For those that know, know I went through a major drama with my family a year and a half ago. I have been in a drama with them and staying near because I felt i needed support going through the medical conditions with my children. Well they kind turned on me like rabid dogs. Recntly, I posted that my daughter gave birth and I am a grandma. She called my son a liar about what happened then got mad and said my friends told her I was a drunk and a whore. Which absolutely, isnt true, my friends would never say something like that so. i talked to my friends last night that were appalled at what my daughter said. My friend texted her and asked to never say anything like that using her name again. That jesus loves her and if she needed someone to talk to to call her......I just dont know if I can repair my relationship with her. My parents have her brain washed. I dont know what to do.

I'll keep you and your family in my prayers. Sometimes all we can do is the best we can. @>-->----

You are in my prayer!

I wanted to let you know that GOD loves you so do I. I myself is having a problem that is simlar with my daughter. I wasn't alowed to see mt new grandaughter who was just born. I haven't talked to her in over a month an the way it looks it will be years.An we were very close since I was the only parent she had. It hurts like He== but I keep on praying.Sometimes you just have to let go.You have done all that you could raisen her. Now that she is grown she has to do this herself.I have found out that family will hurt us quicker an harder than anyone else. If you need to chat hit me up anytime.You are in my prayers.

Thanks!!! and thank you to everyone that posted it means alot.....she just really hurt me.....I hung up b4 she could hear me cry. I wouldn't give her the satisfaction.

I don't know your family or anything, but I don't think it would satisfy her to see you cry. I do hope things get better and your family is able to heal from what ever it is that's been happening.

hi!im sorry you have to go through that, just bear in mind that she is family,and not an enemy, in life, things like this happens, and will definitely hurt, but it will soon cool down and situation changes,.ive never met anyone who can stay angry for years,just avoid saying things that will do more damage,.theres always that mother-daughter bond that never fails,trust me...meanwhile,.let her be, and love yourself more..and thank God for second chances...peace!

my family can hold grudges for life.......I have seen it happen......I do not think my aunt and uncle go near each other ever......and there are more.....related to the hatfields and mccoys i am sure......well my dad's side is from Charleston, WV anyways I should trace my history

my aunt has been holding a grudge towards my mom for yrs
my oldest nephew when he was 11yrs old( hes now 32yrs)
said something about my aunt and stated she was a nag ( which is true)
and she wasent happy.. she had expected my mom to appoligize to her
but that wasent my mom fault or doing and i dont feel my nephew owned her even that..

If I could go back in time I might have an abortion

Surely you don't mean that. There's certainly a lot of pain and suffering going on, but I don't think you really feel that way.

Oh sweety,please try not to hold on to all the hurt!
If I had known the hurt I was going to have with my kids,I would of stuck to just having pets! But I would not trade them for nothing.

Sorry you are having such a hard time at present Seakolony, but try to remain positive and I'd advise writing letters to both your daughter and your son.

Write about the past, what you were feeling, why those decisions were made, and that of course, you love them both, and will continue to do so, for that is something that cannot be taken away..

Obviously show you want to be part of your new granddaughter's future, and it is great news for all, but that you want to help your daughter and son as well.

Maybe look to build up your relationship again by meeting for coffee, though try to refrain from giving advice unless its asked for, as it me be interpreted as criticism instead.

Congratulations on the good news again and be positive that you'll get to meet her in the near future..

P.S. Wolfchic, your pets inform me that they agree with your initial assessment lol..

no you wouldnt
for you would had felt very guilty
i been there... i had abortion when i was 16yrs old
and still totally regret it
i didnt know why i was depressed for yrs
and i learned i was going through post abortion syndrome

when i got pg with my daughter
my mom was trying to convince me to have abortion
the doc that i saw had 3 abortions before she was 19
i was 19yrs old when i had my daughter...
she 29yrs old now and i also have 4 grandkids

and when i got pg with my son everyone
including his dad was talking about abortion (not the doc)
i walked away from his dad and he came running after me 3weeks later
reaizing his mistake

my son is a speical needs child hes 25yrs old with a mind capcaity of a 12yr old.. but hes my pride and joy

That is an absolutely HORRIBLE thing to say! Makes one wonder. Know what I'm sayin

Shouldn't the "mother" be the bigger of the two

Ya know Sea (and I have no kids so take this
for what it is worth) I have heard this sentiment
at one time or another from every mother I know.
NO one can hurt you like the ones you love.

You also have a right to your feelings.
I see how upset you are by what you say.
Methinks talking it out loud helps.
The only one that can judge the sitch,
is you, no one else has the right.

Time and separation can help.
Giving yourself all the attention you might
lavish elsewhere.

Make the attempts, but don't let them crush
you if they do not take.
You're a great girl, you must know this, don't
let anyone diminish you.

I am so sorry for what you are going through. The parent-child relationship is the hardest of all. Peace and love to you during this very difficult time.

Even a mother can vent angrily to get it out and make herself capable of being the bigger person in real life......there are days you just get angry and it makes you feel better to let loose something nasty in a place thats anonymous than hold anger and let it build into a grudge. To judge anothers anger means that you do not hold any anger and that to me is fake. I am an emotional being and I feel and have the right to vent no matter how you feel about my anger. You do not have to like me as a person but say I do not know you and do not judge your person in any way. You have every right to feel what I had to say ugly and it was. Ugly got rid of ugly without saying it to my daughter. The people taht know me know the situation. A wounded animal strikes out when wounded. Are not homosapiens animals too? Do they not have release and defense mechanisms on coping skills for each situation?? Peace, love and respect......SeaKonly out!!

I agree. Much better to post nasty feelings on an internet forum and allow it to be released so that you may move one, rather than hurt your daughter by venting it to her, causing even more pain and issues. I think you made a wise decision to vent it here instead.

I really hope that it has helped.