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Topic: long distance love
Simonedemidova Joined Mon 11/15/10 Posts: 8952	Fri 09/07/12 04:57 PM
i know it CAN work. but how offten does it? and how long untill the distance becomes too much?.. Rarely, it has a better chance of working if the relationship is already established. Trying to build a relationship long distance is almost impossible. I guess you could consider the one I'm in now long distance, we're an hour apart, but we do see each other when we have time. It will work though. I'm planning on moving and where I plan to move will be closer to her, so things will get better. Congrats

PacificStar48 Joined Tue 10/02/07 Posts: 13764	Fri 09/07/12 08:04 PM
I think it really depends on a couple of things. One all the variables involved. Having children/close extended family would really make it harder. Owning a home. Having medical limitations. If someone has always lived in the same area and never been mobile a LDR would be a LOT harder. And it has to do a lot with how the participants personality is. If they are not flexible and adaptable can't bloom where they are planted a LDR transition will sink the relationship. LDR's are not unlike some military or other high travel relationships; if you have to have someone at your side to feel committed you best just bag it and look for someone local. It doesn't make you a bad person it just accomodates who you are.

Totage Joined Sat 10/13/07 Posts: 24210	Fri 09/07/12 09:15 PM
i know it CAN work. but how offten does it? and how long untill the distance becomes too much?.. Rarely, it has a better chance of working if the relationship is already established. Trying to build a relationship long distance is almost impossible. I guess you could consider the one I'm in now long distance, we're an hour apart, but we do see each other when we have time. It will work though. I'm planning on moving and where I plan to move will be closer to her, so things will get better. Congrats TY :)

Ghostrider2u Joined Thu 05/17/07 Posts: 6953	Fri 09/07/12 10:01 PM
I'll let ya know if I figger it out!!!

Mystique42 Joined Thu 04/12/07 Posts: 5045	Sat 09/08/12 07:05 AM
Depends upon the two people... my brother actually married a girl from Michigan and he lived in PA. So you never know!

Rawrr_Girl Joined Sun 10/04/09 Posts: 4431	Sat 09/08/12 07:24 AM Edited by Rawrr_Girl on Sat 09/08/12 07:26 AM
i know it CAN work. but how offten does it? and how long untill the distance becomes too much?.. Exactly :) I guess if one of them eventually does a dissapearing act, then it just goes to show they weren't being that serious about their relationship. I'm strong-willed, but not in that sense. I can cope with most things. Except I'd have a hard time not seeing him face-to-face every week. Also the physical side of it. Even if I mean just a hug, it's still important to me to feel him in my arms. I'm not one for distance. Never have been. Never will be. It's all about having him there infront of me. I want him on my couch, not on some computer screen. I'd find it too depressing.

Duttoneer Joined Sun 07/01/12 Posts: 5010	Sun 09/09/12 02:52 AM
i know it CAN work. but how offten does it? and how long untill the distance becomes too much?.. Exactly :) I guess if one of them eventually does a dissapearing act, then it just goes to show they weren't being that serious about their relationship. I'm strong-willed, but not in that sense. I can cope with most things. Except I'd have a hard time not seeing him face-to-face every week. Also the physical side of it. Even if I mean just a hug, it's still important to me to feel him in my arms. I'm not one for distance. Never have been. Never will be. It's all about having him there infront of me. I want him on my couch, not on some computer screen. I'd find it too depressing. This post reply has depressed me, hope he is home soon.