I don't know whether such a similar subject was ever discussed in the Christian singles' forum before, but i just want to know your take on how you would rank physical attraction in your relationships.

Most of us are on this site to find that special someone, a soul mate, a confidant and perhaps even a future spouse( that is if God wills it), do you think physical attraction is that essential before initiating a relationship?

Some people would say humilty, intellect and pleasant appearance (good morals) is just enough.

Others would say Godly characters strongly determine good relationships 'coz such would yield a great result for a life time.

Others are easily blown away by a pretty face, good body shape,.... and so they just embrace looks first then eventually fall in love with their character/personality.

I'm so curious to know your opinions on this.

Sorta yes, sorta no. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. Your emotional feelings towards a person influences your physical feelings eg., you think they are beautiful, ugly, ect.

When you first meet a person, you automatically decide if you think you'll like the person or not, thus they then either look good to you or they are not good looking to you.

Godly Character.

Insightful.

Resourceful.

Confident.

Mature-minded.

Sense of humor (Doesn't everyone enjoy laughter?)

Tactful.

The majority of men are most attracted to a woman with a waist to hip ratio of .7. The majority of women are attracted to men with a waist to hip ratio of .9. People are also more attracted to people who have unblemished skin, symmetrical features, clean hair and teeth. There are legitimate biological and survival reasons for these preferences. I don't see how religion can affect this.

Very true the majority of us consider looks/beauty as something essential and it's natural to feel that way, i mean who doesn't want to get married to someone with good looks? However we ought to understand that physical beauty fades, it's just for a while.

"I don't see how religion can affect this"

There's this inner beauty that lasts for a life time, the beauty of the heart. God looks at the heart and not the outward appearance.
1 Samuel 16:7;
But the LORD said to Samuel, "Do not consider his appearance or his height, for I have rejected him. The LORD does not look at the things man looks at. Man looks at the outward appearance, but the LORD looks at the heart."

Beauty shouldn't be a priority in a relationship and thus we shouldn't let people's opinions shape our identity in Christ.
Our beauty should be that of our inner self, the unfading beauty of a gentle & quiet spirit which is of great worth in God's sight(1Peter3:3-4). We should describe beauty basing on Godly characters such as meekness,honesty,compassionate & kindness, loyalty,making use of our God given talents/spiritual gifts to serve the needs of others.

Inner beauty is much more important despite the fact that physical beauty is innevitably contemplated in relationships.

I think, in black and white, it is important to be able to 'imagine' yourself looking in this persons face or holding or being held by that person

with SO many people online, the physical is one way to narrow down options in a realistic way


I think, in person, that many other types of attraction can DEVELOP into a physical attraction

I have ended up in a relationship with those who, initially, would not physically catch my attention in any way,, but who became EXTREMELY attractive physically once I got to know them personally

I think its BEST to let the personal connection turn into physical attraction than to work from physical attraction hoping to turn it into a personal connection,, because the flesh is weak and can make us overlook many things that we shouldnt be overlooking,,

When I observe a beautiful person it is not the appearance that captures my heart. Tis the beautiful spirit of that one that draws me near.

Jesally,

When it comes to dating, Christians and non-Christians alike search for someone who can satisfy the desires of the flesh. That is why some "Christian" women date non-Christian men, contrary to the Apostle Paul's instruction not to do such a thing.

You seem angry about that Dodo David. I can assure you not all christian woman do date non christian men. In the 13 years since my husband died I have not dated a non christian.

I don't thing Christianity has much to do with attraction. I think, after you get to know someone a little, their non-Christian beliefs can be a big turn off.

I am not angry. I am merely stating an observation. The desires of the flesh influence our decisions about dating.

When filling out their profiles, plenty of people here select "Christian-Other" in the Religion category of the "Lifestyle" section. Yet, in the "Interests" section and the "Blurb" section, the same people give no indication that faith has any priority in their lives.

I am thankful that several people here do make their faith a central point in their profiles.