Joined Sat 12/02/06 Posts: 18395	Tue 11/27/12 09:50 AM
It's sort of hard, at least in my area to meet someone not through the internet. meeting on the internet is one thing.. taking it to the next level is another.. I've met all my past 'dates' over the net for similar reasons.. I live in the middle of butt fudge nowhere AND I work from my home office.. I don't socialize as much as most do.. so I engage in chatting online here and thru email and go from there.. sometimes just using my GUT is my best guage.. we're only suggesting you don't chat forEVER online but just long enough to get a FEEL for the other.. then go for a coffee or walk or whatEVER floats your boat and meet face to face.. if the chemistry is there? take it one day at a time and just don't let your heart get ahead of reality

Shiashu Joined Tue 10/02/12 Posts: 100	Tue 11/27/12 09:52 AM
It's sort of hard, at least in my area to meet someone not through the internet. You're a "yes, but" person. Good luck with that. What I mean by that is that I'm a guy, looking for a guy, in a town where gay people are often shunned until they flee the town pretty much.

Shiashu Joined Tue 10/02/12 Posts: 100	Tue 11/27/12 09:53 AM
It's sort of hard, at least in my area to meet someone not through the internet. meeting on the internet is one thing.. taking it to the next level is another.. I've met all my past 'dates' over the net for similar reasons.. I live in the middle of butt fudge nowhere AND I work from my home office.. I don't socialize as much as most do.. so I engage in chatting online here and thru email and go from there.. sometimes just using my GUT is my best guage.. we're only suggesting you don't chat forEVER online but just long enough to get a FEEL for the other.. then go for a coffee or walk or whatEVER floats your boat and meet face to face.. if the chemistry is there? take it one day at a time and just don't let your heart get ahead of reality I think my problem with the last person might have been that the first time I met them, I stayed at their place for a few days rather than just going on a typical date.

Zero_Effected Joined Sat 12/02/06 Posts: 18395	Tue 11/27/12 09:59 AM
What I mean by that is that I'm a guy, looking for a guy, in a town where gay people are often shunned until they flee the town pretty much. then maybe it's time for a change of address to a more accepting area? I agree with Ruth though.. we're the owners of our own destiny.. it's great to dream.. but those that take action to change their situation to a more Positive one.. instead of complaining about what's WRONG with life.. are those that choose to LIVE their life by THEIR standards!

Zero_Effected Joined Sat 12/02/06 Posts: 18395	Tue 11/27/12 10:01 AM
I think my problem with the last person might have been that the first time I met them, I stayed at their place for a few days rather than just going on a typical date. too much too soon perhaps? I reiterate.. slow 'n easy works best..

Ruth34611 Joined Sat 08/02/08 Posts: 32402	Tue 11/27/12 10:03 AM
What I mean by that is that I'm a guy, looking for a guy, in a town where gay people are often shunned until they flee the town pretty much. then maybe it's time for a change of address to a more accepting area? I agree with Ruth though.. we're the owners of our own destiny.. it's great to dream.. but those that take action to change their situation to a more Positive one.. instead of complaining about what's WRONG with life.. are those that choose to LIVE their life by THEIR standards!

Shiashu Joined Tue 10/02/12 Posts: 100	Tue 11/27/12 10:10 AM
What I mean by that is that I'm a guy, looking for a guy, in a town where gay people are often shunned until they flee the town pretty much. then maybe it's time for a change of address to a more accepting area? I agree with Ruth though.. we're the owners of our own destiny.. it's great to dream.. but those that take action to change their situation to a more Positive one.. instead of complaining about what's WRONG with life.. are those that choose to LIVE their life by THEIR standards! Moving away isn't something I can feasibly do any time soon. I'm stuck here for college at least for the next two years.

Zero_Effected Joined Sat 12/02/06 Posts: 18395	Tue 11/27/12 10:14 AM
Moving away isn't something I can feasibly do any time soon. I'm stuck here for college at least for the next two years. that may be but.. nobody said you couldn't plan ahead.. and besides.. focusing on studies instead of worrying about being with someone MAY be a benefit too.. you never know.. you MAY just meet the guy of your dreams in a class good luck!

Shiashu Joined Tue 10/02/12 Posts: 100	Tue 11/27/12 10:15 AM
Moving away isn't something I can feasibly do any time soon. I'm stuck here for college at least for the next two years. that may be but.. nobody said you couldn't plan ahead.. and besides.. focusing on studies instead of worrying about being with someone MAY be a benefit too.. you never know.. you MAY just meet the guy of your dreams in a class good luck! Maybe, who knows, thanks though. Now my mother has friends at work that want to set me up with some girls. XD

Ruth34611 Joined Sat 08/02/08 Posts: 32402	Tue 11/27/12 10:22 AM
Moving away isn't something I can feasibly do any time soon. I'm stuck here for college at least for the next two years. I suggest you quit dating for the next two years and focus on school and making a life for yourself. And if you tell me why that's not possible I'll reach through this computer and smack you in the head.

Shiashu Joined Tue 10/02/12 Posts: 100	Tue 11/27/12 10:25 AM
Moving away isn't something I can feasibly do any time soon. I'm stuck here for college at least for the next two years. I suggest you quit dating for the next two years and focus on school and making a life for yourself. And if you tell me why that's not possible I'll reach through this computer and smack you in the head. Of course it's possible, and would be for the best. But it's probably highly unlikely for me.

Zero_Effected Joined Sat 12/02/06 Posts: 18395	Tue 11/27/12 10:30 AM
Maybe, who knows, thanks though. Now my mother has friends at work that want to set me up with some girls. XD have you told your mother exactly who you are..? maybe she would stop trying to hook you up with girls..