Why would a man constantly be on a senior dating website, state himself 2 years older than he is, now say he has a child, has a woman over to his house and cooks her dinner, then the very next day is on the dating website again trying to hook up with other women?

Doesn't it get older, especially when you're in your late 40's early 50's? What exactly is he looking for? This guy states to be divorced for over 10 years. Doesn't it get old?

Is it the excitement of someone new? The chase/hunt? Why would he continue to do that not only after dating me, but after also having other women to his place (2 that I know of), and still be on the prowl? This man i suppose is average to above average in looks, has a job but nothing craptacular, lives in a condo that is probably under water, but yet seems to snag women right and left, but doesnt seem to want to take the time to get to know her before jumping to the next.

Is it because he can? Isn't serious? Just a slut?

What does he have to lose, and why do you care?

It could be because the milk is always free, but cheer up from what i can see even from this website women are now saying why take the whole pig for an 8 ounce sausage.

I cared because i thought he was looking for a mutually special relationship like I was. Going back now looking at the cues, I guess I missed them.

He was just a weezel. Here I was broken hearted, whereas he carried on and was having new women to his place when he could have had me. We got along well, even was getting sex from me, and still he has to look for the bigger better deal.

He also told me the firsr time after we had sex that his testosterone missed me. Several times, then nothing. Guess someone else took care of it before I could again.

Weird.

You might consider it to be old fashioned, but there is an advantage to waiting until marriage to have sex.

WEll, I was a virgin when I met my exhusband over 20 years ago. So I am new to all this premarital sex now. I am much older now. It just seems a little sill to "wait until marriage." I wouldn't want some nasty surprise on my wedding night lol.

But, yeah, now taht I've been burned twice with two different men, I'm going to hold off on the sex until he date a while longer (last time I waited 5 dates on the first guy and 6 on the second), and I am going to make sure he feels the same about me that I feel about him. And I am going to ask for exclusivity before I have sex with him.

That is what bothers me. I don't want to have sex with some guy who is serial dating others and having sex with them, and then coming back my way on rotation. I don't need the disease or the worries

Sounds like you're learning the hard way. As long as you ARE learning. People do take advantage of others on these sites. I am far more cautious with people I "meet" on the web than if I had first met them in real life.

Hey!! I resemble that remark!

Did you really use the word craptacular?

I Agree!

So, this guy told you what you wanted to hear to get you into bed? Fancy that.

Yeah, that must be annoying and it's also annoying that it's guys like that that women seem to fall for all the time. Does that answer your question?

he got what he wanted, and wanted something new, or never found what he was looking for,so kept looking,,sounds like every man out there with an excuse ..yeah good guys come last..too true

I agree with the "WAITING" part.. just not til marriage.. some don't WANT to re-marry.. and that's okay.. but waiting awhile longer is a better way to go in my opinion

..maybe people are finding out that the whole monogamous thing was just a fallacy built by an archaic generation on a belief system that most have either lost faith in,no longer exist within their realm or was just a means of control in the first place..perhaps the old adage that life is short has brought about a generation that believes in going for the gusto before it's gone..truth is society isn't what it once was and the sooner one realizes it the better off they may find themselves and maybe not so quite naive...

Wow a whole five or six dates and you are already going over to his "craptacular" place and banging him? Did you throw in maid service and a free hair cut too?

You got to know if you are a self delivered booty call this guy has ZERO respect for you. Why you are shocked he has other sex on delivery dumbasses? If you know that is the case I sure hope you visited the clinic.

This guy tells you "his testoserone misses you"? This guy is telling you straight up HE doesn't even like you but you can service him? What part of respect, love, of affection, even protection did that invite impart? You should have stuck a fork in that pig and not even looked back.

I am sorry you got the 20 year ditch, that has to suck, but that is no reason to give yourself away like cheap hairspray because one guy got your virginity. My word you are too young to be giving in to this kind of stuff. For criminey sakes you are not a bad looking gal, you even have job skills, and evidently a car. You need to Reset the bar and find a better class of dude or take a time out.

Just because you see the Hootchie BS on the computer does not mean that is how you have to conduct yourself. Or how the majority of women conduct themselves. Being on line does not make you a free hooker. I have dated nice people off line over 20 years but I assure you I am not screwing every Tom , Dick, and Harry that comes along as if it is firesale time just because I am past the double nickle. Yea I joke about not having a great social life but that is more just not putting my personal stuff in the street.

And PLEASE if You are really all heartbroken rather than embarassed after few dates sewing some wild oats then Ghezz lady you need counseling really bad. Please go to a county mental health center and get some greif counseling and assertiveness training. Your going to end up getting yourself hurt you keep pulling this kind of stunts.

Thanks for saying that. Yes, looking back over a few things, he really didn't respect me. And it's his loss. I believe I am a fine, upstanding woman who takes care of herself, has a steady job, own my own home and car, two responsible adult children, little baggage I think.

I caught him in a few lies, like how long he had been divorced, etc., and oh, now he changed his profile to say he has a kid, which he said he didn't. And he aged himself a couple years. What's that about. It's almost like he's some type of a sociopath playing with women's hearts.

And as a matter of fact, I did go to the clinic for STD testing. Still waiting for results. The HIV came back negative right away, stillwaiting for syphylis and chlamydia results.

I was a fool. Yes, all the message boards out there and even a few of my girlfriends say the have given it up on the second or third date before.

And I think part of my problem is I don't like being alone, I've never lived alone in my life until the end of my marriage. I am getting used to it, and maybe some day I will enjoy the single life.

Thanks for your blunt response, I needed that!

Gee, monogamy worked for my late wife and me.
However, your "sour grapes" rant is entertaining.

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You again, you never have anything constructive to say. When I see your Alf face, I just roll my eyes.

Uh, there is a little something that happens to people when they experience the loss of an intimate relationship. It is called rebound.

Here is what Wikipedia has to say about it:



I know what rebound is because I experienced it. During my rebound, I ended up in bed with a woman who fed my craving for companionship and the human touch. That was the beginning of a relationship that ended up being very abusive. I went ahead and married the woman after living with her for awhile. I ended up a battered husband. Once I started taking a prescribed antidepressant, I gained the emotional strength to break away from her and end the marriage.

I still have a 1.5 inch/4 cm. scar on my left arm that she gave me. Her next husband wasn't so lucky. She shot him.

Anyway, rebound can drive anyone to get into a bad relationship. It happened to me. I suspect that is what happened to you.