Don't you guys get freaked out at the thought of falling in love with a total stranger? I do get scared sometimes!

Hell yeah, but if you have your wits about you, just go with your gut instinct. If you suddenly start feeling unsafe around them, or are put off by anything he says/does, then at least you know to look for the nearest taxi. Yes all is not as rose-tinted as it seems. I stay very vigilant about the whole thing :)

I like that,"just go with your gut instinct". It's just the matter of exercising caution and common sense.

No, it doesn't scare me because if I am going to fall in love with them, I would have gotten to know them already. They wouldn't be a stranger anymore.

Just remember just like taking a test you always should go with your first answer.

You can easily fall in love with an angel in disguise 'coz I'm certain that you can't entirely know them thru' the internet.

Before falling in love, I'd have to meet and spend time with them. I use a site like this to meet people I may not meet otherwise. But to actually date, you have to meet offline and go from there.

Can you ever really know someone? Knowing another person is a function of O (their openness) + A (your attentiveness) * T (time together). (O + A)T = K (knowledge). It can take years to get to know someone and even then it's imperfect knowledge. The problem with relationships today, as I see it, isn't that people don't know each other, it's that they don't choose to love one another once they do get to know each other.

That aside, you can't fall in love, you can only fall into infatuation or lust with a person. Love takes effort and time. Love is a choice and is hard work.

Wonder if its weird that a kid like me "had the Vegas Strip light up" reading, Understanding AND Comprehending that equation, and realize...that "I am a stranger amongst strangers whom are my friends which makes us friends"....Mind = BLOWN

Can I be that stranger? After all, I am stranger than most people.

we are all strangers at some point,it takes a stranger to meet a stranger get talking and get to know oneself,becomes friends from there who knows what follows next.

You are asking strangers :-)

Exactly why I'm asking

Mmmm, for me, falling in love is not as scary
a thought as having to actually meet them.
You know, it is all going good until then.

Ever meet someone famous that you admired and found out you hated them, online dating is much like that. You think you really like this person because you see the edited version. Then when faced with the real person, sometimes, not always, you are like HOW COULD I STAND THIS PERSON??

It is much better than getting divorced from someone who has become a total stranger. Come on now, what are you really afraid of? Being vulnerable? Many times I have fallen in love for one night.

Your definition of love leaves much to be desired.

Something like this. It is actually easier to fall in love with strangers than with childhood friends.

This goes back to Nature forming within each of us the feelings of incest on one hand, and excitement over fresh meat, on the other.

This sounded vulgar, but it works on the emotional / spiritual level as well.

In the times when people, all people, lived in small communities, the blood line of each community was empoverished for diversity. When a stranger came through, it was sexy.

In Europe, way before Biblical times, there were meeting places for marriage reasons. This is an anthropological find. Peoples or tribes sent their marriable young members there to mingle and meet members of other tribes. There are corollary connotations -- for instance, people knew how to tell the calendar way before farming was discovered -- becasue the meet lasted about a week or two once every three years. If you missed the meeting, you missed the boat, the man, and the little man in the boat.


So the lesson is, that tribes did not know about the need to diversify the blood line, but they knew how sexy it was to see fresh faces.

"Strangers in the night" is much more believable to me than sweethearts who grew up from age three.

BUT beware: Infatuation with strangers is always based on false hopes, false impressions, and good looks. You can't know who and how they are. If you grow up with the boy next door, and he marries you, then you have a better indication of his character. (This is actually why I never touched girl next door, after her divorce, when she looked me up; she was a moral zero, as far as I could throw her. She kept family, a clean house, good cooking, but she was dubious, devious, etc. She wasn't all bad, but her bad was abhorrable to me.)

A stranger could be good, bad, medium, you don't know. A liar, a naive person, a knight in shining white armour who will turn to be a wife-beater or kid-abuser, or anything. You don't know. You can't know.

But that's beside the point. The point is to trust your first gut feeling, and if you are in love, act on it.

Reason? Reason 1, is that love comes once in a while only. Whether you sustain your love or he, or both, is a question of basic character, which neither of you have control over; not over your own, not over the other's.

So the thing is still a crap shoot game, any way you look at it, but at least you are in love, and that can't be beat, that feeling.

More of an excuse than a definition

By the way, if you "fall in love" with a total stranger, then is it really love that you are feeling?