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Topic: What is a gentleman?
TexasScoundrel Joined Wed 10/29/08 Posts: 3693	Tue 06/19/12 08:47 AM
Gentleman; that word has been thrown around a lot the last few days in the dating & relationship forum. But, it's being used in a way I find unfamiliar. It seems a "gentleman" is supposed to be some kind of android devoid of sexual desires. I've been around this forum long enough to know most women want a man to pursue them. To take the lead and make the first move. Yet still not desire her sexually? Is a "gentleman" the same as a "real man"? Please, give your definition.

TBRich Joined Fri 11/07/08 Posts: 8232	Tue 06/19/12 08:52 AM
LOL! I would not take what is written in these forums too seriously. Just think Cary Grant.

TexasScoundrel Joined Wed 10/29/08 Posts: 3693	Tue 06/19/12 09:13 AM
LOL! I would not take what is written in these forums too seriously. Just think Cary Grant. I was thinking of him. Clark Gable and Rock Hudson too. But, IMHO the top Gentleman would have to be William Powell. However, in films these men often infuriated their leading ladies.

VonSabrewulf Joined Thu 05/24/12 Posts: 47	Tue 06/19/12 09:46 AM
lol thats the point entirely. Women say they want something while deep down they want something else. To be a true Gentlemen you have to give women what they need not what they ask ;)

TexasScoundrel Joined Wed 10/29/08 Posts: 3693	Tue 06/19/12 09:52 AM
lol thats the point entirely. Women say they want something while deep down they want something else. To be a true Gentlemen you have to give women what they need not what they ask ;) This is an outstanding answer!

msharmony Joined Mon 08/31/09 Posts: 61041	Tue 06/19/12 10:07 AM Edited by msharmony on Tue 06/19/12 10:08 AM
Gentleman; that word has been thrown around a lot the last few days in the dating & relationship forum. But, it's being used in a way I find unfamiliar. It seems a "gentleman" is supposed to be some kind of android devoid of sexual desires. I've been around this forum long enough to know most women want a man to pursue them. To take the lead and make the first move. Yet still not desire her sexually? Is a "gentleman" the same as a "real man"? Please, give your definition. NO a real man , to me, has more to do with how well one handles responsibilities, regardless of their 'gentleness' I married a 'real man' in my youth, although he wasnt what ID say was a gentleman a gentleman , to me, must both HANDLE responsibility and have a reverence/respect for women as MORE than a tool for their ego or sexual desires,,, MUCH MORE<,,, enough respect to not call them out their name enough respect to be faithful to them enough respect to open a car door, or offer their jacket enough of a gentleman to take their arm or their hand often enough respect to walk her home, or to her door ,,,,,,little displays of apprecation that make the difference between just a man and a true gentleman my mom seems to always find gentlemen and I have a cousin who has found herself one as well,,, Im still working on it,,,,

singmesweet Joined Mon 07/28/08 Posts: 26661	Tue 06/19/12 10:09 AM
Gentleman; that word has been thrown around a lot the last few days in the dating & relationship forum. But, it's being used in a way I find unfamiliar. It seems a "gentleman" is supposed to be some kind of android devoid of sexual desires. I've been around this forum long enough to know most women want a man to pursue them. To take the lead and make the first move. Yet still not desire her sexually? Is a "gentleman" the same as a "real man"? Please, give your definition. What's your definition of a "real man?" Might want to provide that, so people can let you know if they think a gentleman is the same.

singmesweet Joined Mon 07/28/08 Posts: 26661	Tue 06/19/12 10:09 AM
lol thats the point entirely. Women say they want something while deep down they want something else. To be a true Gentlemen you have to give women what they need not what they ask ;) Can you give an example of what a woman may say they want and what they actually want deep down?

TexasScoundrel Joined Wed 10/29/08 Posts: 3693	Tue 06/19/12 10:24 AM Edited by TexasScoundrel on Tue 06/19/12 10:31 AM
I was going to say something, but something has come up.

