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My life is actually going pretty good. My meds are good. I am living in a nice place. My family is getting along. But I just feel like there are no trust worthy men under 50 anymore. I have younger guy friend friends who are worth something but there is a line in the sand. I just feel like I make such bad decisions and maybe I should just adopt a cat and live as a nun.
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Pffft. Adopt a cat and become an assassin. Much, MUCH funner.
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Whatever your past experiences, don't allow them to define ur outlook to the future :-) There are still good men of all ages out there :-) Forced nunhood doesn't sound like it'd stench that yearning of ur heart :-) Best of luck :-)
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My life is actually going pretty good. My meds are good. I am living in a nice place. My family is getting along. But I just feel like there are no trust worthy men under 50 anymore. I have younger guy friend friends who are worth something but there is a line in the sand. I just feel like I make such bad decisions and maybe I should just adopt a cat and live as a nun. Maybe it's not so much that there isn't any trustworthy men under 50, but maybe some of the bad decisions you've made have made you afraid? I'm sure you understand why you made those decisions that were not the best for you. You seem to be doing better now though, so I say try to let the past go and continue moving forward. If you're no longer interested in younger men, that's OK, but don't let your past interfere with your present or future. I truly do wish you the best and am happy that you seem to be doing better and on a better path. |
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Pffft. Adopt a cat and become an assassin. Much, MUCH funner. I adopted another rat. Big huge cuddly one named Tigi after the shampoo because he was dirty and that's what I washed him with. |
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I think that there are a lot of really good , older men, mainly ones who have already been hurt and are probably wary as well.
Maybe you push them away, it can happen sometimes, Or maybe you just havent met the right man for you. |
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My life is actually going pretty good. My meds are good. I am living in a nice place. My family is getting along. But I just feel like there are no trust worthy men under 50 anymore. I have younger guy friend friends who are worth something but there is a line in the sand. I just feel like I make such bad decisions and maybe I should just adopt a cat and live as a nun. Im with ya on that one, dont trust my judgement about males anymore either except I have children, and I think I will get a dog |
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My life is actually going pretty good. My meds are good. I am living in a nice place. My family is getting along. But I just feel like there are no trust worthy men under 50 anymore. I have younger guy friend friends who are worth something but there is a line in the sand. I just feel like I make such bad decisions and maybe I should just adopt a cat and live as a nun. Im with ya on that one, dont trust my judgement about males anymore either except I have children, and I think I will get a dog But if you don't trust you never open up, how can anyone really love you if you don't let them see all of you and have barriers 
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My life is actually going pretty good. My meds are good. I am living in a nice place. My family is getting along. But I just feel like there are no trust worthy men under 50 anymore. I have younger guy friend friends who are worth something but there is a line in the sand. I just feel like I make such bad decisions and maybe I should just adopt a cat and live as a nun. TERRI!!! Calm down now... think about this a bit more serious...life without s e x !? No no no... step away from the bad bad voice who suggested such things. Go get on a roller coaster,Knott's Berry Farm preferably. Get yourself looking gooooood and go scope out some hot guys and growl at them, whistle, and blow kisses. It makes me feel good every time! 
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My life is actually going pretty good. My meds are good. I am living in a nice place. My family is getting along. But I just feel like there are no trust worthy men under 50 anymore. I have younger guy friend friends who are worth something but there is a line in the sand. I just feel like I make such bad decisions and maybe I should just adopt a cat and live as a nun. Im with ya on that one, dont trust my judgement about males anymore either except I have children, and I think I will get a dog But if you don't trust you never open up, how can anyone really love you if you don't let them see all of you and have barriers
And there it is....trust! It is a major issue with alot of people....and i'm no different. Tis my biggest hurdle that's for sure. |
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I went with the assassin gig. But, I have 2 cats.
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Ninja Skink?
Has a ring to it :-) |
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Same problem here, but more complex. I have a hard time trusting any woman these days after being divorced twice, my music doesn't turn them on any (it's too BRUTAL for them, that's what I told anyway), I'm on meds, disability, etc, etc. Who the hell wants this? Nobody. I'm here for the forums basically.
I find younger women are all about parties and drinking (which is something I can not do) and older women look down badly on me. So it's a no win situation with me. |
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Ya all got any steak and salad and salsa to put in this giagantor pitty pockets?
