all i can say is follow your heart

goood luck and keep us posted

I've been talking to this guy I met on here for more than a month now and we found ourselves sorta "made for each other" and just the other day I was surprised when he was like "you still remember what I told you after our first two weeks of talking?", I admit I forgot and I was sorry so he was like "... that I want to marry you!"

Is that too quick?
Basically it would be realized in some couple of months since we live miles and miles apart but yes he is that sure about marrying me and it makes me

awwwwwwwww newg

I say, keep the account up till the wedding day......

dum da dum dum.......THE "M" WORD!!!!


run!!!! RUN !!!!! RUN!!!!!! AS FAST AS YOU CAN!



NOTHING WE SAY WILL CHANGE YOUR MIND ...... and would you let a bunch of internet strangers advise you for a decision that is as personal and important as this!!!????

you need a swift kick in the ass girl...what dream land do you live in!!???

2 failed relationships and did i read correctly?? you still have children??

who have not met this internet virtual husband...and so ...do you see how
irresponsible this is!!!????

you are going to subject your children to someone you DON'T KNOW ...AND YOU HAVE NO IDEA WHERE THEIR ACTUAL THRESHOLDS ARE AND ..... he could be anyway!! it is very easy to maintain a semblance of normal online with someone...who he is in real life with you and your children + his baggage....is a very different cookie


this is a disaster waiting to happen....

i feel for the kids

MOTHERRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRR!!!! BUT I LOVVVVVVVVVVVVVVE HIMMMMMMMMMMM!!!

Do you know any military wives? Do you have a base of any kind nearby where you live. I was a marine wife for 10 years, he just retired last year and we are now divorced. We knew eachother for 5 months before he flew me to vegas and we eloped. I thought we were a match made in heaven. None of that really matters the problem that I would most forworn you about is this... when your husband is deployed you tend to grow apart. You get a new routine down, when he comes back everything changes again he has to fit back into place. It sounds like a piece of cake but in reality is very difficult. The first deployment is usually fairly easy cause you usually still have puppy eyes but they never stop until the day that contract is up. Military life is wonderful but not for everyone. Research it. Talk to a KVN wife I never joined their group but went to many functions they can give you a little more insight. Be educated in a respects. I hear what you are saying about your children coming first but remember that every person that you introduce to your childrens lives will have some sort of impact on them. If you marry and it works out thats wonderful on the other side what if you fight alot you see that will affect your children. In that three weeks that he is visiting you I wish you the best may you find all the facts you are searching for and may you know without a shadow of a doubt whatever choice you make is the right one if there are any questions I would wait and unless he is going overseas you don't have to wait till the end of his tour. Also, I am not familiar with the wife having a say in where the husband is stationed unless he is doing a hot fill and it doesn't sound like thats the case. What branch of the service is he in? Well thats my book...... Best of luck.... Email me anytime if I can help

cali

just what the dr. ordered

I don't see any of those reason's being the reason to marry someone but if you are in love and things are good betweens yas than take the chance and hopefully all will be great.

hey people... the brain works afterall...

lol... i'm back.

SLOW DOWN...
You have'nt even met yet...

JMO

I hate to say it but you are being too optimistic about any of this. Here's the reality of a basic relationship: two hours on the phone with someone does NOT equal two hours spent in person with them. Sorry, but no. You are talking about MEETING this guy but what you need to talk about is spending some serious time getting to know him, not just meeting and agreeing on a nice cozy marriage that will not likely end up working out.
I have had two serious relationships with men in the military, and I can tell you that it not only takes a very strong woman to be with a man who's second thought is his girl but a lot of patience, the willpower and a fair amount of luck. I was willing to come second and yes, to wait months between visits. But when it comes down to it you are literally spending more time apart than you are together. How is that any way to start off a marriage? Wait the two years or however long and get to know him first. Maybe after his orders change and you still love him like this than consider marriage seriously.

Singingmyheartout: "hey people... the brain works afterall... lol... i'm back."


What does that mean? What happened with you and your military man?

I could write a long pros and cons. Nah ill be funny. Third times the charm! Drag those children all over! Make the childrens fathers travel immensely far and wide to see their kids. Your name must be folly right? Chasing virtual husband? Yee ha. I see red flags everywhere. What's the matter- you didn't like your freinds and families advice? Made it open forum? You NEED divorce #3. Yeh go for it! You go chase folly folly. Follow your heart. It was right the first time. No? It was right the second time. No? Three up three down end of an inning. You go girl! Good luck and bon voyage!

Just my rimshot, rimjob opinion. Nothing personal, no offense.

I can spell it out in one sentence I know for a fact you will understand: Doing this will be as smart as making karoke a career change. Huh? Good one? Like that? Doooont doooo itttt.ok? Good luck.

i was eactly where u r 5 years ago! lonely divorced and didnt think anyone would ever care. met someone on line talked hours a day, moved across the country with my children and found out he lied avout everything. i worked 2 support all of us.. please before u do anything do something 4 me. 1 like who u r! 2 double check what he tells u! jmho good luck girl.....

WOW u know what thats seemes hard and liek a hasty decision O_O hopefully u double chek everything and make sure ur sure.. be safe and play it smart .. best wishes

seriously girl, you have a head, USE it! its there for a reason! don't just follow merrily along the trail your heart leads you down. think with reason, it will BENIFIT YOU! i promise. but please. don't doooooo itttt!

Ummm... lol... this discussion is old.

"I'm back"... as in the brain started working again. As in... NOT GONNA DO IT.

AS IN... Thank you one and all for the feedback, thoughts & concerns.

You're wonderful... and I am sane again. Lol. Thanks.