I'm not tryin to go after it like that. I just want something to show for everything I've put into everyone elses relationships, ya know. I've put so much work into relationships in my life, and not one of them has been for me. I can't even get it to a point where there is actually talk of a possible relationship. Yet I can get anyone else together. From scratch. I can get the phone numbers, I can get the girls interested. But after that, it goes down the tubes.It's like all I'm good for is one night stands. I can get the first night, but don't expect me to be able to make it past that. And I hate it. I just want someone who is willing to put some effort into getting to know me and take the time. By all means, I want to take my time and get to know someone before I dtart dating. But I just want it to get to a point where I have that option.

Doorman. That's what I'd like to be out here. Tips are great. LOL

Ten years ago, I met and fell in love with a beautiful, tall, slender young lady who could have easily been a Victoria's Secret model had she not had such negative self esteem!
I tried my damnedest to get her out of that shell, but the men she had gone with before me had made her think she was never pretty enough, or smart enough.
She was beautiful, but she was a "*****" too and she would admit the fact that she was to anyone!LOL! She FINALLY started coming out of that shell, and then she was diagnosed with cancer.

This coming November will be 3 years since she left this earthly plain, but I at least I did make a difference in her life!

Life goes on! I will always love that woman. But I think she would approve of the one I'm with now!They are very similar in personality and looks, but so very similar in other ways!

OK. I've read what's been written here. Some of it bad, some of it good. Some of it positive, some negative.

You're nineteen - You're still young. Give it time.

You're unemployed - Don't give up trying to get a job. Any job. Even if it is only waiting tables at your local burger king until you can find the correct one for you.

You've spent money on dating sites sites - Once bitten, twice shy. It can cost $1000s, and you may still not find who you're looking for.

You've talked to girls - Don't stop. You never know when Miss right will just pop up.

You can't seem to get beyond the first date? - Maybe you're expecting too much, too soon.



Hang around here for a while. Post in the forums. Invite people to join your friends list, get to know everyone. You seem to have a reasonably sound head on your shoulders.
Give it time.
There's an old English saying.

'Faint heart never won fair lady.'

Sorry! They have similar personalities, totally different looks! This one is like me: Logic and reason! The other one: not so logical or reasonable!

uk1971: I could not have put it more eloquently.

Thank you!

You know what you gotta do vegas? suck in your chest and talk to as many girls as you can on here. no matter what they look like, sound like, what your friends would say, whatever. just try talkin to them, even if it's just a few lines. build up some confidence from there, and keep climbing the ladder.

believe me, i started low. wanna hear pathetic? lol... 4 year varsity wrestler, including co-captain. no girlfriend, all 4 years... i thought wrestlers were supposed to "get babes"...

1) i didn't have a clue about women
2) i got all nervous around them
3) i didn't have confidence in myself


A conversation with a beautiful woman shouldn't be any different verbally from a regular friend. The difference? The 70% of communication NOT being said, like confidence. There's no magic formula for success, no pick-up line. A woman makes her decision about you before you even open your mouth. You sound intelligent - no need to change what you say. Keep at it and keep your head up! The more you work at it, the more you'll understand

Be nice to the ones who may not even be up to you standards. They are human beings too. Be nice. That makes you look compassionate. Plus: some of them are just damned fun to talk to!

yeah, i just needed to smack him around a little.

there's no disrespect intended. i've met some really cool people. and yeah i probably wouldn't date all of them, but i've still had some really damn good conversations with them either way!

Well for one you have only been here for a week!!!!!! If you want a quality relationship, they just don't magically appear!!!!!!! Don't settle for the first woman that comes along JUST because you want a relationship...It doesn't work that way...Anything worth having is worth waiting for!!!!!!!!!!

Welcome to JSH by the way and good luck!!!!!!!!

I hate to exit this conversation gentlemen, but I have only been home from work for about 2 hrs now, and must check my e-mails before going to sleep.
I am glad I had the chance to add what little advice I could to this thread and hope it at least helped to shed a little light for you. In the meantime, I would be honored if any of you gentlemen would add me to your friends. Stimulating conversation is always welcome!

Thanks' again!

Good day all!

ok well i have read most of the thread as well.....


i have to wonder, why am i always the one to see the obvious?

if you are 19 then the women you are looking at are how old????

1 year younger is legal, and how much older will you go?
you want a serious relationship..but where is the relationship you have with yourself?

examine your priorities first. a job. a direction, a place to invite the woman you finally choose, a place worthy to receive HER.

master yourself and she will see the treasure easily and open her heart to yours.

i honestly think you are replacing the scenario you had at home with a new one that resembles it, just with a few modifications for more gratification...it sounds like auto pilot behaviour...to orchestrate what you are familiar with...being the main man of a household....but this time your own design.... but hey let's get real

how many young women want what you want in that age range that is acceptable??

university, dreams, ambitions, we have these too!!!

the woman you are looking for only lives in your movie....

stop looking and live , take on life!! court her!! dance with her !! get stepped on some more!!! find your balance and humour, GROW and thrive and become beautiful!!

you don't have enough at 19 even with your baggage to be taken seriously by the kind of woman you appear to be looking for!

this is just my logic...take it or leave it.

p.s. leave vegas. lol.


peace

Ditto the above!

first off dude, get a job no woman in her right mind wants one unemployed bum. the next thing you need to consider is living arrangements, so far you have not mentioned what they are. are you with a group, living in a hovel or just sleeping out in the open or under a freeway.

1st off I need to address "Buckethead", if the dog is smater than a girl, and SHE ran away like a human girl then I agree......dogs are smarter than girls. But not smarter than WOMEN who wouldn't date you in the first place

And Vagas.......just take a step back and look at the 4 pages of people listening to you and trying to help. Even if it seems like they aren't. Hell, you're getting quality as well as quantity dude.

Okay you think your gonna get a girl with out a job lol think again.

Get a job like most people said, wait until your a little older one year or so.

Stop wasting your money on dating sites, stop trying to hard because that is what your doing, your trying way to damn hard.

Things will come to you some time sooner or later but you have to be very very extremely patient etc.

Another thing don't be so cocky, surely that helps but be your self and don't try to not be your self.

Just got to take one day at a time.

Things will happen just give it time.

Besides your only 19. And your still very young as most people have stated here.

Take one day at a time as I said and just start by finding a job and going from there.

Here's the thing. I am a cocky person. That is me being me. I have no problem with carrying myself, I just have the confidence with approaching women that I find attractive. That is my only problem. And I actually like older women. 22 or so, up to about 25. But I like them because they are mature. And that's the one thing that kills me is that the women my age are not as mature, but the ones that are as mature are not looking for someone my age because they want someone to be able to go to the club with, someone to go drink with. It's not that I'm desperate about getting a girl, it's that I've spent all this time with nothing. As much as I want one, it isn't the end of the world. I'll find someone eventually. But I am not going to die if I don't get one in the next two weeks.

now i am just getting angry....22 -25 mature????


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Breathe girlfriend ...

In through the nose to a count of 4.... hold it for a count of 7 ... slowly exhale through the mouth to a count of 8 ... repeat

There ... feel better?

Yeah. 22-25 mature. More mature than 18-20. I never said that they were the most mature. Relax. Don't get your panties in a wad. LOL. I would honestly go for 26-28 if I had a shot. Because that is about the age when most women start to realize what they actually want in a relationship. I've been with as old as 35. Amazing too.