i have been in a relationship with this man for 3 yrs and we have always fought over the same things throughout the relationship. He will not agree but he is very selfish and refuses to do the things i ask him to do that would turn me on in bed. i have always done the things he ask of me but he wont for me. He has this addiction to porn which isnt a problem except the fact that he always lies to me about his use of it..i beg him to share it with me so our sex life can be better somehow..he says he doesnt like porn and i am all the porn he needs but i am constantly finding his secret stashes of porn he swears arent his.. its starting to make me feel like i cant satisfy him sexually and that i must not be as hot as his porn women.. i am very well built and not ugly at all.. so y does he feel the need to have secret relationship with porn? he actually made me wait 5 hrs once while he said he was doing something when come to find out was a lie..he was online saving porn on a flash drive.. he had me waitin to pleasure his every sexual need but looking at porn was his choice..what gives?

You say you're looking for an "activity partner", so take one of those partners and make a porn of your own and put it in his stash.

Are you really all that sure you want to continue to put up with such heart break? if your love and romantic life with this man were really all that you would not be facing these hang ups of his, especially considering that how much of his collection has man on man in it? It is either that or he is hiding some really sick fetish from you. Something is really wrong here. I never needed porn to want to strip and frisk up my GFs in the past. I was always accused of wanting way too much sex from my ex GFs usually. I think you are treading water in a poison lake with this guy. That is just my thought.

The big issue I see is tha he is lying to you. If you don't LikeBeing lied to then you have a choice to make.

And you're spending another minute with this guy why? If you were enough for him, if he really had sincere feelings for you, he wouldn't need, nor really care for any porn media. From what you are saying, I'm telling you that this guy is very selfish, having very little consideration for the needs or feelings of others. As far as a meaningful, deep, satisfying relationship, this guy is a complete waste of time and should be dumped like last week's garbage, at least until he gets a clue about what the definition of a healthy relationshhip is--like that is ever going to happen. I hope you run from this guy as fast as you can, before he gets a chance to wreak any more havoc in your life. You deserve far better.

You say you are developing a fear that you are not satisfying enough for him any more.

You can check that. if he produces semen when he has an orgasm, he is not faking it. Men can't fake an orgasm without it being totally obvious that it's a fake.

And men can't fake an orgasm when they are having porn. I mean, they could, but what's the point.

You say you don't mind waiting for him up to five hours, only to give him pleasure and not receive any from him.

This is a bit strange, so maybe you are into SM his being the dominant. Nothing wrong with that. And also it would explain his making you wait until a download ends... because straight sex is totally easily available.

Or maybe he is joyful to see a beatiful woman make love to a donkey, or to see her shower her affection and kisses on a califower.

At any rate, he is NOT cheating on you. Count your blessings. He is using other stuff to keep himself interested in you!! This may come as as a surprise, but it's true. once a man tasted variety (or a woman, for that matter, has tasted it) then he or she can't go back to monogamy. Even if he is devoted and loving to the girl or she to the boy. In your case, it seems his love is totally missing, so if you don't want to lose him, you MUST allow him to keep his interest in you, which can ONLY be done if he does the porno. If he did the cheating with a human being, well, that'd be a different story, and is not the case here, so let's not worry about that.

He is abusing you, which you don't mind, or you maybe even enjoy, and your only beef is that he spends his semen on pictures and moving pictures.

I would say, not to worry. Furthermore, if you make moves for him to stop that, he will be even less interested in you. You see, to find a woman who allows the man to tie her up and be cruelly abusive with her and torture her, is a rare find. He is not going to toss you. But if you make it impossible for him to get it up with you, by your separating him from porno, then you are both going to lose on a good deal.

A rather brilliant observation on your part I don't mind saying....

You are with this guy because why?

Sounds like you have a sex addict on your hands. I'd ask him why you aren't enough, that he has to constantly be viewing porn. I get that porn is a common thing, but someone who views much more than others, would kinda be addicted. If strangers bodies are more his thing, then I'd kick him to the curb. For some reason you don't seem enough for him. Though it's your choice on what you do with him.