Most of my friends are retired and have benefits.

Should they give them up just to be friends with someone?

Tried it!

It sounds good in theory...but.....always ends in tears

Or child support.

Or a course of antibiotics

I like the idea. I mean, we're all adults. But you have to be selective with who you have a FWB association with.

I've had a couple of fwb's. Awesome sex, and we're still great friends. Sex can be about the emotions of the moment, not of the 'does he love me forever?' school of thought. Bam. But then I'm an adult responsible for her own sex life and in the past I've chosen very decent human beings for my bed buddies and my relationships. It must depend on the people involved, because I can't understand all your negative comments; a lot of which come from those of you who haven't experienced it and are being a bit judgy wudgy, frankly.

well what about couples that want a girl to be thier friend with benefits?.....sounds fun and kinky to me

To me, it is very difficult to have sex without developing strong feelings.

You are so right, I love my FWB, not in the way that I would marry them, but in a way that, if I want to enjoy an evening with a good friend then have fantastic sex with, well I would only do it with her.

Lol, if you are true friends then there can be no benefits without ruining the friendship. Are the benefits worth your friendship? Then again there are times when you make a friend that that's all both of you want, I think it's called a booty call lol.

What made you conclude such? I'm curious!

F buddy's for sure lol

Since I'm the marrying kind, and am about investments, women know up front that if feelings develop (she usually does), we can see how far things go; I'm not afraid of feelings, since it's part of our human element. To me, it's all about a fresh opportunity to know what beautiful joys we can have we want to take it further, but no pressure. To me,

She then knows she can be as impersonal or affectionate as she wishes, she's safe to explore everything, without fear that I'll just break things off. I feel it's my job to feed her se%ually and fill her to the brim, just as she needs vitamin & mineral nourishment. Sort of like a gigolo with husband potential.

Why do people automatically think its a guy thing, using a girl for sex??? I would do it in a heartbeat!!

I think for many, they are still wrapped in a puritanical mindset of a woman would never, ever do that. After all a "good" woman doesn't do certain things is/was that mindset - and there was a deep list that included many things besides certain aspects of intimacy. FWB would of made that list. We have been conditioned throughout society that it is the woman that craves, connects, and cultivates the relationship where the man is just happy getting it from wherever and whenever he can. Both views are seriously flawed and expired thinking IMO.

Were are u from

I agree totally teebee, if you both have an understanding and are clear about it, theres no problem, once you start having feelings, it either turns into a relationship or you stop it altogether

Don't bring your heart to bed with u!! People mistake love and sex, they're 2 different things. If your mature enough you can separate the 2

It's how you look at it.I am that friend.but I see it as helping someone out.I love it when I can put a smile on someone's face.if that makes any since..have a great day all.

Just hook in with no self preservation at all, just make sure you tarp up or pull out so it doesn't become friends with child support!