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Topic: Chicks Dig Jerks
Rawrr_Girl Joined Sun 10/04/09 Posts: 4431	Tue 07/17/12 12:21 PM
Maybe she just wasn't into you in the same way you were into her. Or the latter, she wants a jerk. A jerk who at least won't be all whiny.

ezz9 Joined Thu 11/17/11 Posts: 2	Tue 07/17/12 12:24 PM
it's because romance movie and book all have avenger and danger in them and that is what their programmed, to think it will lead to love. it's what society had told and show them over and over, again & again. So they think it true. after all avenger and danger are felling that are titillating just like sex. titillating; Verb, Stimulate or excite (someone), esp. in a sexual way. A good writer know this and will use it in a story.

ujGearhead Joined Wed 10/10/07 Posts: 6612	Tue 07/17/12 12:30 PM
What is the "feminine ideal of saneness?" And what's your own? If guys knew all their ideals (realistic or not) there probably wouldn't be as many dating sites. As far as my own goes...... puts his spaghetti strainer hat back on it involves knowing that Elvis can only be at one gas station at a time. You said "we just reject the feminine ideal of saneness." To reject it, don't you have to know what it is? Nope. I just know that there's some sort of freaky voodoo involved.

vassago140 Joined Wed 07/11/12 Posts: 17	Tue 07/17/12 12:30 PM
MOST women do NOT want jerks...SOME girls do though...I think it goes with the whole excitement factor...also it seems that most people always want what they cant have...the whole chase part of relationships...so the bad boy is the unattainable challenge...what they fail to see is that the guy is a bad boy, in their eyes at least, because he really does not care about them, or much of anything for that matter..other then themselves. Hey, I could be the bad boy...I just have more important things to accomplish in my time here on this earth then being a D!c* LOL...but that's just my opinion...and you know what they say about opinions....haha :P

singmesweet Joined Mon 07/28/08 Posts: 26661	Tue 07/17/12 12:31 PM
Nope. I just know that there's some sort of freaky voodoo involved. No wonder some guys are so hard to understand. They're rejecting things they don't even know!

ujGearhead Joined Wed 10/10/07 Posts: 6612	Tue 07/17/12 12:41 PM
Nope. I just know that there's some sort of freaky voodoo involved. No wonder some guys are so hard to understand. They're rejecting things they don't even know! Guys are easy to understand. Some chicks just assume we're more complicated than we really are, over-think and then miss the obvious explanations.

Totage Joined Sat 10/13/07 Posts: 24210	Tue 07/17/12 01:26 PM
Why do girls blow me off if I'm nice to them, but they seem interested if I'm an a hole??? Or why do they ignore me if I show interest & then suddenly become interested when I give up on trying to get them to notice me??? Why all the games ladies? Why play the victim?

Christinacospgs Joined Sun 04/27/08 Posts: 6376	Tue 07/17/12 01:47 PM
(read this whole thread and just shook her head at it...)

blueeyes2000 Joined Thu 11/08/07 Posts: 1517	Tue 07/17/12 02:29 PM
Maybe it's the way you go about showing your interest? Who knows, except for the women you're talking too.

BrokenAngel29 Joined Thu 06/28/12 Posts: 27	Tue 07/17/12 02:42 PM
0h..every girl has there unique quality..maybe y0u just happen to enc0unter a w0man wh0se n0t enterested at all..

Godiva Joined Tue 12/09/08 Posts: 5330	Tue 07/17/12 03:26 PM
So what? Lots of people blow off nice people all the time. That is really their business. Maybe you did or said something they did not approve of and instead of saying something they just moved on, or maybe they just really were not interested, who knows. Everyone has their own reasons for why they do something, but I truly doubt it is because of the whole "nice guys vs. bad boys" syndrome so many love to post about here. Maybe when you say you are coming off as nice they are seeing at as desperate, needy, uncertain or pushy, I don't know you so I have no idea. I do know a lot of the people who claim to be "nice" guys have a tendency to come off as smothering and pushy. Then when they get dumped or dodged they go to dating sites and post threads about it blaming "bad boys" for their troubles. My advice. Don't sweat it. If you are a nice guy, then continue being one and the right people will take notice and appreciate it.

motowndowntown Joined Wed 11/19/08 Posts: 21731	Tue 07/17/12 04:21 PM
Acting obsequious is driving the wemens away? Okay, I'm confused, and trying to find my dictionary.

krupa Joined Thu 07/03/08 Posts: 18651	Tue 07/17/12 05:18 PM
Alright...I will say it.... Being a loud and obnoxious prick...works. But, it has to be done right cause the guys who are straight up doooshes ain't having any better luck than the sensitive nice guys...the doooshes just don't post threads about it. Women like a bit of a bad boy....can't deny it. Then again, maybe you just have crappy taste in women and go for the skanky bubbleheads who ain't bright enough to know a good man when they see one. (Lord knows I sure as hell did)

loooking4fun2nite Joined Sat 07/07/12 Posts: 1	Tue 07/17/12 05:31 PM
only if there jerks in disguise ** a.k.a after they got sum

TheCaptain Joined Wed 09/06/06 Posts: 44412	Tue 07/17/12 05:31 PM
I'll try to make things even more simple. Men have three motives in life. Yes..only three. Everything we do in life is for the pursuit of... 1) Sex 2) Money 3) Power Maybe not always in that order. Men are very simple, and women are not.

ujGearhead Joined Wed 10/10/07 Posts: 6612	Tue 07/17/12 05:46 PM
I'll try to make things even more simple. Men have three motives in life. Yes..only three. Everything we do in life is for the pursuit of... 1) Sex 2) Money 3) Power Maybe not always in that order. Men are very simple, and women are not. What happened to food and football?

markc48 Joined Wed 05/07/08 Posts: 5536	Tue 07/17/12 06:07 PM
Quit chasing them and they will chase you.

ujGearhead Joined Wed 10/10/07 Posts: 6612	Wed 07/18/12 12:00 AM
Quit chasing them and they will chase you. That's what works for me.

Filmfreek Joined Sat 11/15/08 Posts: 2541	Wed 07/18/12 07:39 AM
So what? Lots of people blow off nice people all the time. That is really their business. Maybe you did or said something they did not approve of and instead of saying something they just moved on, or maybe they just really were not interested, who knows. Everyone has their own reasons for why they do something, but I truly doubt it is because of the whole "nice guys vs. bad boys" syndrome so many love to post about here. Maybe when you say you are coming off as nice they are seeing at as desperate, needy, uncertain or pushy, I don't know you so I have no idea. I do know a lot of the people who claim to be "nice" guys have a tendency to come off as smothering and pushy. Then when they get dumped or dodged they go to dating sites and post threads about it blaming "bad boys" for their troubles. My advice. Don't sweat it. If you are a nice guy, then continue being one and the right people will take notice and appreciate it. Wow. You pretty much nailed it man. Awesome. Thanks!

Filmfreek Joined Sat 11/15/08 Posts: 2541	Wed 07/18/12 07:45 AM
Then again, maybe you just have crappy taste in women and go for the skanky bubbleheads who ain't bright enough to know a good man when they see one. (Lord knows I sure as hell did) Bingo! Second best answer. I do tend to go after chicks with issues. Half the time I don't even realize I'm doing it. I take my statement back. I didn't mean to make a generalization or offend anyone. I was just frustrated and pouting I guess. I know there are still some great gals out there.