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Topic: Any of you Hearing Impaired (Deaf, HOH, CODA, etc)?
SeekforBride's photo
Tue 06/05/12 08:12 AM
I am Deaf. Can talk very well and read lips though and I use ASL, PSE, SEE, and Central American Sign Language (Costa Rican).

What about you? any of you Deaf, HOH, CODA, Late Deafness, etc?

wux's photo
Tue 06/05/12 08:35 AM
Edited by wux on Tue 06/05/12 08:47 AM

I am Deaf. Can talk very well and read lips though and I use ASL, PSE, SEE, and Central American Sign Language (Costa Rican).

What about you? any of you Deaf, HOH, CODA, Late Deafness, etc?


I have normal hearing, but have trouble understanding some expressions when I hear them uttered by highly-pitched voices (females only) such as "no" and "don't".

Seriously speaking, I have very good hearing, but have a lot of trouble understanding unclear human speech. Also, because my ears are the opposite to "sticking out", as they lie flat onto my skull, (this is no joke) I have trouble understanding my conversation partners. This is so, because my ear does not collect the voice of my conversation vis-a-vis right in front of me, the air waves that leave his mouth go past my ears, they don't get captured. (Most earlobes on mammals act simlarly to radar cups on radar antennas: you've seen dogs turn their ears, even when their eyes are closed and lying down, or cats, whatever; they tune their "radar" to the proper direction to be facing the source.) Then if there is ambient noise, it has a better chance of being heard by me, since it comes from all directions. So I have a real hard time conversing in noisy rooms, in echoing hallways, in rivers, underwater, and when I am hanging upside down, by my toes, bound and gagged, and my ears plugged with hot wax.

Talking about ear wax... but hey, even I need to shut up sometimes. And this seems to be a nice, cozy, cool and shady spot to do so.

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Tue 06/05/12 08:44 AM
Edited by wux on Tue 06/05/12 08:46 AM
My "girlfriend" is 81, and my uncle is 87. They are both very deaf. Uncle wears his earpiece, and you can converse with him. The girlfriend is either too proud, or too vein, or too cruel, to wear hers, and you need to scream at her when talking. This tires me out, also the fact I have to tell her everything five times. The worst is that she likes my sense of humour, but she no longer laughs at my jokes, coz she can't hear them.

I put quote marks around the word "girlfriend" becaue she is the last and only one standing in this world who still bears it all for me. Sex is out, we both have our respective disgusting problems. I have hydrocele, she has a womb that comes out of hiding in its tunnel once in a while, I guess in order to get a quick glimpse of the real world. On top of that, if we want to have fun, then we have to do it behind the back of her true and real boyfriend, and he's jealous. So she is not really my girlfriend, but of all women in my life right now, she's lightyears ahead of the competition when it comes to intimacy and getting phyisical. Just saying, and I don't know why I am saying.

josie68's photo
Wed 06/06/12 04:15 AM
My son is deaf, we used Auslan when he was small, now he reads lips and talk pretty well.
Good luck on mingle

markc48's photo
Thu 06/07/12 06:06 PM
I can only hear out of one ear. But I have selective hearing.laugh

Queene123's photo
Thu 06/07/12 06:32 PM
i cant totally say that i am
but i do wear hearing aids
do to a health issue that causes my hearing loss

i have a birthdefect that i didnt know i had untill 7yrs ago
which is called lawerence beild moon syndrome
and it effects each person in a different way
it does cause issue with the kidneys as well with hearing loss
not with all but with many

when my son was little he also wore hearing aids for his ear loobs were small
so we took sign languge courses for a while
only know a few signs..


SeekforBride's photo
Fri 06/08/12 06:18 AM

i cant totally say that i am
but i do wear hearing aids
do to a health issue that causes my hearing loss

i have a birthdefect that i didnt know i had untill 7yrs ago
which is called lawerence beild moon syndrome
and it effects each person in a different way
it does cause issue with the kidneys as well with hearing loss
not with all but with many

when my son was little he also wore hearing aids for his ear loobs were small
so we took sign languge courses for a while
only know a few signs..




