Hi, my entire world came crashing down on me. My friend accuses my husband of taking his "unit" out and trying to get some from her. He says she came onto him. Who do I believe? I have known this girl since 4th grade. The thing is, shes a big pig & has slept & carried on a relationship with a guy I was with in the past (so there is a history with her). My husband on the other hand has never given any indications of cheating or interest in any other woman for the past five years. All of my friends & my family that knows him is shocked just like iam. Its just out of character for him. He agrees that he took it out &says he is sorry for it & is shocked that he took it that far. But he swears she came onto him first. I love him & im so torn & confused. I just dont know who to believe & what my next step should be. Any advice is appreciated.

marriage counseling

He's the married one and you got your wording wrong. You should have said that "he tried to screw your friend" not vice versa.

girl, read the writing on the wall. your "friend" has a history, so trusting her word is going to be iffy at best. your husband admitted he whipped it out. is there really any good reason for him to have done that? i doubt your friend is a urologist and was giving a free house call. the facts are there, believe them

now on to what to do about it. for now, keep your husband on a short leash. if he complains, well he made that bed, he needs to lie in it. talk to a professional, or at least someone qualified as a counselor. if money is an issue, than a rabbi, priest, or pastor will usually offer free help. random people's advice on the internet is not what you need to solve your problems

i guarantee i guarantee for your husband to be that bold, he has either done this before or he just doesn't give a darn about his commitment to you. wardrobe malfunction my butt!

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i meant leash not leach

You could try joining a dating site, maybe choose a provocative name, something really suggestive...After that, you can join the forums and air your husbands dirty laundry to a few thousand strangers...Once you do all this, your confusion about who to believe probably won't matter because your husband will be mad enough to leave you and hook up with your "best" friend....In any event, good luck...

You're husband even admitted he did. Right to your face. He obviously wants his way. I'd look for better. There are men out there with morals. You just have to wait for a good one :)

This is a relationship and not a traffic lane, thus, for the fact that she flashed a green light doesn't mean your husband should advance. We are talking about a married man here. Is he trying to say that there was something different your friend was going to offer? Or is it that your friend has diamonds around her...?

Well, you can never can tell.,unless you probe deeper..

deeper... I guess that was the next act...

i agree!


They call it 'Mid life crisis' !! I doubt you can do much other than excuse him or take a divorce ! But counselling is a good idea!

Well said.

Trust ur husband

Yeah, mostly with your sisters.

Marriage Counselling only works if both parties are willing participants. If your husband is a real man he would welcome to opportunity to make things right.
Or
Nip it and Clip it in the bud now! Let dawgs be dawgs and kick her but and send him packing. Only you know what your gut is telling you!