I have a 19 y/o daughter that came to me 3 weeks ago and gave the news that I am going to be a Grandma. She has already graduated from HS but she decided to take a Sabbatical year before going to College, against my counsel... She is very opinionated and she and her boyfriend have decided to raise the baby, he is a rock to her... Fortunately. She had been living with my mom for the last year, and she moved back home on Saturday, and she's been working at a good company ever since she graduated.

I have offered them my support, love, everything that I can do for them... but I did set some ground rules. They were thrown upon a decision on their lives that's not only going to have an effect in their lives, but in both families. And his family has turned their back on him. And he is a very good young man. I am not making them do things my way, nor I am conditioning my support, but they are in a position now, where they will have to listen and do things differently to avoid as much as they can making irrational mistakes. So, even though I am not making comments nor choosing for them, I do feel that my opinion should be taken into account at the time of decison making, and they have accepted this. This is something that needs to be done as a family.

It is your daughter's choice, but as the parent is your duty and responsibility and right, to intervene. To offer your opinion. Your comfort, your love. Your advise.

That's all I can do, and that's all I am doing. And of course, buying her new clothes

keep the faith, love her regardless or the out come. ALL SMILES

well what does SHE want to do? what are her options and is she considering all her avenues she can go down?

You are doing the right thing, telling her you love her. She is on birth control, could be a total false alarm, she is young and they do happen. Be thankful she felt she could come to you so early too, and not wait 3 months and come to you with the problem. You are doing the right thing and going to the doctor. See what the doctor finds out and what your options are from there. Hopefully, is just a late period and no worries. If not, then the doctor can help you with some options and counseling. You have a great relationship with your daughter and you can help her through what you find out tomorrow. Good luck.

I remember when I was on Birth control. I had only been sexually active once. And I was very late, almost a month. But my mom knew and when we went to the docs, they thought it was a tubal pregnancy, luckily it was a false alarm and I was not pregnant at all. I had missed my period due to the effects of the birth control. It would have been hard because the man who would have been the father of the child left me because I told him I wasnt ready for sex, that I wanted to wait, and I had felt pressured doing it the first time. If I had been pregnant tho I know I would have had the support of my friends and family, cause when we were not sure if I was or not they were all there for me in everyway possible. I was only 16 at the time, so it was scary. But if she is or isnt just let her know that you are there for her and that you love her. I think a big fear (I know mine was) Was that family would turn her away.
I hope that whatever happens you are able to work threw it.

Well ladies and gentlemen.......
I am going to be a grandma! Her due date is April 1st. She is 6 weeks pregnant.Brit has been refered to a Hi Risk OB/GYN. The OB/GYN we saw today has put her on bed rest until we see the Hi Risk doctor and he decides what therapy and what activities she will be able to do. I think I forgot to tell everyone she suffers from Scoliosis, with a 47% curvature of the spine. Well there it is in a nut shell. I made an appointment with a nutritionalist to help her with her diet plan(way to much hot cheetos and soda) and got her Pre-natal pills. What a day! The morning sickness is occuring at night. Any suggestions for that? I personally never really had much of a problem with it. It does only seem to last for about 45 min. but thats just the last few nights not to sure what to expect for the future.
Paul (the dad) is stating that he wants to attend each appointment and attend the birthing classes as well but instead of worring about that so much I signed them both up for some partenting classes hopefully it will help at least a little. Dad is terrified to tell his mom and step dad but can't say as I blame him she is a spicy mexican lady prepared to kick butt and take names. On the other hand in our conversations today it was obvious that part of him could not wait to tell his mom and share the excitement on the other hand afraid of what she will do. Well I guess I better try to rest a bit soon there will be no rest at night!

Well I have to give it to the Young man For Stepping up Cali my wanting to hunt him down and beat him profusely has subsided anyway LOL.....Hopefully he will Continue wanting to be involved and be a Good Father to there child even if they do not get back together.

Oh yea! I forgot to mention it they did get back together. Although, she will no longer be going into the Navy next year she will accept the invite to attend Cal State health permitting!

i gotta say...college sounds preferable to the navy, lol.

sounds like you've all your duckies in a row. congratulations...that's how my family does things, too..."let's make way for a baby!!!"

cali,
ok barring the fact that she is 17...congratulations grandma! I hope the pregnancy goes well for her, she is young and strong, it should. thank god her boyfriend is stepping up.
Even with the surrounding circumstances you have to be a little excited, and you are so awesome for doing everything you have done in just this short couple of days. Parenting classes were an awesome awesome idea.
I can't wait for grand children LOL
Lori

The doctors I type for put them on vitamin B6 for morning sickness, but not sure of the dosage, could ask a pharmacist or call your doctor back.

Congratulations, I know it is not what you wanted, but you are doing the right thing standing behind her and things will work out in the long run. As far as his being Mexican, the Mexicans my daughter has known are very big into family and babies so "grandma to be" may surprise you once she gets over the shock.

I know it was not in her plans for the near future, but grandbabies are cool (take it from a granny). Take care. She is young and will have to grow up fast but she has her family behind her to help, and with you behind her, she can do it.

Congrats!!! I was a high risk for my 2nd pregnauncy, I had something called hypermesis gravidaram...its where my body fought being preggo!! I had morning sickness 24 hours a day, so they put me on meds.
If her morning sickness continues I would just talk to her dr, I just made sure I kept hydrated. Tell her to try eating soda cracker and drinking warm sprite....Good luck!!

Thank you all so much for your comments..
Alright, I have calmed down a little now - LOL
She was feel ill and laid on my lap and I started running my finges through her hair and rubbing her tummy like I did when she was little and I realized WOW thats my grandchild in there sounds silly I am sure but it overwhelmed me with greatfulness that I have the opportunity to share this with her.
Gave me goosebumps.

On a Bright side of it Cali With it happening now with luck and good health you may be able to see your Grandchild grow up and Get married....

Oh My!! congrats Grama!

congrats grandma and i'm glad your daughter is pursuing her dreams and not getting married because a little one is on the way.It's good the father is in her life and that she has a supportive mother to help her make good decisions.congrats on the new addition to the family.

congrats granma! all of you are going to be okay. just be supportive. and give your daughter your love. then spoil the grandbaby rotten!

Let's approach this using a reality check, I have two daughters ages 17 & 19. First take a deep breath and relax your nerves.
I know how you must feel, but what's done is done. If she is pregnant she is now responsible for another life as well as the father. She can continue schooling, perhaps online if nothing else works. Which means essentially that you're a grandparent of a precious bundle of joy (on the way)
If she's not, then nothings changed either good or bad.

Cali,
I wish you the best. I will keep you all in my prayers. Being 17 isn't quite as scary as seeing a 11 or even a 15 year old expecting babies. God has everything under control. Every child is a miracle. We may not understand why things happen the way they do, but we must just take them as they come our way. Goldwinger shines a brighter light on the whole situation. Just think of the wonderful grandchild you will have to enjoy. They bring as much or more joy than your own children do. Never know until you are one. I hope it is a long time before I am, if I ever get to be a grandma. My daughter is 14. I have always heard it said though, that the grandkids are so enjoyable.
Take care and keep us posted of her condition. Maybe she will be born on my birthday. I was due on the 1st of April but I got here a little early. LOL ttyl

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