I am really struggling to even want to come to this 'Christian Singles' area anymore. I see a lot of contention, disputes, dissension and very little love & compassion for each other. As imitators of Christ we are called to serve & submit to one another?

Should not the 'Christian Singles' forums be a place of refreshing, building each other up. finding friends, maybe even love? There are plenty of internet sites to debate theology etc. Why turn this forum into a snakepit of contention? It saddens me.

Don't hate me because I'm right, hate me because I'm an azzhole... >Me

People's pride gets in the way before their love. They don't want to think or know they are wrong about something like this cause that would make them feel like they are being muniplated into something false. It scares them.

People shouldn't "argue" in the Christian forum, shouldn't really "argue" anywhere about this stuff. If people are shown they are wrong about something, they should learn and move on.

I couldn't hate you no matter how hard I tried. God is our Judge, it is by Him we will stand or fall. I avoid the arguing threads because they disturb me :-)

Blessed are the peacemakers, for they shall be called sons of God. Love does not provoke.

When I was little, I learned this song:

Listen, children, to a story
That was written long ago,
'Bout a kingdom on a mountain
And the valley-folk below.

On the mountain was a treasure
Buried deep beneath the stone,
And the valley-people swore
They'd have it for their very own.

Go ahead and hate your neighbor,
Go ahead and cheat a friend.
Do it in the name of Heaven,
You can justify it in the end.
There won't be any trumpets blowing
Come the judgement day,
On the bloody morning after....
One tin soldier rides away.

So the people of the valley
Sent a message up the hill,
Asking for the buried treasure,
Tons of gold for which they'd kill.

Came an answer from the kingdom,
"With our brothers we will share
All the secrets of our mountain,
All the riches buried there."

Go ahead and hate your neighbor,
Go ahead and cheat a friend.
Do it in the name of Heaven,
You can justify it in the end.
There won't be any trumpets blowing
Come the judgement day,
On the bloody morning after....
One tin soldier rides away.

Now the valley cried with anger,
"Mount your horses! Draw your sword!"
And they killed the mountain-people,
So they won their just reward.

Now they stood beside the treasure,
On the mountain, dark and red.
Turned the stone and looked beneath it...
"Peace on Earth" was all it said.

Go ahead and hate your neighbor,
Go ahead and cheat a friend.
Do it in the name of Heaven,
You can justify it in the end.
There won't be any trumpets blowing
Come the judgement day,
On the bloody morning after....
One tin soldier rides away.

maybe you should try the christianmingle site,
it may be more up your alley,,,

I should not have to leave this site. I have people on this site I have grown to care for.

I think the dilemma is that (At least in my page) there is only general religion or christian singles and general religion is usually not someplace where we can speak about 'christian' topics specifically without it expanding to other things

christian singles seems a place more likely to believing christians to participate in conversation

Interesting, I think the 'topics' should have a mature christian moderator, in my opinion.

But that right there would cause problems. There are too many people who don't believe that I'm Christian no matter how many Biblical verses I present to support my position.

Christianity isn't about following rules from a book, it's about what's in the heart...

There is an interesting book i read called Darkness at Noon, it talks about a middle-aged man who did so many wrong things in his life, nevertherless he thought he would get away with it 'coz he claimed to be so smart. Later he was found guilty and sentenced to life imprisonment. Therefore the end justifies the means.

To those that take pleasure in denouncing, deprecating Christianity and blaspheming God, they will suffer the consequences of their actions.

Ecclesiastes 1:2-3,14 says, "Vanity of vanities, saith the Preacher, vanity of vanities; all is vanity. What profit hath a man of all his labour which he taketh under the sun?...I have seen all the works that are done under the sun; and, behold, all is vanity and vexation of spirit".

Psalm 53:1-3, says, "The fool hath said in his heart, "There is no God." Corrupt are they, and have done abominable iniquity: there is none that doeth good. God looked down from heaven upon the children of men, to see if there were any that did understand, that did seek God. Every one of them is gone back: they are altogether become filthy; there is none that doeth good, no, not one".

God is watching,remember He can not be mocked!

The end will always justify the means.

Why would you even care what people think? God knows our personal journey in Him is His to direct and guide. His word says 'He will not lose one that is His'.Yes He does know the heart and our motivations. What is this book you speak of? The bible?

I care because am apparently praying for such people especially the ones that provoke debates against Christianity on this site. I have seen debates turning into fierce arguments(which isn't good for a Christian). I'm praying that they also get to experience the sweetness of Salvation, God's undying Love for them even if they keep blaspheming Him.

Regarding the book, it's not a Bible, it was written by Arthur Koestler & it was about political wrangles in Russia. It was part of my Literature syllabus during my high school time. So i was just giving an example of the story in the book, that if we do wrong so many times without change then we will suffer the consequences of our actions. Yet again the truth will always prevail.

All the same i know that God is still merciful towards us. :)

The forums are for encouragement as well as discussions or debates. There is nothing wrong with debates as long as it is done without personal insults.

Not everyone agrees 100% on anything in life....including Christians. But these forums are open for discussions etc. The Christian Singles forum is just a place for Christians to meet, discuss, debate, etc.

There are specific forums like this for the other beliefs, as well, for those beliefs to interact with others.



I happen to be a Christian and a mod. But all mods have access to all of the specific religions so we can do our job. SO there can be a good discussion/debate on issues but that doesn't mean there is hate involved or anything.

I don't agree with a lot of the different churches interpretations of the scriptures. That doesn't make me any less of a Christian though. Why do we have so many different churches (Catholic, Baptist, Methodist, etc...and Messianic Judaism) It's because the churches can't even agree on scriptures.

Jessaly, that post I wrote saying 'why do you even care' was for peterpan, not you :-) You happened to post in the middle of my next post.

Thanks for that Yellowrose10. That clarifies alot for me. We are peculiar people that is for sure lol.

I was brought up in the Church of Christ and I come from a long of strong Christians. But the thing that always bothered me (mainly the churches) is the judgement. We can't judge what is in someone's heart and mind. That is for God. After my dad died (when I was 7) my mom went to several different Christian denominations looking for comfort and healing. Those churches told us that our dad went to Hell because he was a Lutheran (wasn't one of their beliefs)

I never understood how any Christian could say that.

No one on Earth is all knowing. Sometimes discussions help us learn things that maybe we didn't think of. Or it might help us realize that our belief is the right one for us.

I recently cut off contact with my aunt because she is one of the ones that believes if you don't believe what her church teaches then you aren't a real Christian and she accused me of not being a real Christian.

God has the final say on us.

Sorry....just a little bit about why I believe in certain things lol

I have been here longer than anyone in this thread (except smokeybette, who beats me by less than a month lol) but this forum has always had discussions/debates. I think a healthy debate can be good. We might learn something about ourselves or at least about others

But I do understand what you are saying. Christians should be about love and non-judgmental IMO, but Christians are human. I used to be a regular in politics and general religion and the "if you don't believe as I do, then your are wrong" has always come up. I may not agree with everything someone says, but as long as it isn't an attack, I can agree to disagree.

Humans are strange for sure