The benefits of living without sex

Sex sells, and thus we constantly hear about the so-called ‘benefits’ of having an active, even promiscuous, sex life. However, we never seem to hear about the whole host of benefits that living without sex can bring. Here are just a few of the many benefits of living a sex-free life, whether it is temporary or permanent. We welcome any additions to the list!


Biblically and spiritually sound (see No Sex – Biblical References ).


Enjoy feelings of self worth, empowerment and individuality.


Socialise with and date the opposite sex without the pressures and awkwardness of negotiating sex.


Know that someone loves you for who you are rather than what you can give sexually.


Avoid an unexpected or unwanted pregnancy.


Avoid catching one of over 20 sexually transmitted infections (see STIs – The Shocking Facts ).


Enjoy 100% protection against pregnancy and disease. No birth control method can guarantee against pregnancy or STIs. Every method, including condoms, has a failure rate. In lab tests, condoms fail 3% of the time, and studies show that first year condom users experience a 15% failure rate.


Waiting for sex until marriage is likely to increase your chances of a happy and lasting marriage. Studies have shown that people who have sex before marriage have an increased risk of getting divorced.


If dating someone who also has the willpower and commitment to stay sexually abstinent, there is the chance to live with your partner before marriage and enjoy the companionship, financial benefits and the knowledge that you are not ‘walking into the unknown’ after tying the knot.


Join an increasingly popular choice! Yes, sexual abstinence is becoming increasingly popular. A recent survey by the The Family Education Trust showed that around 85% of under-16s have not had sex, and the number of college students in the USA who say they are virgins has doubled in recent years. Several studies have shown that celibacy is becoming more common, even among those with previous sexual experience.


Avoid the heartbreak, regret, anger and emotional turmoil that a failed sexual relationship brings. Avoid giving away something precious, only to be left feeling used and worthless.


Learn how to love unconditionally rather than lust. Relationships based on lust are often doomed to fail, since once the lust that held them together has subsided; it leaves behind a void of emptiness. Relationships based on love are more concerned with the unchangeable inner person rather than outer appearances that are changeable over time.


Enjoy healthier dating without having to focus on sex. Many couples report that having sex ruined their otherwise strong relationship. They somehow stopped getting to know each other as sex became more and more a focus.


Enjoy feeling emotionally healthy and stronger, more able to face the future. Many people use sex as an escape from the disappointments and pain in their lives, only to find that sex brings them more problems than it solves.



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Imagine,,,,if sex were not the unavoidable necessity of life we have come to believe it to be,,,if more people loved with their hearts instead of their bodies,,,,,,

I think this is an enlightened and inspiring approach to conducting relationships in an increasingly complex and diseased (and I don't just mean STD's) world. I feel that America, and the entire Western world, has become so disgustingly oversexualized that we have lost our ability to relate to others on a more spiritual level. While I myself am very erotic, I am also able to see the damage that too much sex can have to anyone. Kudos to you for allowing yourself to take such a bold stance!

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Having been in the lounge and nightclub biz for 20yrs I have seen first hand the effects of people who engage and desire sex to much. Using your body as bait can lead you down a path of darkness and eventually mistrust of everyone not to mention health problems. Your post and thoughts are refreshing and your justifacations have a ring of truth to them. I think sex should be in proper balance with the other things in your life.I would like to share it with someone I truly love but age brings wisdom. Thank you for your thoughts on this I found them very interesting.

1. Less Stress, Better Blood Pressure

Having sex could lower your stress, and your blood pressure.

That finding comes from a Scottish study of 24 women and 22 men who kept records of their sexual activity. The researchers put them in stressful situations, such as speaking in public and doing math out loud, and checked their blood pressure.

People who had had intercourse responded better to stress than those who engaged in other sexual behaviors or abstained.

Another study published in the same journal found that diastolic blood pressure (the bottom number of your blood pressure) tends to be lower in people who live together and often have sex. And yet another study found that women who get lots of hugs from their partner tend to have better blood pressure.

2. Sex Boosts Immunity

Having sex once or twice a week has been linked with higher levels of an antibody called immunoglobulin A or IgA, which can protect you from getting colds and other infections.

