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Topic: Is it a crime to tell a woman NO?
Ladywind7 Joined Sun 04/08/12 Posts: 7833	Sun 08/26/12 02:47 PM
Because they have no class. Be grateful you saw that side of them, before it went further.

Bigblackxxx Joined Sat 08/04/12 Posts: 184	Sun 08/26/12 03:04 PM
Thanks to everyone for sharing their perspectives :-) While i know many ladies feel they are simply irresistible, they seem to forget that it is not EVERY man who'd see them as they see themselves! So when their coy advances are subtly rebuffed, they feel scorned and resort to very base methods of getting you down. I quite understand that their pride may suffer some dent in the rejection, but they ought to learn the lesson that men have a choice on who they want and who they don't :-)

blueeyes2000 Joined Thu 11/08/07 Posts: 1517	Sun 08/26/12 03:28 PM
Thanks to everyone for sharing their perspectives :-) While i know many ladies feel they are simply irresistible, they seem to forget that it is not EVERY man who'd see them as they see themselves! So when their coy advances are subtly rebuffed, they feel scorned and resort to very base methods of getting you down. I quite understand that their pride may suffer some dent in the rejection, but they ought to learn the lesson that men have a choice on who they want and who they don't :-) There are some women who don't see things that way. Nobody will ever see a person the way they see themselves, be it good or bad. Not all women play guilt games either. For me, I'd rather be attracted to a man who sees me as I am, and is still attracted to me just because he is. Some people can just say what they think without having to play some of the dating games, so to speak.

Kahurangi Joined Thu 04/26/12 Posts: 1970	Sun 08/26/12 04:13 PM
Thanks to everyone for sharing their perspectives :-) While i know many people feel they are simply irresistible, they seem to forget that it is not EVERYONE who'd see them as they see themselves! So when their advances are subtly rebuffed, they feel scorned and resort to very base methods of getting you down. I quite understand that their pride may suffer some dent in the rejection, but they ought to learn the lesson that everyone has a choice on who they want and who they don't :-) I took the liberty, i hope you don't mind :-)

singmesweet Joined Mon 07/28/08 Posts: 26661	Sun 08/26/12 04:27 PM
Thanks to everyone for sharing their perspectives :-) While i know many ladies feel they are simply irresistible, they seem to forget that it is not EVERY man who'd see them as they see themselves! So when their coy advances are subtly rebuffed, they feel scorned and resort to very base methods of getting you down. I quite understand that their pride may suffer some dent in the rejection, but they ought to learn the lesson that men have a choice on who they want and who they don't :-) Again, this isn't just a ladies issue. Men do the same thing. Some people, both men and women, can't handle rejection well.

Bigblackxxx Joined Sat 08/04/12 Posts: 184	Sun 08/26/12 04:47 PM
Thanks to everyone for sharing their perspectives :-) While i know many ladies feel they are simply irresistible, they seem to forget that it is not EVERY man who'd see them as they see themselves! So when their coy advances are subtly rebuffed, they feel scorned and resort to very base methods of getting you down. I quite understand that their pride may suffer some dent in the rejection, but they ought to learn the lesson that men have a choice on who they want and who they don't :-) Again, this isn't just a ladies issue. Men do the same thing. Some people, both men and women, can't handle rejection well. Maybe we should then look at it from both ends :-) Why is it that some people can't handle rejection maturedly?

Kahurangi Joined Thu 04/26/12 Posts: 1970	Sun 08/26/12 05:04 PM
Maybe we should then look at it from both ends :-) Why is it that some people can't handle rejection maturedly? Did you not just answer your question with "maturedly"....shux...is that even a word? I'll have to check..but i'm sure it is allowed :-) I suspect immature is the winner in response to the question posed.

singmesweet Joined Mon 07/28/08 Posts: 26661	Sun 08/26/12 05:05 PM
Thanks to everyone for sharing their perspectives :-) While i know many ladies feel they are simply irresistible, they seem to forget that it is not EVERY man who'd see them as they see themselves! So when their coy advances are subtly rebuffed, they feel scorned and resort to very base methods of getting you down. I quite understand that their pride may suffer some dent in the rejection, but they ought to learn the lesson that men have a choice on who they want and who they don't :-) Again, this isn't just a ladies issue. Men do the same thing. Some people, both men and women, can't handle rejection well. Maybe we should then look at it from both ends :-) Why is it that some people can't handle rejection maturedly? Because some people aren't mature enough?