You should take ASL fully for three years because of your hearing loss. It will get harder for you to communicate with other Hearing people and with your son. Sure, lipreading is fine but how much percentage do you get? I am not against oralism but a back up plan.

SeekforBride's photo
Fri 06/08/12 06:23 AM


I am Deaf. Can talk very well and read lips though and I use ASL, PSE, SEE, and Central American Sign Language (Costa Rican).

What about you? any of you Deaf, HOH, CODA, Late Deafness, etc?


I have normal hearing, but have trouble understanding some expressions when I hear them uttered by highly-pitched voices (females only) such as "no" and "don't".

Seriously speaking, I have very good hearing, but have a lot of trouble understanding unclear human speech. Also, because my ears are the opposite to "sticking out", as they lie flat onto my skull, (this is no joke) I have trouble understanding my conversation partners. This is so, because my ear does not collect the voice of my conversation vis-a-vis right in front of me, the air waves that leave his mouth go past my ears, they don't get captured. (Most earlobes on mammals act simlarly to radar cups on radar antennas: you've seen dogs turn their ears, even when their eyes are closed and lying down, or cats, whatever; they tune their "radar" to the proper direction to be facing the source.) Then if there is ambient noise, it has a better chance of being heard by me, since it comes from all directions. So I have a real hard time conversing in noisy rooms, in echoing hallways, in rivers, underwater, and when I am hanging upside down, by my toes, bound and gagged, and my ears plugged with hot wax.

Talking about ear wax... but hey, even I need to shut up sometimes. And this seems to be a nice, cozy, cool and shady spot to do so.


I know what you mean with when people speaking words that sounded alike. Like but and butt. That is why I prefer they talk slower and face to face when talking. I dislike when people covers their mouths and or turn away from me. I do not like group conversation at all. I avoid those. I am more of one on one basis kind of guy.

Wow, this is new to me about your ears. I kind of figured out a long time ago why it is shaped that way. It is to capture the viberations of sounds and it bounced toward the eardrum. Without it, it will distort. I can understand that.

SeekforBride's photo
Fri 06/08/12 06:26 AM

My "girlfriend" is 81, and my uncle is 87. They are both very deaf. Uncle wears his earpiece, and you can converse with him. The girlfriend is either too proud, or too vein, or too cruel, to wear hers, and you need to scream at her when talking. This tires me out, also the fact I have to tell her everything five times. The worst is that she likes my sense of humour, but she no longer laughs at my jokes, coz she can't hear them.

I put quote marks around the word "girlfriend" becaue she is the last and only one standing in this world who still bears it all for me. Sex is out, we both have our respective disgusting problems. I have hydrocele, she has a womb that comes out of hiding in its tunnel once in a while, I guess in order to get a quick glimpse of the real world. On top of that, if we want to have fun, then we have to do it behind the back of her true and real boyfriend, and he's jealous. So she is not really my girlfriend, but of all women in my life right now, she's lightyears ahead of the competition when it comes to intimacy and getting phyisical. Just saying, and I don't know why I am saying.


Oh boy. Um... I do not know what to say. Have you considered looking for another one and not go with this "girlfriend" of yours.

SeekforBride's photo
Fri 06/08/12 06:34 AM

My son is deaf, we used Auslan when he was small, now he reads lips and talk pretty well.
Good luck on mingle


That is great! Great assets to use in this Hearing World. I do read lips and talk very well. Thanks to my mom and my pre-school Deaf. I first spoke at age 2.5 years. Pretty late for someone like me because of no hearing aids till 2.5 years.

Congrats on your finding someone from here and your marriage! Sure, we can be friends. Feel free to ask me any questions in here (or if you want more private, let me know).

Your husband is one lucky guy to marry a very attractive woman! You are beautiful! Got a sister? Hahhaa! Wink!

