My recent boyfriend i found out has a dating account with another dating site and i asked him why he needed it and he said that it was just to make friends but i seen the messages and it was guy talking dirty to him and leaving there numbers and addresses what do i do? Do i leave him ? hE SAID HE IS GOING TO TALK TO WHOEVER HE WANTED TO AND THERE IS NOTHING I CAN DO :/ So i made this account and well i feel like i should just move on he lied and hid it from me so im so confused on what to do ??? HElp!!

Seems fairly easy, but it always is when your the person on the outside looking in.

If you two are O.K. with what he is doing then things are fine. But you can clearly see that you are "NOT". So you have voiced how you feel and he clearly gave you "HIS" answer. Now it comes to if you can over look it to be with him or move on.

You both have free will to do what you want - But when you are a couple you have to respect the others rights to some degree. If they are not willing to respect your request you have to work through it like most couples do or move on which is sometimes the harder thing to do when emotions are envoled.

Good luck - another thing is learn how to deal with these problems with out involving outlets like this and facebook. People can only take so much of I love him I love him not before they don't care and you are left in a mess.

Hope it helped
William

I come here for the forums. I like answering the questions. If I flirt with any of them, it's normally in gest, as my bf wouldn't be pleased if otherwise. There are people I talk to more than others. Nothing more than for friendly chit chat. In YOUR case however, I'm not sure what your bf is up to. What's in it for him? Does he seem to think the grass may be greener? If he does, then uh- oh, because you could be the greatest thing he could lose. The type where other potential lovers could never be as great a quality that you are for him. Unfortunately, some only realise this, after they left. The grass is sometimes bluer on the other side. But hey, he apparantely has options. He will learn.

NEXT!!!!!!

But remember 2 wrongs dont make a right n you dont say how long you've been together n so just break-up n start over with someone else........

I think you know, but are in denial.

Sorry you are finding out that your boyfriend doesn't care about you enough to be faithful. Which can be pretty risky behavior so I hope you have shut down intimacy for your own safety. Probably would not hurt you to have yourself checked for any active infections.

And since some of his remarks sound threatening I think I would be fvery conservative about what i said or did so that you don't end up beat down for getting into what he consideres his business.

Probably would also be wise to consider what other promises he may have broken with you. Secure your financial and identification records. Change your passwords. May get a PO Box to at least make sure you do not find yourself in the street with nothing. Sounds like you need and exit plan for this situation.

As a student you probably have resources at your school for counseling and maybe even exploreing your houseing options and I would recommend you useing both.

Your profile says you are Catholic. I would consider talking to your preist and see if they can help you find a plan for yout life that gives you more independence and security. While it might not sound as inviting, or fun, as living with a boyfriend but sometimes renting a room or having a live in employment situation that doesn't involve a romantic relationship will allow you to make better choices for your long term happiness.

Focusing on your education and job skills for a short term could radically improve your over all life.

Good Luck.

I come on here as I have made friends, I flirt with a few, but only the people that I know, and who know that I am married, I met my husband on here and we are both happy to stay on mingle,
If he had a problem with anything I did or said on here, I would be off in a second.
Not because he was telling me what to do, but because I love him and would never hurt him intentionally.

Mingle is important to me, but my relationship is more important.

Are you sure you're really confused and don't know what to do, or are you just afraid to do what you know you should do? I think you know what's going on and what you should do. It's not a pleasant situation, I understand that but trying to live a fantasy is not going to make things any better for you.

Yep! Listen to the voice inside your head.

If I were you, I'd leave him. But also expect him to try to win you back because he obviously feels that he can control you. I got that feeling from the "I will do whatever I want and you can't stop me" statement he said to you. Just stay strong and realize that you can do better than this.

Listen to what yourself is telling you.

Ya know if your with someone and they are still looking for another it is time to move on. For that is what they will do as soon as they find someone else they think is better...

Been there had that done found all his e-mails. I did not give him that option of staying...

How did you find out he had an account on a dating site? What did you make this account for? Why did you read his messages? It kind of seems like there is a whole lot more that you're not saying.

Cons outweigh the pros here. It shouldn't have to be about terms when it comes to a relationship. And the dude has lied repeatedly. Once somebody mentions anything relating to terms, oh boy. RUN. Let them work out their issues. Sadly this can't be fixed, shame. We all start out so decent too.

Be faithful to your boy. Bring him the morning paper and his slippers. Wait for him every night with freshly baked cookies. Keep the house spotless and clean, as well as your whistle. Make him happy in any way you can or anyone else would be able to. Find out what he really likes and make that most often. Do love him. Do go down on him and let him in in the rear. Even on days that you have a headhache. If he wants some kinky stuff, put on a smile, an apron, and nothing else, other than the enema kit, of course, and the lacey one-piece coverall black leather outfit with the chains. No more controlled entry. Give him your all you have, show him that you care with all your heart. Show him that he is the ONE and ONLY for you, and make his life so sweet with you that he'd never look at another man.

I never thought I'd become the voice in someone's head.

I agree! The voices inside in my head never lie to me. They can be loud, obnoxious, and demanding and controlling-like, but their advice is always sound and reasonable. Very solid opinions come only from those voices. I always depend on them, and I do because I can, and it only I who can. The voices in my head are my best friends and my best lovers and haters and strippers and strangers. The whole skint and kabdullah.

That means if somebody else tells you what to do, don't listen to that outside person. Even if that outside person tells you not to listen to that same very outside person, and that you should listen only to your own self's voice, telling you to do this or do that.

Edit: I erased the rest because it was lousily written (by me).

As a career choice, it's not too bad, but the pay is lousy.

My uncle is a devil, and he gets chased out every now and then. At least you sound you have some job security.

(I am so very glad someone, such as you, thinks like I, such as me, on issues that are important to me, like logical conundrums and humour.)