Topic: Break in relationship
Pekausis_35's photo
Tue 10/09/12 11:42 AM
My girlfriend asked 2 week break from relationship - as she is not sure if is ready to be with somebody together.
What do you think it means? And do we still have the possibility to be together?

AndyBgood's photo
Tue 10/09/12 11:48 AM
Edited by AndyBgood on Tue 10/09/12 11:49 AM
People need time alone to sort things out sometimes. I wouldn't read too much into it for now but in two weeks you should know what is up. Be ready for a break up though. Your pace in the relationship may be faster than she is ready for. If there is pressure for a commitment I would back off on that PDQ. Men and women alike do not like to feel trapped!


soufiehere's photo
Tue 10/09/12 11:49 AM
There is a saying in this country:
'What's good for the Goose, is good for the Gander.'

I'd get a hot date, during the 2-week break,
and share the news.

Hikerjohn's photo
Tue 10/09/12 12:22 PM
As far as the two of you having a possibility to staying together. How you deal with this tells her what you will allow. If you want a relationship with someone who comes and goes, then allow it. If you don't then don't. I wouldn't just let her back in again. Make sure she figured out what ever she needed to figure out while you two were apart.

If you don't, it wont the last time she pulls this stunt.

pyxxie13's photo
Tue 10/09/12 10:06 PM
I believe she has a new person in mind she wants to try out. Sounds like a bunch of bull to me.
Good luck with that...

I'd make that the longest two weeks she ever heard of.

AndyBgood's photo
Tue 10/09/12 11:29 PM

I believe she has a new person in mind she wants to try out. Sounds like a bunch of bull to me.
Good luck with that...

I'd make that the longest two weeks she ever heard of.


:banana: Listen to the wise lady here!:banana:

Pekausis_35's photo
Wed 10/10/12 01:44 AM
pyxxie13: what exactly you mean under longest two weeks?! Sounds like good idea... :) I don´t want to play second violin - than better nothing at all!

AndyBgood's photo
Wed 10/10/12 02:33 PM

pyxxie13: what exactly you mean under longest two weeks?! Sounds like good idea... :) I don´t want to play second violin - than better nothing at all!


I shall spell out what the wise lady means...

1) start dating another woman.

2) Don't tell your current GF anything.

3) Two weeks later when she wants to warm things up again (which I have a feeling she doesn't) or tell you she just wants to be friends mention you forgot her when you started dating other women. Then thank her for wanting to take the two weeks off from that old relationship she was so unhappy with since the new girl you are with is making you much happier and SHE appreciates you more.

4) Sit back and watch the burn begin to set in when she realizes YOU didn't play her stupid game and moved on with your life.


This goes for men and women, DO NOT LET THE OPPOSITE SEX LEAD YOU AROUND BY YOUR SHORT HAIRS!

Kaleijoscope's photo
Wed 10/10/12 02:56 PM
relationship shouldn't have a stand-by phase...it's just on and then off...simple.

metalwing's photo
Wed 10/10/12 03:00 PM

I believe she has a new person in mind she wants to try out. Sounds like a bunch of bull to me.
Good luck with that...

I'd make that the longest two weeks she ever heard of.


The smart girl speaks!

Simonedemidova's photo
Wed 10/10/12 03:05 PM

I believe she has a new person in mind she wants to try out. Sounds like a bunch of bull to me.
Good luck with that...

I'd make that the longest two weeks she ever heard of.


People who break up and make up a lot, are those who tend to "justify" cheating in their own mind. Either they are committed and willing to work on differences or they are all about having their cake and eating it too, while keeping you in their back pocket. In a way, its a compliment, they arent sure if they can really get better than you, the question is, do you really want them after all that?