Thanks! I used to be on Mingle some time ago but no one showed interest and had bad experiences in here (fighting and disagreements in forums). This time, hopefully with new group of singles in here, it might help better.

SeekforBride's photo
Fri 06/08/12 06:35 AM

I can only hear out of one ear. But I have selective hearing.laugh


Ha, sometimes we Deaf people DO want to be Deaf, literally without our hearing aids by turning it off. It is unfair to Hearing people. Really. I admit I do that too.

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Fri 06/08/12 10:23 AM

but of all women in my life right now, she's lightyears ahead

Lightyears ahead? So generally speaking, she's dead. No? Kidding

josie68's photo
Fri 06/08/12 06:15 PM


I can only hear out of one ear. But I have selective hearing.laugh


Ha, sometimes we Deaf people DO want to be Deaf, literally without our hearing aids by turning it off. It is unfair to Hearing people. Really. I admit I do that too.


laugh laugh laugh
My son will often turn his hearing aid off if someone is nagging him, or his brothers and sisters are annoying him, they hate it.
They hate it even more if he reads their lips when they are talking about something they don;t want him to hear.noway

SeekforBride's photo
Fri 06/08/12 06:28 PM



I can only hear out of one ear. But I have selective hearing.laugh


Ha, sometimes we Deaf people DO want to be Deaf, literally without our hearing aids by turning it off. It is unfair to Hearing people. Really. I admit I do that too.


laugh laugh laugh
My son will often turn his hearing aid off if someone is nagging him, or his brothers and sisters are annoying him, they hate it.
They hate it even more if he reads their lips when they are talking about something they don;t want him to hear.noway


Hahaha. I forgot to mention. Does he turns his head? Deaf people tend to do that too because they do not want to see anybody signing.

Ladywind7's photo
Fri 06/08/12 07:24 PM
My mother was deaf and mostly mute. She was born that way. She read lips and used sign language. waving

teadipper's photo
Fri 06/08/12 07:32 PM
I talk really fast and have had several deaf friends who read lips so I have to be reminded to slow down but NOT slow motion, just down to regular and I have a hard time with it. I used to know a little ASL and the alphabet, etc. but not anymore. It's been years. My brother's friend used to come over (as an adult) with his daughter to translate so we had to keep everything PG. LOL. Thankfully it was all about computers and music and art (common in my family).

You would be amazed at who uses the internet. I have two very close friends that are totally blind. One is a Mac person. The other is a PC person.

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Fri 06/08/12 09:38 PM
Hi, Welcome back to Mingle. Lot of the bice folks hung around and many new ones. My alma mater was about 60%+ deaf or hearing impaired. Signed almost all classes and school activities when I was there but now my hearing impaired son has gotten out on his own I have gottne pretty rusty on the ASL. Wondering how texting is effecting the spread of ASL in the younger crowd.

Mac2222's photo
Tue 10/27/20 01:37 PM
I am deaf person

Cutiepieforyou's photo
Tue 10/27/20 02:53 PM
I have friends who are deaf and taught me a little sign language.

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Tue 10/27/20 04:32 PM
Edited by SparklingCrystal 💖💎 on Tue 10/27/20 04:33 PM
My hearing is okay so far, but I do have tinnitus. Have had that for some 10 yrs. Both the noise/static sound and the ringing.

The only experience I have with deaf people is a deaf pupil when I was a teacher and a client in our shop at the time who often came to buy.
My mother dealt with him as I couldn't bear it. He seemed incredibly rude as he spoke so loud it was more like shouting. In a way it scared me. Later on I found out he was deaf.
But what I find very difficult is that as far as I've experienced deaf people tend to have very little facial expression. I find that difficult as I'm a feeling-personal and it makes them come across as cold/aloof/uncaring.
Just goes to show just how much body language is part of communication as no facial expressions throw me of course. Like you're having to guess what's going on.'

Same btw with a colleague I once had. She could hear a little, with hearing aid, but it wasn't much. Communication with her was hard, you had to speak slower, repeat things a lot, and again that no facial expression thing.

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