Duttoneer Joined Sun 07/01/12 Posts: 4739	Mon 08/27/12 06:32 AM
Thanks to everyone for sharing their perspectives :-) While i know many ladies feel they are simply irresistible, they seem to forget that it is not EVERY man who'd see them as they see themselves! So when their coy advances are subtly rebuffed, they feel scorned and resort to very base methods of getting you down. I quite understand that their pride may suffer some dent in the rejection, but they ought to learn the lesson that men have a choice on who they want and who they don't :-) Exactly.women don't take rejection well. They live in women's world as distinct from us mere mortals, men are much more resilient, it's in the genes because of generations of knock backs from women. Men now have this resistance to put downs which women just do not have, it is not their fault, all a bit sad really.

singmesweet Joined Mon 07/28/08 Posts: 26661	Mon 08/27/12 07:02 AM
Thanks to everyone for sharing their perspectives :-) While i know many ladies feel they are simply irresistible, they seem to forget that it is not EVERY man who'd see them as they see themselves! So when their coy advances are subtly rebuffed, they feel scorned and resort to very base methods of getting you down. I quite understand that their pride may suffer some dent in the rejection, but they ought to learn the lesson that men have a choice on who they want and who they don't :-) Exactly.women don't take rejection well. They live in women's world as distinct from us mere mortals, men are much more resilient, it's in the genes because of generations of knock backs from women. Men now have this resistance to put downs which women just do not have, it is not their fault, all a bit sad really.

msharmony Joined Mon 08/31/09 Posts: 61041	Mon 08/27/12 07:28 AM
Thanks to everyone for sharing their perspectives :-) While i know many ladies feel they are simply irresistible, they seem to forget that it is not EVERY man who'd see them as they see themselves! So when their coy advances are subtly rebuffed, they feel scorned and resort to very base methods of getting you down. I quite understand that their pride may suffer some dent in the rejection, but they ought to learn the lesson that men have a choice on who they want and who they don't :-) Exactly.women don't take rejection well. They live in women's world as distinct from us mere mortals, men are much more resilient, it's in the genes because of generations of knock backs from women. Men now have this resistance to put downs which women just do not have, it is not their fault, all a bit sad really. lol, I actually partially agree with this necessity is a big part of progress and adaptation,, women havent needed to have resilience to 'rejection' for as long and as often as men,,so its probably much more stunning (in general, not in every case) when rejection happens,,,

singmesweet Joined Mon 07/28/08 Posts: 26661	Mon 08/27/12 08:07 AM
Thanks to everyone for sharing their perspectives :-) While i know many ladies feel they are simply irresistible, they seem to forget that it is not EVERY man who'd see them as they see themselves! So when their coy advances are subtly rebuffed, they feel scorned and resort to very base methods of getting you down. I quite understand that their pride may suffer some dent in the rejection, but they ought to learn the lesson that men have a choice on who they want and who they don't :-) Exactly.women don't take rejection well. They live in women's world as distinct from us mere mortals, men are much more resilient, it's in the genes because of generations of knock backs from women. Men now have this resistance to put downs which women just do not have, it is not their fault, all a bit sad really. lol, I actually partially agree with this necessity is a big part of progress and adaptation,, women havent needed to have resilience to 'rejection' for as long and as often as men,,so its probably much more stunning (in general, not in every case) when rejection happens,,, I don't agree that men are more resilient to rejection, though. Some may be, but many are not. Especially on a site like this. I'm sure many of us women have received nasty responses from men that we have turned down.

Duttoneer Joined Sun 07/01/12 Posts: 4739	Mon 08/27/12 08:38 AM Edited by Duttoneer on Mon 08/27/12 08:49 AM
Men are much more robust to rejection, it is like water off a ducks back, you ask for a date and if you are turned down you just move on with some disappointment,there may be the odd sore loser. Whereas a woman would go in to shock with disbelief, throw a wobbler, do some self analysis, and then indulge in massive self pampering for a few weeks. They are just not good at coping with rejection at all.

MariahsFantasy Joined Mon 11/28/11 Posts: 6593	Mon 08/27/12 08:46 AM
Men do it too... people take rejection so personally because they are insecure. I've seen it happen with dudes more than with us ladies.

singmesweet Joined Mon 07/28/08 Posts: 26661	Mon 08/27/12 08:54 AM
Men are much more robust to rejection, it is like water off a ducks back, you ask for a date and if you are turned down you just move on with some disappointment,there may be the odd sore loser. Whereas a woman would go in to shock with disbelief, throw a wobbler, do some self analysis, and then indulge in massive self pampering for a few weeks. They are just not good at coping with rejection at all. Some men may be able to handle rejection well. Definitely not all, as I stated above. I have been insulted and called names for simply telling someone politely that I was not interested in going on a date. That's not very "robust to rejection." Nor is it "like water off a ducks back." And those kind of men certainly aren't just moving on easily. We've all seen posts here where men are wondering why women aren't responding at all. Some won't respond to anyone they're not interested in because of these men who insult them for turning them down.