Goofball73 Joined Mon 11/05/07 Posts: 33913	Tue 06/19/12 10:47 AM
lol thats the point entirely. Women say they want something while deep down they want something else. To be a true Gentlemen you have to give women what they need not what they ask ;) Can you give an example of what a woman may say they want and what they actually want deep down? Well, a lot of women do say that they don't need a man to be their protector. But deep down, they truly want that. Not saying all women are like this, but there are those who are.

msharmony Joined Mon 08/31/09 Posts: 61041	Tue 06/19/12 10:53 AM
lol thats the point entirely. Women say they want something while deep down they want something else. To be a true Gentlemen you have to give women what they need not what they ask ;) Can you give an example of what a woman may say they want and what they actually want deep down? Well, a lot of women do say that they don't need a man to be their protector. But deep down, they truly want that. Not saying all women are like this, but there are those who are. I know what you mean however, there is a difference between 'need' and 'want' life experience is teaching me I dont actually 'need' a man, I can figure out anything without one that I can figure out with one however I would 'prefer' a man do certain things, protection is one of them,,

singmesweet Joined Mon 07/28/08 Posts: 26661	Tue 06/19/12 10:59 AM
lol thats the point entirely. Women say they want something while deep down they want something else. To be a true Gentlemen you have to give women what they need not what they ask ;) Can you give an example of what a woman may say they want and what they actually want deep down? Well, a lot of women do say that they don't need a man to be their protector. But deep down, they truly want that. Not saying all women are like this, but there are those who are. Wanting it is different than needing it, though. Maybe they don't actually need it and can take care of themselves, but like having a man around to help take care of them?

MariahsFantasy Joined Mon 11/28/11 Posts: 6593	Tue 06/19/12 11:03 AM
lol thats the point entirely. Women say they want something while deep down they want something else. To be a true Gentlemen you have to give women what they need not what they ask ;) Can you give an example of what a woman may say they want and what they actually want deep down? Well, a lot of women do say that they don't need a man to be their protector. But deep down, they truly want that. Not saying all women are like this, but there are those who are. Wanting it is different than needing it, though. Maybe they don't actually need it and can take care of themselves, but like having a man around to help take care of them? What is the stigma with a woman wanting someone to look out for them? We all desire this. Even a man does.

TBRich Joined Fri 11/07/08 Posts: 8232	Tue 06/19/12 11:09 AM
Gentleman; that word has been thrown around a lot the last few days in the dating & relationship forum. But, it's being used in a way I find unfamiliar. It seems a "gentleman" is supposed to be some kind of android devoid of sexual desires. I've been around this forum long enough to know most women want a man to pursue them. To take the lead and make the first move. Yet still not desire her sexually? Is a "gentleman" the same as a "real man"? Please, give your definition. NO a real man , to me, has more to do with how well one handles responsibilities, regardless of their 'gentleness' I married a 'real man' in my youth, although he wasnt what ID say was a gentleman a gentleman , to me, must both HANDLE responsibility and have a reverence/respect for women as MORE than a tool for their ego or sexual desires,,, MUCH MORE<,,, enough respect to not call them out their name enough respect to be faithful to them enough respect to open a car door, or offer their jacket enough of a gentleman to take their arm or their hand often enough respect to walk her home, or to her door ,,,,,,little displays of apprecation that make the difference between just a man and a true gentleman my mom seems to always find gentlemen and I have a cousin who has found herself one as well,,, Im still working on it,,,, In my experience, "enough respect" like this is just enough to have the woman start losing rezspoect for the man.

msharmony Joined Mon 08/31/09 Posts: 61041	Tue 06/19/12 11:10 AM
Gentleman; that word has been thrown around a lot the last few days in the dating & relationship forum. But, it's being used in a way I find unfamiliar. It seems a "gentleman" is supposed to be some kind of android devoid of sexual desires. I've been around this forum long enough to know most women want a man to pursue them. To take the lead and make the first move. Yet still not desire her sexually? Is a "gentleman" the same as a "real man"? Please, give your definition. NO a real man , to me, has more to do with how well one handles responsibilities, regardless of their 'gentleness' I married a 'real man' in my youth, although he wasnt what ID say was a gentleman a gentleman , to me, must both HANDLE responsibility and have a reverence/respect for women as MORE than a tool for their ego or sexual desires,,, MUCH MORE<,,, enough respect to not call them out their name enough respect to be faithful to them enough respect to open a car door, or offer their jacket enough of a gentleman to take their arm or their hand often enough respect to walk her home, or to her door ,,,,,,little displays of apprecation that make the difference between just a man and a true gentleman my mom seems to always find gentlemen and I have a cousin who has found herself one as well,,, Im still working on it,,,, In my experience, "enough respect" like this is just enough to have the woman start losing rezspoect for the man. not women like me,,,

