Street whores????
Sounds like he's done quite enough damage. You need to take action.
Yes, get checked out right away, and find that divorce lawyer - quick!
A man with no respect for u as to f**k around with multiple women will not 'change' with counseling. Seems he's got a psycho-sexual disorder that cannot be fixed with mere counseling alone. You are beautiful and deserve someone that will respect you. Sorry for what you are going through. Make the right decisions and be strong.

P.S. May his sagging balls deteriorate and rot away in their own pus

Absolutely, forget the marriage, go to the doctor. Immediately, your ex is an AZSHOLE. I am sorry this happened to you, it's so embarrassing, and you must feel like a fool. I am not saying you are one, because he is obviously a manipulator and compulsive liar......but my ex was a total liar and I got emails from chics online who met him and I felt really dumb and foolish, because I suspected it, he lied and denied, did counseling, I took him back like a fool only for it to continue. Now I am free and it hurt at first but I feel so much better now. Good luck.

Why did he cheat?

I'm not gonna bother beating around the bush. I should have just said "Man up and live your life!". Everyone gets over their ex eventually. If you keep whining about it, you're gonna drag yourself down, and your whole lifestyle, and other people. If you WANT to be happy, BE happy. You don't have to sit somewhere crying. Instead you could just have tons of fun things to do. I'm just saying don't let it turn you into a wreck. To be sure.

I apologize. My last post sounded slightly insensitive. If he truly loved you though, he would never have even thought about cheating. He wouldn't have given it a second thought. Not even a FIRST one, actually. . It's a slow, gradual process, but you WILL get over it in the end. No time limit.

I am lost for words, maybe he is suffering from some sort of mental health problem. Whatever you decide regarding your relationship, do what is best for you.

Cheating really hurts..but then,there's always causes..sometimes it's a reaction..or it can also be an intention..and i don't think the women on the corner are to blame,it's the same thing with a gun,(you don't shoot, nobody dies..)
How to deal?..depends on a person, if she's a sentimentalist, she'll cling..if she's a realist, she will sort,keep or dump.,then walk away.in the end,you iive with the repercussions of your decision.let the waves settle first,once everything is calm,you'll be able to see clearly

Number 1 thing when its comes to relationships is trust,you aint got that,you aint got nothin.Better off by yourself(easier said that done huh?)Look after yourself and get people around you for support.Youre going to have to be strong for others too in your life who are going to need you as well

u need to accept it, that we are human. did u like someone recently beside ur husband ? we all need change at some time unless u sacrifice, but there must be strong reason for sacrifice..


but dont think he doesnot love you, its just another emotion becoming more stronger than his love for u..

cheers

Like what emotion would that be? Lust? He certainly doesn't respect or care enough to drag his azz home after cheating on her and inform her "you might want to go see a doctor " because I needed a change

he should of kept his emotion in his pants

The reality of your situationno matter what the reasons are, even if you somehow contributed tot he demise of your marriage the solution your husband chose was unexcuseable in my mind. Not only did he endanger his own life in many different ways, he has endangered yours.

As pretty much everyone has stated that you immediately seek serious medical intervention and stay on top of it since some of the things he could have expossed you to could remain latent for a period is paramount.

Second I would look into security intervention. If he has been seeing criminals for sex you can be sure they know who he is and where he is/was and you need to protect your property and financial identity.

I would call my local police department and talk to their information officer about how they would recommend protecting your identity.

Going to your bank and opening a seperate checking and savings would be something I would do immediately as would closeing any joint accounts, and changeing the paaswords on everything that is yours personally to extreamy difficult letter and number combinatios. I would change your phone number as you really don't need to hear his excuses and if and when he gets and attorney they can contact you by mail.

I would get to a lawyer fast and file for a legal seperation and divorce as fast as you can get it. If he messes around and contracts a life threating illness he can forstall or in some cases prevent a divorce and make you jointly responsible for his medical care which will eventually be catestrophic.

I would seek credit counseling because you need to plan on supporting yourself both in the short and the long term. Don't wait until you are behind on bills or behind on your morgage payment to adjust your financial situation. Instead of spending any great amount of time on a dating site I would be looking into finding a same sex housemate you trust. Even if you do be dilligent and be business like with a deposit, first and last months rent and a lease.

If you have children and can document his contact with these criminal types it is possible you can limit his visitation to supervised safe locations. Something I would recommend to include getting them family counseling.

I am really sorry this happen to you. You are not the only one and you can get through this by keeping your wits about you and making a plan to make the best future for yourself. The easyiest way to do it is to just write him off and don't waste your energy being angry. Good luck.

I agree!

I know a lot of guys who see whores because their wives don't do oral/anal or whatever

A really good reason to practice safe sex with in marriage as sad a fact as it is.

I have a sister, and just about all my Hospice patients, who is seriously life threateningly ill because her lous of an ex husband did just this kind of behavior.

And I can pretty much guarantee you that men who say it is only because their wives do not accomdate their sexual desires are lying because some idiots actually find that and acceptable excuse.

If women cheated on husbands because their bedroom performance did not consistently meet their desires there would notbe one faithful wife in the world. lol

My experience tells me that everyone is the same and it all comes down to the fingerprints

Both genders have cheated on their spouses before in history. No one here without knowing you and your potential ex husband can provide a definitive answer as to why this happened. Kaleijoscope gave some good advice along with other statements from people in this discussion.

I would not say the individuals' on a street corner, shouldn't accept any responsibilty for this behaviour. Since if the availability of cheap/not so cheap, sex is readily available one would have difficulty in finding it. It would then be someone you both know and easier to determine what kind of problems' exsisted in your relationship.

It may be someone has a high sexual drive and the other can not satisfy that drive. Anyone thinking about cheating on thier spouse should have enought respect for them to leave the relationship first, but again the sex was being paid for.

First thing is to make sure your health is not a risk.

Did you give him a reason to cheat? Not saying that ANY cheating is good or forgivable, but in his eyes there ma be a very good reason. Or he could just be a typical male and chase anything in a skirt... I've been there...but I know when to stop now too.