Non confrontational does not mean it's cool to just ignore someone as a way of ending things. There are other ways of doing that.

I think thats more of a perception,,,,


one may feel ignored, someone else may just feel like its time to move on,,,

Ignoring someone as a way of breaking up is still ignoring them, whether or not the person feels it's time to move on. You can word it anyway you want, but it's still ignoring the person. And while you may feel it's justified, it's still immature.

while you may feel its immature, I do feel its justified

as I said, different perceptions

I dont believe everything needs to be verbalized, some things can be understood,, without the affect and words,,,

but to each their own

Wow... I wish men disappeared in my life like that. Is this a talent I can learn?
Think of it this way..they did you a favor then.

Me too, but not so surprised he made a comment that it was the woman's fault maybe.

I don't think it's the new norm, it's been happening for years. Happens to me all the time. I like to delude myself into thinking they are just scared that they've fallen for me so quickly,LOL

Everything? No. But, if I'm dating someone and it's not working out, I would at least let them know. I'd expect the same thing in return. Does that mean I'll get that? Of course not. But, I'd expect it more from younger guys, as I would hope they've learned and grown up enough by the time they're my age. Unfortunately, that's not always the case.

understood, we all have different expectations

I dont have the same expectations in a 'dating' situation as I do in a relationship/commitment

I dont feel owed anything, except respect, from someone merely hanging out with me on occasion

someone with whom LOVE Has become a part of the equation, I expect more from,,,

There would be no respect if they just disappeared, though. What I'm talking about is respect.

However, in my opinion, "hanging out" is different than dating."

thats why its so subjective

dating itself is a subjective term that means different things to different people

I personally consider 'dating' a no strings, no obligations, way to pass time with people while figuring out if they are someone you want to move forward with

a 'trial' period if you will,,,


I dont consider 'dating' the same as having a formal relationship of any sort,,,

So, if you make plans to hang out/go on a date and decide that you don't want to anymore, you don't feel any obligation to let them know? Because you felt it meant nothing since it hadn't moved onto something formal?

Well a lot men think they can get another woman to trust them if the same tactic worked the first time, why not try it again? A lot of them won't say what's really going on because they wanna keep their options open if whore #2 doesn't work out ie. she wants something more too soon, she's too overprotective, she snores in her sleep, she's too nice in the sac, she talks too much, she wants to know about his scumbag life, she's smart, she likes control over her life...and so on....men are truly scared of really meeting the right woman because they care so much about being an alpha male.

What she said! except for that last sentence.

People constantly treat others the exact opposite of the way they'd like to be treated... Wanting "Instant satisfaction" is the new norm. They go for it... without thinking of the emotional repercussions to others.

These days, I get instant satisfaction from cutting my grass

them not hearing from me IS letting them know

there was no promise made or implied by us going on a 'date'

if we both enjoyed the 'date' thats where the obligation ends,,,


if we didnt, we are free to not 'date' again

of course, it depends upon the person too, there is no absolute


depending upon the vibe I got from that person as far as their coping and communication skills, I may feel comfortable having a mature conversation with them about their intentions/expectations and mine and letting us gradually come to a mutual conclusion that we were better off remaining friends

few people, in my experience, have the maturity to do so though, so the hints work better for me,,,,

Hints don't work well for most people, from what I've seen, myself included. Being honest and upfront works so much better. But hey, if you're ok with the person dating you ignoring you, go for it :).