TBRich Joined Fri 11/07/08 Posts: 8232	Tue 06/19/12 11:15 AM
Gentleman; that word has been thrown around a lot the last few days in the dating & relationship forum. But, it's being used in a way I find unfamiliar. It seems a "gentleman" is supposed to be some kind of android devoid of sexual desires. I've been around this forum long enough to know most women want a man to pursue them. To take the lead and make the first move. Yet still not desire her sexually? Is a "gentleman" the same as a "real man"? Please, give your definition. NO a real man , to me, has more to do with how well one handles responsibilities, regardless of their 'gentleness' I married a 'real man' in my youth, although he wasnt what ID say was a gentleman a gentleman , to me, must both HANDLE responsibility and have a reverence/respect for women as MORE than a tool for their ego or sexual desires,,, MUCH MORE<,,, enough respect to not call them out their name enough respect to be faithful to them enough respect to open a car door, or offer their jacket enough of a gentleman to take their arm or their hand often enough respect to walk her home, or to her door ,,,,,,little displays of apprecation that make the difference between just a man and a true gentleman my mom seems to always find gentlemen and I have a cousin who has found herself one as well,,, Im still working on it,,,, In my experience, "enough respect" like this is just enough to have the woman start losing rezspoect for the man. not women like me,,, So you are special, a far away ideal that I will only use to compare other women to. But more importantly- look at how I spelt respect- rezspeoect- i hate this Mac.

singmesweet Joined Mon 07/28/08 Posts: 26661	Tue 06/19/12 11:22 AM
lol thats the point entirely. Women say they want something while deep down they want something else. To be a true Gentlemen you have to give women what they need not what they ask ;) Can you give an example of what a woman may say they want and what they actually want deep down? Well, a lot of women do say that they don't need a man to be their protector. But deep down, they truly want that. Not saying all women are like this, but there are those who are. Wanting it is different than needing it, though. Maybe they don't actually need it and can take care of themselves, but like having a man around to help take care of them? What is the stigma with a woman wanting someone to look out for them? We all desire this. Even a man does. I didn't say there was anything wrong with it. Some may not need it, though. Wanting it is different.

mightymoe Joined Sun 11/19/06 Posts: 37362	Tue 06/19/12 11:32 AM
lol thats the point entirely. Women say they want something while deep down they want something else. To be a true Gentlemen you have to give women what they need not what they ask ;) Can you give an example of what a woman may say they want and what they actually want deep down? Well, a lot of women do say that they don't need a man to be their protector. But deep down, they truly want that. Not saying all women are like this, but there are those who are. Wanting it is different than needing it, though. Maybe they don't actually need it and can take care of themselves, but like having a man around to help take care of them? What is the stigma with a woman wanting someone to look out for them? We all desire this. Even a man does. no, i think that most men want a woman to stand by them, even when they are doing something obviously dumb... anyone can help pay the bills, or do the dishes, but i think it is much deeper than that....

MrBiscuit Joined Tue 05/17/11 Posts: 1996	Tue 06/19/12 11:33 AM Edited by MrBiscuit on Tue 06/19/12 11:35 AM
A Gentleman is a man that is Gentle. kind, and fair, nothing more.

Goofball73 Joined Mon 11/05/07 Posts: 33913	Tue 06/19/12 11:40 AM
lol thats the point entirely. Women say they want something while deep down they want something else. To be a true Gentlemen you have to give women what they need not what they ask ;) Can you give an example of what a woman may say they want and what they actually want deep down? Well, a lot of women do say that they don't need a man to be their protector. But deep down, they truly want that. Not saying all women are like this, but there are those who are. Wanting it is different than needing it, though. Maybe they don't actually need it and can take care of themselves, but like having a man around to help take care of them? What is the stigma with a woman wanting someone to look out for them? We all desire this. Even a man does. no, i think that most men want a woman to stand by them, even when they are doing something obviously dumb... anyone can help pay the bills, or do the dishes, but i think it is much deeper than that.... I agree with what Mightymoe wrote. A woman can make a man ten times better when she stands by him. And good point Singmesweet. But I will ask this. Why are some women so defiant in making it known that they don't want, or need a man to do that when they know they truly would desire it? Why the hassle to put up a front? Lol.