Come on nice people exist you just have to set back and watch people's behavior a while. Nice people are not going to jump out and announce they are nice. I mean who needs to be stampeded? lol But nice people generally have a lot of things in common. A) They work or at least contribute to the community where they live in a way they can. Maybe if they are disabled they still volunteer or help and elderly neighbor or family member. B) They try to be considerate of others; even people who have no power to do anything to them if they don't. Example They wait patiently in line, pick up something that is spilled, help an animal. C) They consistently tell the truth. Not the polite social crap and even the big stuff like might make you cut and run. Few people like to admit they screw up in life but everybody does and nice people admidt it. And it is how they make up for it or at least try everything they can not to repeat their mistakes that only you can know by taking your time to know people and their people. D) They generally take care of what they have. How people take care of things they work for is a good hint on how they take care of the people they value. They can connect the dots between actions and results. Example have you ever seen some spoiled brat hell a car that a parent or granparent sweat blood to pay for? They might seem sucessful but they have a habit of useing up anything and anyone and those kind of people you want to avoid like the plague. You see a person that has an old car that they clean up, change the oil on, and keep insured you have a responsible person who will more than likely have a good driving record with the DMV and people in general. E) They aren't eager to shack up. Nice people want to do things where everyone is equally invested. When one side or the other is only partially in when it comes to responsibility that makes things lopsided. One person has all the responsibility and sometimes power and the other is set up to be resented. Rarely good for relationships. No promises made might seem like an easy out but the reality is neither side is really in. F) They like you. They don't just need someone or use someone, or lust for someone but actually like you. They can tell you that and you can feel it because they want to have you around more than not. They are comfortable when you are around and miss you when you aren't. Being around you isn't a grind for them. Even if you are not just like them they like you. G) They don't blame others for everything. Yea they don't want to be the scape goat but they own what they bring to the table. If they are weak in some areas they try to be extra strong in others and make it a good bargain for you. I am sure there are other things but this is a good place to start. Look around the room and see what you find. |
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Ya all got any steak and salad and salsa to put in this giagantor pitty pockets? Come on nice people exist you just have to set back and watch people's behavior a while. Nice people are not going to jump out and announce they are nice. I mean who needs to be stampeded? lol But nice people generally have a lot of things in common. A) They work or at least contribute to the community where they live in a way they can. Maybe if they are disabled they still volunteer or help and elderly neighbor or family member. B) They try to be considerate of others; even people who have no power to do anything to them if they don't. Example They wait patiently in line, pick up something that is spilled, help an animal. C) They consistently tell the truth. Not the polite social crap and even the big stuff like might make you cut and run. Few people like to admit they screw up in life but everybody does and nice people admidt it. And it is how they make up for it or at least try everything they can not to repeat their mistakes that only you can know by taking your time to know people and their people. D) They generally take care of what they have. How people take care of things they work for is a good hint on how they take care of the people they value. They can connect the dots between actions and results. Example have you ever seen some spoiled brat hell a car that a parent or granparent sweat blood to pay for? They might seem sucessful but they have a habit of useing up anything and anyone and those kind of people you want to avoid like the plague. You see a person that has an old car that they clean up, change the oil on, and keep insured you have a responsible person who will more than likely have a good driving record with the DMV and people in general. E) They aren't eager to shack up. Nice people want to do things where everyone is equally invested. When one side or the other is only partially in when it comes to responsibility that makes things lopsided. One person has all the responsibility and sometimes power and the other is set up to be resented. Rarely good for relationships. No promises made might seem like an easy out but the reality is neither side is really in. F) They like you. They don't just need someone or use someone, or lust for someone but actually like you. They can tell you that and you can feel it because they want to have you around more than not. They are comfortable when you are around and miss you when you aren't. Being around you isn't a grind for them. Even if you are not just like them they like you. G) They don't blame others for everything. Yea they don't want to be the scape goat but they own what they bring to the table. If they are weak in some areas they try to be extra strong in others and make it a good bargain for you. I am sure there are other things but this is a good place to start. Look around the room and see what you find. [/quote ...yea, half that I can't or don't have  |
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My life is actually going pretty good. My meds are good. I am living in a nice place. My family is getting along. But I just feel like there are no trust worthy men under 50 anymore. I have younger guy friend friends who are worth something but there is a line in the sand. I just feel like I make such bad decisions and maybe I should just adopt a cat and live as a nun. 
 Adopt a cat?
That's blasphemy where I come from. I'll make you a deal. If you would consider me a potential match, then I would promise not to eat your cat if you have one. Just don't leave me alone with it when there is a blender available. 
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My life is actually going pretty good. My meds are good. I am living in a nice place. My family is getting along. But I just feel like there are no trust worthy men under 50 anymore. I have younger guy friend friends who are worth something but there is a line in the sand. I just feel like I make such bad decisions and maybe I should just adopt a cat and live as a nun. I have to tell you their aren't any trust worthy men over 50 either. 
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My life is actually going pretty good. My meds are good. I am living in a nice place. My family is getting along. But I just feel like there are no trust worthy men under 50 anymore. I have younger guy friend friends who are worth something but there is a line in the sand. I just feel like I make such bad decisions and maybe I should just adopt a cat and live as a nun. Im with ya on that one, dont trust my judgement about males anymore either except I have children, and I think I will get a dog But if you don't trust you never open up, how can anyone really love you if you don't let them see all of you and have barriers
And there it is....trust! It is a major issue with alot of people....and i'm no different. Tis my biggest hurdle that's for sure. Trust is a major issue. Not sure I can trust my own judgement to see through ones bs. I guess that's the risk of putting yourself out there. I suppose when you're ready you will know. I'd rather take a chance and enjoy at least the moment than wonder about the chances I've let go. |
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Pffft. Adopt a cat and become an assassin. Much, MUCH funner. I like that idea. 
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