Interesting. I would throw in some onions.......

How are you, sis ?

In private I do, but on the forums it's too close to the word opinions.

^^ opinions add a biter taste at times




just cruisin how are you?

I was mingle nudging & broke my nudger.

I mostly prefer more lighthearted threads as people do tend to get argumentative in proving their side in the serious ones. I'm all for different opinions as long as people don't try to make their opinion right and anyone who disagrees with them, wrong.

I try to understand people but often times what they write isn't exactly what they mean and I'm no mind reader. That's another point FOR the silly threads, not much explanation is needed.

"Do you try to understand what people are saying, or take what they say without question?"

Many times I think people are making an opinion and there is really no need to take it further. By taking it further it is inviting an argument/debate environment that doesn't need to happen. In an open public forum there is a time to say stop because of the site's rules. The questions may fit a lot better if all were gathered in the same room talking but not in a forum atmosphere. I've noticed that when someone doesn't understand someone else in threads here many times it turns into a pointing of figures as if someone was right and someone was wrong. The problem with this is most times it is only a difference of opinion and should have never gotten to the point of blame.

When people get their figure of blame out they start to paint a picture for everyone to see knowing that the mods are going to step in and penalize someone for taking it too far. In those cases it is not the person making their opinion with the most reasonable answer that wins, it's the one that has manipulated things enough to make the other person noticeably mad.

Social sites are cool but I have noticed there are lines and boundaries that need to be followed as common courtesy in regard to the rules of forums. Some people on forums ask questions and others seem to come on forums to provoke responses that lead to an argument. Being aware of this it helps to discern if a question is more of a probe to bait and not really a question at all or is it a legitimate question. It's an open forum so it is easy to say I'm innocent in this, but in reality there is a dig just below the surface. It takes a while for a forum member to see this and when they do they need to make a decision whether or not to answer the question. Their thinking if I answer it I will be probed to the point of defending myself, if I don't answer it I will be accused of being something I'm not for all to see.

So for myself I'm learning to make an opinion and not so much a question that may lead to a thread being derailed into the realm of heated debate and blame casting.

How do you prefer to use these forums?

Do you participate in all different forums, or just specific ones?

Do you just chat with friends, or do you try to get to know new people?

Do you prefer to participate in discussions that go back and forth quite a bit and can be more serious, or do you like light hearted threads better?

Do you try to understand what people are saying, or take what they say without question?

Ah, now it's a bit more clear. You are assuming that if you explain your opinion, it's going to turn into an argument. No worries. Just keep in mind, if you refuse to answer, there's no need to try and insult the person asking, or make it seem like they're doing something wrong.

Welllll...i put my left foot in, then put my left foot out, put my left foot in and i shake it all about. Do the mingle mingle and i turn around, and hope i don't wind up with me foot in me mouth...or if i am unfortunate enough to have that happen, then i'll try my hardest not to hurt anybody trying to get the damn thing out