navygirl Joined Sat 06/02/07 Posts: 8118	Mon 08/27/12 08:58 AM
Why do some ladies become bitter and hateful when a man shows he is not interested in their advances? I don't become bitter or hateful when a guy turns me down. Only time I get mad is when he isn't honest about it. Met a guy that wanted to date younger women and said he couldn't date me as he wasn't over his last girlfriend; rather than just coming out and saying he didn't want to date someone his age. That pissed me off as I hate when men lie to me.

tombraider Joined Wed 09/12/07 Posts: 5042	Mon 08/27/12 09:01 AM
..with as many people as there are in the world you're bound to come across just about every attitude imaginable and then some that go way beyond the imagination and all points in between.....roll on..

Duttoneer Joined Sun 07/01/12 Posts: 4739	Mon 08/27/12 09:07 AM
Men are much more robust to rejection, it is like water off a ducks back, you ask for a date and if you are turned down you just move on with some disappointment,there may be the odd sore loser. Whereas a woman would go in to shock with disbelief, throw a wobbler, do some self analysis, and then indulge in massive self pampering for a few weeks. They are just not good at coping with rejection at all. Some men may be able to handle rejection well. Definitely not all, as I stated above. I have been insulted and called names for simply telling someone politely that I was not interested in going on a date. That's not very "robust to rejection." Nor is it "like water off a ducks back." And those kind of men certainly aren't just moving on easily. We've all seen posts here where men are wondering why women aren't responding at all. Some won't respond to anyone they're not interested in because of these men who insult them for turning them down. I am sorry to hear that you have received insulting emails, no need for that kind of behaviour to a woman ever, there sure are some sore losers about. Yes, you are right, there are some men who do not take rejection well, but in the overall scheme of things I do believe men cope far better than women with rejection. If only from the amount of practise we have had in coping with it.

singmesweet Joined Mon 07/28/08 Posts: 26661	Mon 08/27/12 09:14 AM
Men are much more robust to rejection, it is like water off a ducks back, you ask for a date and if you are turned down you just move on with some disappointment,there may be the odd sore loser. Whereas a woman would go in to shock with disbelief, throw a wobbler, do some self analysis, and then indulge in massive self pampering for a few weeks. They are just not good at coping with rejection at all. Some men may be able to handle rejection well. Definitely not all, as I stated above. I have been insulted and called names for simply telling someone politely that I was not interested in going on a date. That's not very "robust to rejection." Nor is it "like water off a ducks back." And those kind of men certainly aren't just moving on easily. We've all seen posts here where men are wondering why women aren't responding at all. Some won't respond to anyone they're not interested in because of these men who insult them for turning them down. I am sorry to hear that you have received insulting emails, no need for that kind of behaviour to a woman ever, there sure are some sore losers about. Yes, you are right, there are some men who do not take rejection well, but in the overall scheme of things I do believe men cope far better than women with rejection. If only from the amount of practise we have had in coping with it. I just don't believe that either group in general is better than the other at dealing with rejection. I think it's more of an individual thing.

Leigh2154 Joined Sun 10/02/11 Posts: 16479	Mon 08/27/12 09:16 AM Edited by Leigh2154 on Mon 08/27/12 10:01 AM
Thanks to everyone for sharing their perspectives :-) While i know many ladies feel they are simply irresistible, they seem to forget that it is not EVERY man who'd see them as they see themselves! So when their coy advances are subtly rebuffed, they feel scorned and resort to very base methods of getting you down. I quite understand that their pride may suffer some dent in the rejection, but they ought to learn the lesson that men have a choice on who they want and who they don't :-) Again, this isn't just a ladies issue. Men do the same thing. Some people, both men and women, can't handle rejection well. Maybe we should then look at it from both ends :-) Why is it that some people can't handle rejection maturedly? I think anyone who is capable of feeling emotion has a "normal" capacity to fear rejection...I also believe there are many things that negatively influence our fear of rejection driving it to abnormal or excessive levels...The things that influence our fear can change or vary from time to time too, depending on our current circumstances..Some influences include self esteem, mental and physical health, self confidence, self awareness, family dynamics, relationship history....To me a normal reaction to rejection would require a period of sadness and hurt before letting go and moving on...