So say scientists at Wilkes University in Wilkes-Barre, Pa. They studied 112 college students who kept records of how often they had sex and also provided saliva samples for the study. Those who had sex once or twice a week had higher levels of IgA, an antibody that could help you avoid a cold or other infections, than other students.

3. Sex Burns Calories

Thirty minutes of sex burns 85 calories or more. It may not sound like much, but it adds up: 42 half-hour sessions will burn 3,570 calories, more than enough to lose a pound. Doubling up, you could drop that pound in 21 hour-long sessions.

"Sex is a great mode of exercise," says Patti Britton, PhD, a Los Angeles sexologist. It takes work, from both a physical and psychological perspective, to do it well, she says.

4. Sex Improves Heart Health

Having sex may be good for your heart. A 20-year-long British study shows that men who had sex twice or more a week were half as likely to have a fatal heart attack than men who had sex less than once a month.

And although some older folks may worry that the sex could cause a stroke, that study found no link between how often men had sex and how likely they were to have a stroke.

5. Better Self-Esteem

Boosting self-esteem was one of 237 reasons people have sex, collected by University of Texas researchers and published in the Archives of Sexual Behavior.

That finding makes sense to Gina Ogden, PhD, a sex therapist and marriage and family therapist in Cambridge, Mass., although she finds that those who already have self-esteem say they sometimes have sex to feel even better.

"One of the reasons people say they have sex is to feel good about themselves," she says. "Great sex begins with self-esteem. ... If the sex is loving, connected, and what you want, it raises it."

Of course, you don't have to have lots of sex to feel good about yourself. Your self-esteem is all about you -- not someone else. But if you're already feeling good about yourself, a great sex life may help you feel even better.

6. Deeper Intimacy

Having sex and orgasms boosts levels of the hormone oxytocin, the so-called love hormone, which helps people bond and build trust.

In a study of 59 women, researchers checked their oxytocin levels before and after the women hugged their partners. The women had higher oxytocin levels if they had more of that physical contact with their partner.

Higher oxytocin levels have also been linked with a feeling of generosity. So snuggle up -- it might help you feel more generous toward your partner.

7. Sex May Turn Down Pain

Here's another thing the love hormone, oxytocin, does: It boosts your body's painkillers, called endorphins. So if your headache, arthritis pain, or PMS symptoms seem to improve after sex, that may be why.

In one study, 48 people inhaled oxytocin vapor and then had their fingers pricked. The oxytocin cut their pain threshold by more than half.

8. More Ejaculations May Make Prostate Cancer Less Likely

Frequent ejaculations, especially in 20-something men, may lower the risk of getting prostate cancer later in life, some research shows.

For instance, a study published in the Journal of the American Medical Association, found that men who had 21 or more ejaculations a month, were less likely to get prostate cancer than those who had four to seven ejaculations per month.

Of course, that study doesn't prove that ejaculations were the only factor that mattered. Many things affect a person's odds of developing cancer. The researchers did take that into consideration, and the findings still held.

9. Stronger Pelvic Floor Muscles

For women, doing pelvic floor muscle exercises called Kegels may mean will enjoy more pleasure -- and, as a perk, less chance of incontinence later in life.

10. Better Sleep

The oxytocin released during orgasm also promotes sleep, research shows.

Getting enough sleep has also been linked with a host of other health perks, such as a healthy weight and better blood pressure. Something to think about, especially if you've been wondering why your guy can be active one minute and snoring the next.

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http://www.webmd.com/sex-relationships/guide/10-surprising-health-benefits-of-sex

It is a general rule of thumb that women crave sex more than men, which is one of the reasons that they are so easy to seduce. Also, the part of their brain that reacts to, for example, snorting cocaine is in the same region as their "mommy central" location, they are easily addicted to, for example, "bad boys". Who talks about the pain and regret of a failed "sexual relationship"? I have "fallen in love, for one night" many times and never confused a sexual relationship with a real relationship; that is a indicator of a personality disorder. I could go on, but ...

Awesome topic with an inspiring start!
But ya, the logic of personality disorder is good too!
Me? Well, i am a buddhis monk in training! Ha ha! (just addicted to masturbation !)